How To Create The Marriage You Really Want This Year

Let me give you something else that could be immensely more useful to you as you stare yet another new year in the face.

Someone recently told me they seek me out for my “aged wisdom”.

They hoped I could give them some guidance to help them avoid some of the potholes of life in which I’ve already stepped.

I’ve decided to not take the word “aged” personally and I will give you my best single piece of wisdom.

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Like most other wisdom, this is not original. It’s repackaged and regurgitated in my own special way.

Maybe my way of saying it will resonate with you.

This could possibly make 2021 your best year ever.

My best year ever was 2012. That was until 2013 came along…and so on and so on after that.

Here is what I’ve learned and what you should know.

Don’t settle for anything less than the “magic” in life.

What the hell does that mean?

If you’re on this email list you’re probably not too motivated by “get rich quick” schemes or accumulating more “things” to make you happy.

You’re here because you are already a deep thinking, intensely feeling, emotionally intelligent and compassionate man.

You might cry in a split second watching a powerful movie scene.

You see magic and wonder in laughing kids and puppies.

And while you bury yourself in the work of keeping busy to pay the bills and feed your lifestyle…you quietly yearn for more “magic”.

Guys like us secretly crave the magic of a personal and spiritual connection with others…especially our romantic partners.

Guys like us hide behind our outward displays of strength, intelligence and competence when we’re really hungry for the intensity of emotional vulnerability.

Guys like us quietly keep marching to society’s prescription for a good life while we resent ourselves for not taking more bold, passionate risks to create more meaning in our life.

THAT is the kind of “magic” most of us want more of.

The video below introduces my view of the “Happily Divorced Man” and why I think this mindset could actually save your marriage and drastically improve your personal happiness.

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What’s Going to Change in 2021?

One of the clearest articles I’ve ever written described “50 Ways to Be More Like a Happily Divorced Man“. (HDM)

The whole point of the article is that the HDM is a better man, partner and father because he’s lost all the bad habits of an “unhappily married man”.

In this article I outline 50 traits of an HDM that will bring all kinds of magic back into your life in 2021. For example:

They are no longer angry men.

They are not “upset” with women.

They are confident in their own value and don’t need validation from others.

They have amazing, fulfilling conversations with other men and women.

They are calm and deliberate in how they relate to women – and the world.

They really, really like who they are being as a man.

They know they are valuable men of integrity and character. They are a “prize”.

They are massively secure.

….there are 42 more in the article.

I know. It sounds like magic, doesn’t it?

The key to not settling for anything but magic in your life is to start owning and creating your own magic right now.

What magic do you want to create?

Why do you want that?

How will you make it a 2021 focus – with commitment and passion driving you every day?

“Logic only gives man what he needs…magic gives him what he needs.” ~ Tom Robbins

Most of us guys try to use tools, tactics, logic and reasoning to get what we want.

We focus on DOING STUFF to create the changes we want.

But DOING STUFF is totally ineffective when you’re not BEING who you need to be.

It’s like doing all the right steps to train a horse while you’re frustrated and screaming at it.

This is how many of us go through life trying to create what we want.

We follow conventional wisdom and use our SKILL while we remain in the skin of man who has no chance of being effective with those skills.

A blinding light of clarity shines on for the man who learns the difference between manipulating outcomes and staying in a frame that naturally creates good outcomes. And he feels instantly liberated from struggle. ~ me

We’ve created many options for men to join the Goodguys2Greatmen community and our movement to build strong, secure, confident men who get to live the life they want.

If you want to get serious in 2021 about becoming that man, we want to speak with you personally.

We want to spend at least an hour at first to hear your voice, learn about your dreams and coach you through some of the barriers in front of you.

On this call we can offer you immediate tips to change what’s happening in your life now. This will make you feel calmer…cooler…and more relaxed and measured every day over the next few weeks.

We can give you details about the options you have for going deeper in 2021 to transform yourself and current reality.

At the end of the call we fully expect you to say what other men have said.

“Damn, this felt better than a year of counseling! I can’t believe someone really listened to me and understands exactly who I am and where I am!”

How do you set up this call?

Simple.

Fill in the application for your free consultation call here. We want to know some things about you first and will schedule the call right away. You will be matched up with either to me or one of my certified coaches around the world.

You’re not alone brother. I promise.

Frequently Asked Questions


Is our coaching right for you?

Our coaching process was created for men who want to feel happier and more fulfilled in their life and relationships. We teach you how to have more confidence and clarity about what you want in your life and create an action plan to start making it happen.

Do you only work with men in marriage?

While our coaching teaches you how to create a more connected, more fun and passionate marriage, we also work with you to have more clarity, enthusiasm and fulfillment in all areas of your life. We help you understand what you really want your future to look like and we also teach you how to be in control of your emotions so that you can be confident and assertive no matter how difficult your circumstances are right now .

What happens in the free 90-minute coaching call?

In our free initial coaching calls, we listen a lot, we ask you questions to understand what life is really like for you at the moment, we help you identify what you want to be different and what's holding you back from creating those changes now. Then we help you create a practical plan of action to start moving forward straight away.

What will I learn in your coaching programs?

We take you through a process to:

  • Stop being tentative and become more focused and directed.
  • Develop control over your thoughts and emotions like never before.
  • Become a master of the masculine and feminine dance required for a more passionate connection in your romantic relationships.
  • Build and sustain your personal masculine confidence so that you don't get "triggered" or feel disrespected and can respond with strength and confidence to any situation.
  • Become more connected, aware and present with everyone (this is a critical step in your ability to build attraction and desire as well as have people trust you and respect you more).
  • Stop the destructive emotions of anger and resentment which keep you going around in frustrating cycles and start from moving forward with purpose.
  • Stop being anxious, needy and overly reliant upon other people's opinions and approval of you and start feeling more peace, happiness and a deep sense of being a man who is confident in himself again.
  • You will become a confident man who knows his values, what he wants and where he’s going in his life.
  • You will learn how to think, speak and act according to your values without worrying about reactions from others.
  • You become clear and confident in your ability to create intimacy whenever you want.
  • Your confidence will be something that you start to rely on and trust in every part of your life.

How does the Men's Roundtable work?

Our Men's Roundtable membership gives you access to 3 live group coaching calls per month hosted by Steve and Dan as well as access to over 5 years of previously recorded group coaching calls, an invitation to our private facebook group, and ongoing assignments and resources to help you grow and develop as a confident masculine man. It's like having a personal coach in your pocket, ready to help whenever you need it.

What's the difference between the 1-to-1 coaching and group coaching?

Firstly, anyone who is in our 1-to-1 coaching program automatically receives access to the Men's Roundtable membership and group coaching for free for life. The difference between 1-to-1 and group coaching is down to the speed of change that you want to happen. With more personal time and attention from your coach, the 1-to-1 program is adapted to your specific circumstances and will provide the practical advice you need to know what to think, say and do to create what you want your future to be.

What kind of man is right for your coaching?

We work with men who are willing to take the lead in creating the changes they want in their life and relationships. We only work with men who want to understand their fears, insecurities and shame triggers. We teach you practical ways to deal with the mental and emotional challenges life throws at you and help you reach an unshakeable confidence in yourself (often for the first time in your life).

  • You won’t find negative, hateful language.
  • You won’t find a gender war – we don’t bash women.
  • You won’t find bitching, whining, complaining, and blaming.
  • You won’t find a group of men acting like victims.
  • You won’t find judgment or criticism from others.

We don't waste our time with all those things because we want to take the most efficient and effective path to creating the future you want. So we focus only on the things that are within your control: your thoughts, your words and your actions.

How do I know if I need coaching?

If you are feeling unhappy a lot of the time, if you're lonely, drained, lost, stuck or trapped, then our coaching will help. If you're not sure where your life is headed, if you're not confident in yourself, if you're not sure what you really want in life anymore...our coaching will help.

Whether it’s your job, your intimate relationship, or just wanting to feel more happy and with more purpose, then our coaching will help.

If you are tired of settling for a mediocre life or relationship, tolerating criticism and a lack of fun and intimacy and you're done with placating and playing it safe, then our coaching will help.

We will help you have clarity about what you're REALLY passionate about. We'll get you clear about where you want to be in six months and in six years. We help you figure out what you really want to create vs what other people think you should do.

We help you take action, get unstuck, start moving forward. We help you find what matters instead of just "being busy" in the daily grind. We help you figure out how you're going to get from where you are now to where you want to be.

For many of the guys we work with, they find a peace and a sense of emotional freedom that has them shaking their heads and smiling at how they used to approach life. They feel passionate about life again. They build stronger relationships with the people that matter most to them. They feel satisfied and fulfilled that they have finally found the “right path” forward and life starts to feel fun and inspiring again.

So now you've read that...what do you think? Would YOU like to try some of our coaching for free?

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