The Quickest Way to Being a More Confident Man

There’s a bond that is like no other when two men commit to helping each other, without hiding anything, without holding anything back.

When a man first contacts us he often doesn’t have a certain type of man in his life…

A man he can depend on

A man he can trust

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Someone who sees his qualities AND his weaknesses

Someone who isn’t scared to tell him something he doesn’t want to hear

And so once we start coaching with him, the question he invariably asks is “How can I find other men to do this with?”, “How can I create a mens group of my own?”.

In the video below we discuss:

Why it’s important that you connect with other initiated men
How and where to find them
What to do when you have no idea what to say

When we’re struggling in our lives and relationships, we can find ourselves in a lonely, dark and fearful place and we feel pretty isolated.

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But the truth is that ALL of us have got some things that we’re afraid of. We all have some things in our life that make us feel uncomfortable, that we don’t want to talk about or confront.

We numb the pain with our drug of choice whether that’s alcohol, video games, porn, cigarettes, exercise or whatever.

Sometimes there are things you want to say, that you’ve always wanted to say, but you don’t.

You might have a dream in your mind about what you want to be or what you want to do and the kind of relationship, or the job, or the money you want to make…but you’re not saying it out loud.

We play small and avoid looking in the direction of our discomfort.

We let the fear control our potential.

And the sad thing is that most men never do say what they want to say or make the move toward a new future vision.

But that’s where you need high quality men in your life.

That’s exactly what other men can help you push through.

Because they get it. They feel it too.

They know what you’re going through and they can see the piece you’re missing.

It’s a difficult edge for us to push though. Connecting with men. Really connecting, not just small talk about sports or cars or fishing. Talking openly with someone about what you feel and where you’re struggling.

There’s a reason it feels hard. There’s a reason it feels scary.

And it’s called fear.

Fear of rejection. Fear of being laughed at. Fear of judgement and criticism.
But the truth is, we all feel those feelings of fear.

In fact all those responses you fear above are fearful responses in the person you’re talking to.

Yes, they’re just as fearful as you.

So with all this fear around, how can you get to the point when you’re slowly and surely, pushing yourself outside your comfort zone?

Because that’s where all your growth and opportunities are going to be.

And I’m here to tell you that YOU are one of those men you seek. You have the potential to feel the fear and do it anyway.

You have the power to create the life you want.

And the key is connecting with other men.

Great men who’ve got your back.

A great man can tell you when you need to back off a little. When you need to lean in more. When to push through the difficulties when everything else is telling you to give up.

A great man can help you understand how to make the very smallest little changes in the way you’re showing up, that will have the most exponential impact on your results.

In every area of your life.

It’s amazing when a man makes one small change….everything changes…for the better.

Real change and exponential improvements only happen when we push ourselves into the zone of discomfort.

We have to know when it’s time to take a stand, speak up and risk pissing other people off and we have to know how to respond to situations that might otherwise control our destiny.

This takes a commitment to learning, internalizing and PRACTICING a whole new mindset. New operating principles. Brand new mojo.

And we’ll never find that just in a book, video or podcast. What worked for me is what will work for you. Spending dedicated time with other initiated men and committing yourself to a process of personal change.

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This is how we get the fire back in our belly. This is how our enthusiasm for life is reborn. And there’s nothing else we would rather do than to spend some quality time helping you do that.

We’ve developed a reliable 90-day process that connects you with other amazing men and it doesn’t hurt a bit.

Actually, we end up laughing together more than anything else.

You have to talk to other men, because you DO have a need to talk about this stuff. You need to communicate, to vent and be vulnerable, and talk about your fears.

It’s about the incredible breakthroughs we make when men team up and work together.

It’s about feeling heard and understood maybe for the first time ever.

It’s about that calm, confident, peaceful feeling we get when we see the truth about our masculine power and ability to live what we dream.

And it’s about creating new connections and a support network most men don’t have before they die.

We’ve already got some amazing guys from around the world booked in, You need to meet these guys. And they need to meet you.

We want you to feel like a strong, calm, confident and clear-headed man.

We want you to relax in situations that make normal men crazy.

We want you to grin with the knowledge you’re being who you want to be and you’re creating the life and love you want.

Next step?

Read more about our Mens Cave Group Coaching Program.

Then contact us if you want to get involved.

Is this a sales pitch?

Hell yes it’s a sales pitch!

We love what we do. We love watching men transform and become happy, confident men with swagger and a smile.

We love helping them stand up tall in their relationship and start becoming the man and partner they have always wanted to be.

That’s what we’re selling.

It’s going to follow the SAME 90-Day Masculine Confidence Intensive process we use for our one-on-one clients.

But you get to go through the process with the support of other men like you at ONE THIRD of the investment required for our one-on-one program.

We believe in YOU more than you may believe in yourself right now.

Sometimes that’s all it takes to help a man find that switch and start making exponential improvements.

If you like the sound of understanding who you are and where you’re going better then get in touch – apply for a consultation call. I guarantee you’ll feel a whole lot better by the end of our talk.

You can watch all our videos here and read our blog articles here.

See what life changing results you’re missing out on here.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach

Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on well known coachign and psychology television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels related to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides intensely personal, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor who teaches his clients to discover their masculine power, take bold action and create the life they want. He has written articles and guest blogs for numerous relationship and expert websites.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Is our coaching right for you?

Our coaching process was created for men who want to feel happier and more fulfilled in their life and relationships. We teach you how to have more confidence and clarity about what you want in your life and create an action plan to start making it happen.

Do you only work with men in marriage?

While our coaching teaches you how to create a more connected, more fun and passionate marriage, we also work with you to have more clarity, enthusiasm and fulfillment in all areas of your life. We help you understand what you really want your future to look like and we also teach you how to be in control of your emotions so that you can be confident and assertive no matter how difficult your circumstances are right now .

What happens in the free 90-minute coaching call?

In our free initial coaching calls, we listen a lot, we ask you questions to understand what life is really like for you at the moment, we help you identify what you want to be different and what's holding you back from creating those changes now. Then we help you create a practical plan of action to start moving forward straight away.

What will I learn in your coaching programs?

We take you through a process to:

Stop being tentative and become more focused and directed.
Develop control over your thoughts and emotions like never before.
Become a master of the masculine and feminine dance required for a more passionate connection in your romantic relationships.
Build and sustain your personal masculine confidence so that you don't get "triggered" or feel disrespected and can respond with strength and confidence to any situation.
Become more connected, aware and present with everyone (this is a critical step in your ability to build attraction and desire as well as have people trust you and respect you more).
Stop the destructive emotions of anger and resentment which keep you going around in frustrating cycles and start from moving forward with purpose.
Stop being anxious, needy and overly reliant upon other people's opinions and approval of you and start feeling more peace, happiness and a deep sense of being a man who is confident in himself again.
You will become a confident man who knows his values, what he wants and where he’s going in his life.
You will learn how to think, speak and act according to your values without worrying about reactions from others.
You become clear and confident in your ability to create intimacy whenever you want.
Your confidence will be something that you start to rely on and trust in every part of your life.

How does the Men's Roundtable work?

Our Men's Roundtable membership gives you access to 3 live group coaching calls per month hosted by Steve and Dan as well as access to over 5 years of previously recorded group coaching calls, an invitation to our private facebook group, and ongoing assignments and resources to help you grow and develop as a confident masculine man. It's like having a personal coach in your pocket, ready to help whenever you need it.

What's the difference between the 1-to-1 coaching and group coaching?

Firstly, anyone who is in our 1-to-1 coaching program automatically receives access to the Men's Roundtable membership and group coaching for free for life. The difference between 1-to-1 and group coaching is down to the speed of change that you want to happen. With more personal time and attention from your coach, the 1-to-1 program is adapted to your specific circumstances and will provide the practical advice you need to know what to think, say and do to create what you want your future to be.

What kind of man is right for your coaching?

We work with men who are willing to take the lead in creating the changes they want in their life and relationships. We only work with men who want to understand their fears, insecurities and shame triggers. We teach you practical ways to deal with the mental and emotional challenges life throws at you and help you reach an unshakeable confidence in yourself (often for the first time in your life).

You won’t find negative, hateful language.
You won’t find a gender war – we don’t bash women.
You won’t find bitching, whining, complaining, and blaming.
You won’t find a group of men acting like victims.
You won’t find judgment or criticism from others.

We don't waste our time with all those things because we want to take the most efficient and effective path to creating the future you want. So we focus only on the things that are within your control: your thoughts, your words and your actions.

How do I know if I need coaching?

If you are feeling unhappy a lot of the time, if you're lonely, drained, lost, stuck or trapped, then our coaching will help. If you're not sure where your life is headed, if you're not confident in yourself, if you're not sure what you really want in life anymore...our coaching will help.

Whether it’s your job, your intimate relationship, or just wanting to feel more happy and with more purpose, then our coaching will help.

If you are tired of settling for a mediocre life or relationship, tolerating criticism and a lack of fun and intimacy and you're done with placating and playing it safe, then our coaching will help.

We will help you have clarity about what you're REALLY passionate about. We'll get you clear about where you want to be in six months and in six years. We help you figure out what you really want to create vs what other people think you should do.

We help you take action, get unstuck, start moving forward. We help you find what matters instead of just "being busy" in the daily grind. We help you figure out how you're going to get from where you are now to where you want to be.

For many of the guys we work with, they find a peace and a sense of emotional freedom that has them shaking their heads and smiling at how they used to approach life. They feel passionate about life again. They build stronger relationships with the people that matter most to them. They feel satisfied and fulfilled that they have finally found the “right path” forward and life starts to feel fun and inspiring again.

So now you've read that...what do you think? Would YOU like to try some of our coaching for free?

Have questions about your relationship?

Apply for a free, no strings, 90 minute deep dive personalized coaching session to help you identify what to focus on and what to avoid to get you moving toward the future you want. We offer a unique form of Men's Coaching and we attract smart guys who see through surface level hype and bravado. We hide nothing and hold nothing back. We know that everything you want is behind your fear and skepticism…just like it was for us.