I Don’t Feel Loved Or Wanted In My Marriage

Are you struggling with a sense that you don’t feel loved in your marriage? Do you want more fun, more laughter, more togetherness and passion in your relationship?

There’s a common misconception that plagues many marriages around how to get more of what you want in your relationship.

A relationship reaches stalemate when both parties sit waiting for the other to do something. When the true man comes out, he gives his high regard and love without expectations. He gets more love from his wife by BEING bold, shameless and vulnerable with the love he gives.  A husband who thinks his WIFE needs to be something before he can HAVE something will never get what he wants. This article is a little different. I want to share how abundantly love has come back to me as a result of putting love out there! I can assure you what you put out will come back.

I was in a goofy mood when I sat down to write this.

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Warning: In the video I talk about sending away “box tops” and such and you may think I’m an alien if you’re under 50.

Anyway, I’ve been getting really cool stuff in the mail lately.

I mean personal stuff wrapped in packages by other people.

Not Amazon boxes. Personal packages. Brown paper, tape and magic marker type packages!

I get a warm feeling knowing other people would take the time to send me stuff.

Old fashioned? Maybe. But it feels good.

In the old days you would have to cut out a form from a magazine or off a cereal box and send away for stuff. And then they would send stuff back!

I feel a little guilty I didn’t send away anything to earn the stuff people sent me.

And when I got this cool West Ham United football (soccer) cap from a friend in England yesterday, it made me want to talk more about that. (and I promised him I would wear it on a video)

So, I did. Watch the video below,

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What Are You Sending Out Into Your Life & Relationships?

Giving and Getting

I think there’s a broader message here.

We talk about it all the time in our private Facebook groups.

Whenever someone says, “I’m not getting enough!”, we always ask, “What have you been giving?”

Most men in a struggling relationship can agree on a few things they want MORE of.

They want more appreciation. More affection. More passion. More fun. More respect. More connection. More trust.

That’s the stuff that makes relationships really worthwhile.

But one thing I’ve learned to be an important – and probably ancient – TRUTH is this:

We Can Only Receive What We Want To The Extent That We Are Giving It

If you’re anything like me, you might be a DOER.

A DOER does things. And he thinks that by “doing” things he will get want he wants in return.

He goes to work, makes money, fixes cars, mows the lawn and DOES just about anything he needs to in order to GET what he wants.

But that stuff isn’t a “fair trade” for more appreciation, affection, passion and fun!

The only way to create more of that stuff in a relationship is to be cool, calm and consistent in giving that stuff.

Men Who Are Generous With Love Get More Love

So, the question becomes, “What are you giving away lately?”

I know. It’s a weird conundrum.

Sometimes the last thing you want to do is give more when you feel starved for the things you want most. The key is learning how to be OUTCOME INDEPENDENT and why it’s the liberating secret sauce to your daily sense of happiness. More love comes back when more love goes out. It’s the hallmark of every happy, secure, mature, masculine man.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on many television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels discussing the coaching and psychology factors relating to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides personal, practical, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats, group coaching and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and the right mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor for men who teaches his clients how to discover their masculine strength so they can confidently take the actions required to create the life and relationships that they really want. With over 10 years experience he has created thousands of videos and articles for well known relationship websites such as The Good Men Project, Medium and the Gottman Institute.
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