My Wife is Happy Around Everyone Else But Me

Have you ever though to yourself “My Wife is Happy Around Everyone Else But Me” – I recognise this thought too, and the feelings of confusion and frustration that came with it.

I get an email like the one below about twice a week.

Same story. Same question. Different guy.

Hell, I was this guy years ago so I totally get it.

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Here we go.

“Steve, I think my story is probably different from most other guys you talk to. My wife and I mostly get along and we’re not talking about divorce. But she is more like a friend and roommate.

She’s totally checked out of the romantic part of our marriage and says she’s just not interested. I don’t believe her because she absolutely lights up with everyone else but me. She’s more playful, affectionate and happy with everyone (even the dog) than she is with me.

She’s also been spending a lot of time with a mutual friend (a married guy) down the street. She says they are “just friends”, but she seems to put time with him ahead of time with me. She says we don’t have much in common anymore and don’t have a connection.

So…while I don’t think divorce is on the horizon, I NEED HELP of some kind. The thing is, I don’t know what is best for me.

I’m confused about your Masculine Confidence personal coaching program, the Men’s Roundtable group, the Defuse the Divorce Bomb online course and the retreats you offer.

Given my unique situation, what do you think would be the best fit for me? Thanks.”

First of all, let’s forget about what option he needs for a minute.

I want to point out how amusing it is that he believes his situation is unique.

While everyone is special in their own way, we’ve found that the men who contact us have many things in common. It’s scary how often the emails virtually REPEAT themselves.

It’s because of this common bond (and common mistakes) that our community and coaching events are so effective.

We’ve seen it all before and we know the path to getting you through it with strength, confidence…and even a smile on your face.

In this video, Dan will tell you about the common ties that bind all of us.

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The Ties That Bind Us

There is a common set of red flags most men we work with have waving in front of their face.

These are the issues we unravel, unpack and redefine for you so you can finally take yourself and your relationship to the next level.

He thinks things are mostly okay, except for this intimacy thing
She thinks things are mostly not okay, except for daily logistics

He is craving for intimacy of any type
She is resisting all of his efforts to connect

He is working his ass off trying to please her
She is slightly disgusted by his efforts

He is quietly getting resentful and angry
She can read it all over his face

He is secretly burning up inside about this “friend” of hers
She feels totally justified in taking her time and energy somewhere else

Does any of this sound familiar to you?

Are you sick and tired of not knowing what else to try?

Are you about to say “screw it” and throw in the towel?

This stage of your life and relationship has a purpose.

There’s still so much left to learn about yourself, your thinking and how you are responding to all these daily triggers.

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What's the difference between the 1-to-1 coaching and group coaching?

Firstly, anyone who is in our 1-to-1 coaching program automatically receives access to the Men's Roundtable membership and group coaching for free for life. The difference between 1-to-1 and group coaching is down to the speed of change that you want to happen. With more personal time and attention from your coach, the 1-to-1 program is adapted to your specific circumstances and will provide the practical advice you need to know what to think, say and do to create what you want your future to be.

What kind of man is right for your coaching?

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We don't waste our time with all those things because we want to take the most efficient and effective path to creating the future you want. So we focus only on the things that are within your control: your thoughts, your words and your actions.

How do I know if I need coaching?

If you are feeling unhappy a lot of the time, if you're lonely, drained, lost, stuck or trapped, then our coaching will help. If you're not sure where your life is headed, if you're not confident in yourself, if you're not sure what you really want in life anymore...our coaching will help.

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For many of the guys we work with, they find a peace and a sense of emotional freedom that has them shaking their heads and smiling at how they used to approach life. They feel passionate about life again. They build stronger relationships with the people that matter most to them. They feel satisfied and fulfilled that they have finally found the “right path” forward and life starts to feel fun and inspiring again.

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