The Simple Truth To More Sex In Your Marriage

Are you making this one massive mistake that can ruin your sex life?

This isn’t complicated.

Constant bickering creates a simmering, resentful energy that will kill your sex life.

This bickering can only occur when two or more people participate.

You have the absolute power to not participate.

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Just stop arguing.

When you stop, most of your arguments will stop.

Period.

Now. Go have some sex.

What About Her?

I don’t care about her right now. I want to help you.

She isn’t making you argue. You’re choosing to argue.

Ninety percent of your disagreements are over stupid things. Things which require no argument. Probably not even a discussion.

I know how they start too. I’ve been in your shoes.

There’s a certain tone of voice that makes your hair stand on end. Or there’s a snarky comment with implied criticism. Or there’s a prying question that makes you want to snap.

You will either react the same old way you always do and get into another pointless argument…or you can decide right now that you’re sick and tired of reacting.

You would rather respond in a way that stops the negativity dead in its tracks.

But you don’t know how to do that exactly.

The Massive Mistake: Overreacting

Overreacting in your relationship is like poison.

This is probably the first and most important thing I help men understand.

You know the wisdom of this intuitively, don’t you?

You never overreact at work. You’re considered a source of rock solid wisdom and level headed talent. You’re respected for your ability to perform under fire and you’re calm and cool even with looming deadlines.

And you feel pretty good about yourself because of that. You feel confident in your emotions and actions at work which others find immensely admirable. Your mojo is firmly intact.

You’re the typical high-achieving rock star at work who helplessly melts into a messy masculine puddle in front of an unhappy woman at home.

Her unhappiness feels like disapproval, disappointment and judgment. You struggle for a feeling of power and worthiness which causes you to amplify your competitive urge to prove her wrong.

Then you feel a knot in your stomach which makes you raise your voice and dive into 90 minutes of worthless bickering that solves nothing but shutting down the intimacy factory and making you feel like crap.

You’ve overreacted.

And now you’re pissed…not sure if you’re madder at her or yourself. You did it again.

(Note: That was an autobiographical account of about 25 yrs. of my life.)

Why Men Overreact So Quickly

The reason many men react so quickly to their partner’s emotional attacks, criticism and disapproval boils down to two simple things.

Insecurity and fear.

We are not secure in our own sense of value and worthiness.

And we fear the loss of her affection, respect and devotion.

Insecurity and fear make us react to negativity or conflict and they trigger our defense system into overdrive. Emotions dominate our thoughts. We enter battle. And before we know it we’ve said and done things we’re not proud of.

We know that’s not the man we really want to be.

That’s really a much younger version of ourselves doing the talking.

And that little dude really pisses us off.

Why Overreacting Kills Your Sex Life

A mentor of mine put it this way for me once.

When we overreact to women, the youngest part of ourselves is revealed. Our insecure, fearful 13 year old boy comes out to defend himself. He is afraid of being made to feel like he’s not good enough. His only possible reaction is retaliation.

When our 13 year old boy takes over, the man in the room takes a back seat. The man has lost his power.

He’s lost his confidence, self-respect and self-control.

And women don’t want to have sex with the 13 year old boy who remains.

It’s really that simple.

How to Respond Like a Man

When it comes to negativity and conflict it will always serve you best to choose a calm, confident, clear-headed response than to allow your 13 year old boy to react. This will typically diffuse the conflict enough to avoid a major melt down.

You will feel better about yourself…more calm…more confident…more pleased. When you feel this way, you are immensely more attractive.

I’m not talking about accepting toxic, abusive treatment. And I’m not talking about just standing there and taking all the blame.

Responding like a man means seeing the truth about the negativity. It’s about facing it without fear and retaliation. It’s about knowing it probably isn’t all about you anyway.

A mature, masculine response includes calm curiosity. A willingness to listen and discuss. A decision to not argue…even if that’s where she’s trying to take you.

Her complaint may have some validity and it may just be venting. Either way, the best response is a calm, deliberate attempt to understand it and address it…not attack it.

If you disagree with her, then disagree. No argument or apology required.

And if you agree, well then, you’ve got something to work on.

The most important part of responding like a man is thinking the thoughts and taking the action that represents the man you really want to be.

And if you’re not crystal clear about who that is yet, it’s never too late to start figuring it out.

My new book Straight Talk Tools for the Desperate Husband will help you to lead yourself and your relationship back to good health. Understand why your partner acts the way she does toward you and learn how to lead your life in the direction you want it to go. You CAN have the relationship you want, fulfilling all your desires while maintaining love and respect.

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In our free initial coaching calls, we listen a lot, we ask you questions to understand what life is really like for you at the moment, we help you identify what you want to be different and what's holding you back from creating those changes now. Then we help you create a practical plan of action to start moving forward straight away.

What will I learn in your coaching programs?

We take you through a process to:

  • Stop being tentative and become more focused and directed.
  • Develop control over your thoughts and emotions like never before.
  • Become a master of the masculine and feminine dance required for a more passionate connection in your romantic relationships.
  • Build and sustain your personal masculine confidence so that you don't get "triggered" or feel disrespected and can respond with strength and confidence to any situation.
  • Become more connected, aware and present with everyone (this is a critical step in your ability to build attraction and desire as well as have people trust you and respect you more).
  • Stop the destructive emotions of anger and resentment which keep you going around in frustrating cycles and start from moving forward with purpose.
  • Stop being anxious, needy and overly reliant upon other people's opinions and approval of you and start feeling more peace, happiness and a deep sense of being a man who is confident in himself again.
  • You will become a confident man who knows his values, what he wants and where he’s going in his life.
  • You will learn how to think, speak and act according to your values without worrying about reactions from others.
  • You become clear and confident in your ability to create intimacy whenever you want.
  • Your confidence will be something that you start to rely on and trust in every part of your life.

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Our Men's Roundtable membership gives you access to 3 live group coaching calls per month hosted by Steve and Dan as well as access to over 5 years of previously recorded group coaching calls, an invitation to our private facebook group, and ongoing assignments and resources to help you grow and develop as a confident masculine man. It's like having a personal coach in your pocket, ready to help whenever you need it.

What's the difference between the 1-to-1 coaching and group coaching?

Firstly, anyone who is in our 1-to-1 coaching program automatically receives access to the Men's Roundtable membership and group coaching for free for life. The difference between 1-to-1 and group coaching is down to the speed of change that you want to happen. With more personal time and attention from your coach, the 1-to-1 program is adapted to your specific circumstances and will provide the practical advice you need to know what to think, say and do to create what you want your future to be.

What kind of man is right for your coaching?

We work with men who are willing to take the lead in creating the changes they want in their life and relationships. We only work with men who want to understand their fears, insecurities and shame triggers. We teach you practical ways to deal with the mental and emotional challenges life throws at you and help you reach an unshakeable confidence in yourself (often for the first time in your life).

  • You won’t find negative, hateful language.
  • You won’t find a gender war – we don’t bash women.
  • You won’t find bitching, whining, complaining, and blaming.
  • You won’t find a group of men acting like victims.
  • You won’t find judgment or criticism from others.

We don't waste our time with all those things because we want to take the most efficient and effective path to creating the future you want. So we focus only on the things that are within your control: your thoughts, your words and your actions.

How do I know if I need coaching?

If you are feeling unhappy a lot of the time, if you're lonely, drained, lost, stuck or trapped, then our coaching will help. If you're not sure where your life is headed, if you're not confident in yourself, if you're not sure what you really want in life anymore...our coaching will help.

Whether it’s your job, your intimate relationship, or just wanting to feel more happy and with more purpose, then our coaching will help.

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We will help you have clarity about what you're REALLY passionate about. We'll get you clear about where you want to be in six months and in six years. We help you figure out what you really want to create vs what other people think you should do.

We help you take action, get unstuck, start moving forward. We help you find what matters instead of just "being busy" in the daily grind. We help you figure out how you're going to get from where you are now to where you want to be.

For many of the guys we work with, they find a peace and a sense of emotional freedom that has them shaking their heads and smiling at how they used to approach life. They feel passionate about life again. They build stronger relationships with the people that matter most to them. They feel satisfied and fulfilled that they have finally found the “right path” forward and life starts to feel fun and inspiring again.

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