The KEY To Improving Intimacy In Marriage

Taking action is the key to improving intimacy in marriage. Masculine energy is proactive, decisive, courageous, bold, forward moving energy. It’s attractive because you have to be willing to take a risk for something you believe in.

It’s time to stop binge-watching all my videos and start doing something. In this article, I compare how binge-watching repair videos didn’t fix my truck. Taking action did. I guarantee you’ll also start getting results when you start taking action.

I need to replace the heater core in my Dodge 2500 truck. It’s leaking smelly radiator fluid onto the carpet and the defroster just fogs up the windshield.

Gotta do it.

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Apparently, this is a really common problem on the 2002 models…along with the self-destructing plastic dashboard on these trucks.

So I did what we all do. I Googled it. Then I watched about 20 videos on the 125 step-by-step procedure for dashboard removal and part replacement and re-installation.

Holy crap. It’s a 6 hour job.

Then I start looking for “options”. I was hoping to find “easier” things like radiator STOP LEAK and other totally ineffective ways to avoid digging into the real problem.

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What am I afraid of, you ask?

  • That I can’t do it.
  • I’ll break something else.
  • I’m concerned I’ll get it apart and can’t get it back together…and then I can’t even drive it to the mechanic?
  • I’ll look stupid.

Maybe I’ll watch 20 more videos and just add radiator fluid and put an absorbent diaper on the floor.

I think about this issue when guys send me emails saying they’ve been binge-watching my videos but never had the nerve to reach out. Even the simple act of sending me an email took months…sometimes years.

Too risky.

I get it. I’ve put off contacting coaches I’ve wanted to work with in the past.

I was afraid:

  • Of trusting them to help me
  • I couldn’t trust myself to follow through to get what I most wanted
  • To face risks

In this video, I want to talk with you precisely about that.

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The KEY To Improving Intimacy in Your Marriage

“The journey starts with a single step—not with thinking about taking a step.”
― Jeff Olson, The Slight Edge: Turning Simple Disciplines into Massive Success and Happiness

The biggest obstacle to a man getting what he wants is to spend too much time thinking about it.

The Masculine KEY To Improving Intimacy In Marriage Is Taking Action

Confidence Is Not A Prerequisite To Taking Action…It’s A Result.

This is why I recommend that you slow way down on the videos and self-help books until you’ve actually implemented ONE IDEA you’ve learned so far.

Don’t get tangled up in self-help hell. 90% of the stuff we read is saying the same thing. This missing link is action.

And if you think your NEXT action step is to talk with someone who can help you, then do it.

There are people who have done what you want to accomplish and it’s not weak to ask them for help. They’ve already made the mistakes necessary to help you avoid them. (which is why I have an appointment with my mechanic on Tuesday).

We do dozens of free consultation calls every month for men who are ready to take the next logical step.

I can make a guarantee for you right now.

I guarantee that the discomfort level of whatever relationship or marriage nightmare you’re experiencing will be reduced from Level 10 to Level 5 in ONE HOUR.

I know this because I know when you speak to someone who has been in your shoes your fear and loneliness level always drops about 50%.

My truck is fixed now. I took action and got a professional mechanic involved. I’ll say this again since 3rd time is the charm: Taking action is the masculine key to improving intimacy in your marriage!  I hear something from men over and over. Men who’ve finally taken action and reached out to me. They all say: “Why didn’t I do this sooner!!”

Click this link to go to the Contact Page on my site.

Take action. Let’s connect.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on well known coachign and psychology television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels related to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides intensely personal, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor who teaches his clients to discover their masculine power, take bold action and create the life they want. He has written articles and guest blogs for numerous relationship and expert websites.

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While our coaching teaches you how to create a more connected, more fun and passionate marriage, we also work with you to have more clarity, enthusiasm and fulfillment in all areas of your life. We help you understand what you really want your future to look like and we also teach you how to be in control of your emotions so that you can be confident and assertive no matter how difficult your circumstances are right now .

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What will I learn in your coaching programs?

We take you through a process to:

  • Stop being tentative and become more focused and directed.
  • Develop control over your thoughts and emotions like never before.
  • Become a master of the masculine and feminine dance required for a more passionate connection in your romantic relationships.
  • Build and sustain your personal masculine confidence so that you don't get "triggered" or feel disrespected and can respond with strength and confidence to any situation.
  • Become more connected, aware and present with everyone (this is a critical step in your ability to build attraction and desire as well as have people trust you and respect you more).
  • Stop the destructive emotions of anger and resentment which keep you going around in frustrating cycles and start from moving forward with purpose.
  • Stop being anxious, needy and overly reliant upon other people's opinions and approval of you and start feeling more peace, happiness and a deep sense of being a man who is confident in himself again.
  • You will become a confident man who knows his values, what he wants and where he’s going in his life.
  • You will learn how to think, speak and act according to your values without worrying about reactions from others.
  • You become clear and confident in your ability to create intimacy whenever you want.
  • Your confidence will be something that you start to rely on and trust in every part of your life.

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Our Men's Roundtable membership gives you access to 3 live group coaching calls per month hosted by Steve and Dan as well as access to over 5 years of previously recorded group coaching calls, an invitation to our private facebook group, and ongoing assignments and resources to help you grow and develop as a confident masculine man. It's like having a personal coach in your pocket, ready to help whenever you need it.

What's the difference between the 1-to-1 coaching and group coaching?

Firstly, anyone who is in our 1-to-1 coaching program automatically receives access to the Men's Roundtable membership and group coaching for free for life. The difference between 1-to-1 and group coaching is down to the speed of change that you want to happen. With more personal time and attention from your coach, the 1-to-1 program is adapted to your specific circumstances and will provide the practical advice you need to know what to think, say and do to create what you want your future to be.

What kind of man is right for your coaching?

We work with men who are willing to take the lead in creating the changes they want in their life and relationships. We only work with men who want to understand their fears, insecurities and shame triggers. We teach you practical ways to deal with the mental and emotional challenges life throws at you and help you reach an unshakeable confidence in yourself (often for the first time in your life).

  • You won’t find negative, hateful language.
  • You won’t find a gender war – we don’t bash women.
  • You won’t find bitching, whining, complaining, and blaming.
  • You won’t find a group of men acting like victims.
  • You won’t find judgment or criticism from others.

We don't waste our time with all those things because we want to take the most efficient and effective path to creating the future you want. So we focus only on the things that are within your control: your thoughts, your words and your actions.

How do I know if I need coaching?

If you are feeling unhappy a lot of the time, if you're lonely, drained, lost, stuck or trapped, then our coaching will help. If you're not sure where your life is headed, if you're not confident in yourself, if you're not sure what you really want in life anymore...our coaching will help.

Whether it’s your job, your intimate relationship, or just wanting to feel more happy and with more purpose, then our coaching will help.

If you are tired of settling for a mediocre life or relationship, tolerating criticism and a lack of fun and intimacy and you're done with placating and playing it safe, then our coaching will help.

We will help you have clarity about what you're REALLY passionate about. We'll get you clear about where you want to be in six months and in six years. We help you figure out what you really want to create vs what other people think you should do.

We help you take action, get unstuck, start moving forward. We help you find what matters instead of just "being busy" in the daily grind. We help you figure out how you're going to get from where you are now to where you want to be.

For many of the guys we work with, they find a peace and a sense of emotional freedom that has them shaking their heads and smiling at how they used to approach life. They feel passionate about life again. They build stronger relationships with the people that matter most to them. They feel satisfied and fulfilled that they have finally found the “right path” forward and life starts to feel fun and inspiring again.

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