How Long??? (Since You Had Sex With Your Wife)

It’s been how long since you had sex with your wife??? It’s the shameful story running over and over in your head and it’s eating away at your confidence. You’re feeling more and more frustrated and desperate every day this goes on…I get it brother, I’ve been there too.

It’s 6:30am.

You’ve been having some sexy dreams…or not.

But still you’re waking up with that all too familiar hot rush of desire coursing through your veins. It’s undeniable. It’s irrepressible.

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There is NO going back to sleep.

And you’re starting to think how long it’s been since you’ve been touched.

Your mind is racing with opposing forces.

Intense desire. And nagging resentment.

You want to start rubbing her back. You want to be slow and gentle.

You’re tentative with the fear of rejection or being rebuffed with an exasperated sigh or criticism. You begin to EXPECT her to move away and judge you harshly.

By now your pulsing desire is fading as intense sadness…and then…anger fills your thoughts.

And now it’s 6:35am.

And you’re “horngry” as hell.

Similar to being “hangry” (hunger driven anger), we may feel “horngry” when we experience anger as a result of intense sexual desire.

Most men first coming into the GG2GM community forums know exactly what I’m talking about.

They use phrases like, “Another crappy morning…I need help!” or “I lost my sh*t tonight…I need to stop this!”

But let’s be honest with each other here. We both know your anger isn’t simply about being horny. It’s about much more.

I explain this more deeply in this video.

Here’s the REAL Issue

First, I won’t try to tell you that sex is unimportant.

I will not try tell you it’s wrong to be a passionate, sexual man with a healthy, hot-blooded sex drive.

And I won’t try to convince you to stop desiring an emotionally intimate and physically sexual relationship.

I don’t believe any of those things are true or necessary.

I know rejection hurts. I know how it feels to be treated like a monster for just wanting a kiss goodnight.

And I know how intense those 6:30am mind monkeys can be as they spin you into an angry lather before you know it.

But the problem really isn’t what SHE is thinking about you.

It’s what YOU are thinking about you.

It’s not just that we believe we’re seen as an unattractive, undesirable and unlovable person…it’s that we believe it just might be true.

We don’t help men by letting them blame women for not wanting sex.

We don’t help men by telling them to lower their expectations.

And we don’t help men by telling them their desires are wrong

We help you by connecting you with a much deeper sense of personal value, sexual healthiness and emotional confidence.

We directly address the secret fear and shameful suspicion that you just might actually be unattractive, undesirable or unlovable.

Spoiler alert.

You’re not. You’re actually just fine.

And it’s critically important for you to understand that and WHY your brain has been tricked into thinking so.

Once you flip this switch in your head, you instantly feel calmer.

Less reactive. Less resentful.

Less “horngry”.

THIS is where you want to be so you can get to the next step of your growth. It’s insanely liberating.

Learning how to manage “horngriness” is one the most important keys to improving your self-respect, self-confident and overall ATTRACTIVENESS in every sense of the word.

If you’re a man who wants to have that, I want to invite you into my tribe. It’s the best place for a man who wants to find a more CONSISTENT STATE OF CONFIDENCE and more SEXUAL SELF-RESPECT.

Two of the most powerful groups of men you can join are the:

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We love teaching men these tools – how to be better, how to know who you are, what you stand for, what you want and how to CREATE it in your life through our Masculine Confidence coaching programs.

What if this next year everything changed for you?

That’s what we want for you brother.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on many television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels discussing the coaching and psychology factors relating to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides personal, practical, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats, group coaching and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and the right mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor for men who teaches his clients how to discover their masculine strength so they can confidently take the actions required to create the life and relationships that they really want. With over 10 years experience he has created thousands of videos and articles for well known relationship websites such as The Good Men Project, Medium and the Gottman Institute.
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