No Sex Marriage? Become a Husband With His Confident Swagger Back

My passion for helping men never gets boring.

Every single guy…every single woman…and every single situation is unique.

That’s why “blanket advice” for any given problem is a problem.

Most of the time the solution or response DEPENDS on very nuanced details.

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Still clients call me and email me with urgent questions for some “quick advice”.

Yes, there are a few tried and true tips that apply to almost all situations, like:

Never be baited into stupid arguments about stupid shit

Never let someone get away with abusive or destructive treatment without calling it out directly

Always check your emotional reactions by pausing and being clear about what silly THOUGHT caused that reaction…then RESPOND with deliberate and conscious action

Even those golden nuggets are often misunderstood and misapplied by men all the time.

For example, a client asked me today,

“What should I do when she says I did something to upset her and then she shuts down, disconnects and “stonewalls” against any further communication.”

It depends. What happened? What did you do? How often do you do that? Are you happy with how you handled it? Do you have any clue as to why it upset her so badly?

What if it doesn’t have anything to do with you? What else is going on with her?

And most importantly, “Why are you so tied to her reaction and her approval of you?”

On that last point, in our coaching we  refer to this often and use the image below which we call the Femometer.

Stop being tied to your wife's emotions

This image needs ZERO explanation…except for one thing.

You need to grab a set of bolt cutters and immediately and permanently CUT THE CORD between you and the Femometer.

How do you do that you ask?


You just flip the switch in your brain that makes you realize that you’re already a wildly happy, secure, confident man of tremendous value and humor.

Once the switch is flipped you smile…then you shake your head…then you say, “What a dope I was!”

I’m not making this up. This is actually possible and I see it every single week with men in my program.

And the process of finding that switch is ACCELERATED when you’re able to hear the detailed stories of OTHER MEN and be a part of their process of figuring it out.

And then they get to hear YOUR story. As they see you gaining strength, insight and confidence THEY share in your success.

Your success feeds them and vice-versa.

How do you get involved in a group like that.

Simple, brother.

Join Dan and I in the Men’s Live Coaching Roundtable.

It’s exactly what you need if you want to accelerate your acquisition of emotional strength, confidence in your words and actions and boost to your mojo that’s nothing short of amazing.

We see it every single week.

Arguments stop on a dime. Trust and respect return.

Affectionate smiles return. You’ve detached from the Femometer and feel calm, peaceful and deliberate in your thoughts and actions.

And you become quietly pleased with yourself without being a jerk.

Is this a sales pitch?

Hell yes it’s a sales pitch!

I love what I do. I love watching men transform and become happy, confident men with swagger and a smile. I love helping them stand up tall in their relationship and start becoming the man and partner they have always wanted to be.

That’s what I’m selling.

We believe in what we’re doing and we know how to deliver the results that you’re looking for.

And more importantly, I will believe in YOU more than you may believe in yourself right now. Sometimes that’s all it takes to help a man find that switch and start making exponential improvements.

I have a coach in California named Rich Litvin. He convinced me that investing in myself was non-negotiable. That I will never take any man deeper than I am willing to take myself (or let someone else take me!)

He believed in me at times when I didn’t think I had the courage to believe in myself. And he changed my life.

Why did I just tell you that?

Because I want to do the same for you.

It’s that simple.

Go the this page to read more about our group coaching, the benefits and results you can expect and the pricing.

What if this next year everything changed for you?

That’s what I want for you brother,

We love teaching men these tools – how to be better, how to know who you are, what you stand for, what you want and how to CREATE it in your life through our Masculine Confidence coaching programs.

Dan and I are here to guide you on this mission.

If you want to become a man who knows and trusts himself to create the life and love he wants, apply for a free consultation call with me or Dan. I guarantee you’ll feel a whole lot better by the end of our talk.

Our online course How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb is a deep and intense dive into handling yourself when you hear, “I love you but I’m not in love with you anymore.” Tim Wade and I host monthly live Q&A calls with all the students in this course which includes many other bonuses as well. Find out more here.

My new book Straight Talk Tools for the Desperate Husband will help you to lead yourself and your relationship back to good health. Understand why your partner acts the way she does toward you and learn how to lead your life in the direction you want it to go. You CAN have the relationship you want, fulfilling all your desires while maintaining love and respect.

I wrote a free e-book to help men learn how to lose their fear and be more bold in their marriage to create the love and connection they want. Get The Hard to Swallow Truth About Saving Your Marriage.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on many television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels discussing the coaching and psychology factors relating to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides personal, practical, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats, group coaching and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and the right mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor for men who teaches his clients how to discover their masculine strength so they can confidently take the actions required to create the life and relationships that they really want. With over 10 years experience he has created thousands of videos and articles for well known relationship websites such as The Good Men Project, Medium and the Gottman Institute.

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