Hey brother,
“When you get to the end zone, act like you’ve been there before”
~ Tom Landry, Vince Lombardi or Bear Bryant
I’ve always loved that quote.
It was in response to the emerging tradition of “End Zone Celebrations” in the U.S. National Football League in the late 1960’s.
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The coaches disliked the childish practice and wanted the players to have a mature, professional and ABUNDANT mindset about getting into the end zone.
I don’t want to argue that topic here. I want to make a bigger point about your sex life.
And I think you know where I’m going with this metaphor.
On the football field those coaches wanted their players to have more self-respect, confidence and emotional mastery without acting like scoring was a big surprise.
They wanted their players to embody the belief and attitude that there is PLENTY MORE where that came from and they know just how it’s accomplished.
With this belief they could be more poised, more relaxed and more focused on the PROCESS of creating more touchdowns.
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What’s this have to do with your sexual satisfaction?
I’ll tell you more in this video.
Sexually Satisfied Men Share These Three Basic Traits
1. High level of self-respect and keen awareness of their masculine value.
2. Unshakable confidence based not in what they know or do, but in who they ARE.
3. Emotional mastery of their sexual nature and sexual desires.
I consider these BASELINE traits because they all require a solid core of inner security and maturity.
You shouldn’t work on ANYTHING ELSE until you’ve acquired a strong core of mature self-respect, secure confidence and mastery of your sexual nature.
When a man is insecure and immature (believe me, I know) those traits are impossible to acquire.
Why?
1. Because his “self-respect” comes across as entitlement and indignation.
2. His confidence comes across as arrogant and controlling.
3. And his unbridled sexual nature causes scary and unpredictable emotional spikes in the form of shame, anger and outbursts.
Our coaching programs and retreats are designed to focus specifically on permanently eliminating those problems. We challenge your stories, your “yeah buts” and all of the rationalizations we make for not being stronger men.
For most of us that requires a SHOCK to our masculine heart so we can change our perspective and start being the self-respecting, confident and sexy man we know we can be.
Advanced Traits in Sexually Satisfied Men
I want you to watch the fun video below.
The male actor is displaying some ADVANCED traits which are possible only after the basic traits are acquired.
In this video he shows:
1. Absolute outcome independence
2. Fearlessness in the face of judgment or rejection
3. Unapologetic sexuality without urgency
4. A clear passion for his personal mission
5. Ability to create sexual tension and polarity
See if you can pick these out when you watch it.
Where are you right now?
I consider this whole journey a mountain with no top.
Could I easily pull off what the guy in the video did?
Hell no!
I don’t have a private plane and I don’t have the calm courage and cojones to invite two ladies I just met to make love over a weekend getaway. (my girlfriend would object as well)
But…it’s a MINDSET and I’m closer to that than I’ve ever been and I’ve got about 30 yrs. of more climbing to do!
That’s what I want for you. I just want you to START THE CLIMB NOW.
I started around my 50th birthday…maybe you’ll have a faster start than I did!
How to Know Where You Stand today?
We’ve created a 12-Point Personal Development Scorecard that can help you answer this question.
This scorecard helps you SCORE YOURSELF on the journey from Good Guy to Great Man in 12 key areas including:
Sex
Productivity
Values
Emotions
Spirituality
Temperament
Health/Fitness
Money
Work
Mission
Women
Social Life
You can access this scorecard for free here.
And once you have your results, you can schedule a free 90 minute coaching session with me, Dan or one of our coaches to discuss what you learnt and how to improve the areas that need work.
No strings. No sales pitches. No timeshare presentation.
We’re here to help you get climbing.
And if you’re ready to start climbing sooner than later, the four opportunities you can take action on below will help SHOCK you into the perspective I’ve been talking about in this email…
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What do I mean by “SERIOUS”?
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- A lack of intimacy of all kinds is serious now and for the long term health of your marriage
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
