What To Do When Your Wife Is Giving You Mixed Messages

We regularly run live coaching sessions with guys like you to gather men together, answer questions and give each other some brotherly support.

Sometimes I ask that guys send questions in advance so we can have some topics ready to address.  A big topic recently was about “Limbo Land“. 

He feels in “limbo”…permanently.

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The question was, “Can you give more more insight into what limbo land is, why it happens and what I can do about it?”

I decided to make this week’s video about that question because it seems to be a popular one.

I came up with 5 key signs that you are probably in Limbo Land.  If only one is true, you may just be entering it.  If all 5 are true…no doubt you’re in it up to your neck.

In the video I go into detail about:

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Here’s the cold hard truth about Limbo Land.

You think it’s a place of chronic indecision and uncertainty seemingly created 100% by her.  And you feel like you’re the powerless victim.

It’s your belief that your sense of hope, well-being, happiness and long-term vitality is squarely in her hands.

But what if it’s not?  What if you had the power to think of this differently?

And what would that even look like?

Of course you could just hand her divorce papers and be done with it.  That’s one kind of certainty some men create.  But I want to suggest another to start with.

Brother, you’ve got about 30-40 years ahead of you to live a happy, connected, joyful, meaningful and loving life…surrounded by friends and family who love being with you.  

Do you believe that life is crushed just because your wife is going a little nutty right now?

Do you believe you can’t make any decision and do anything that serves you now until she gives you a sign that you’re okay?

What if right now…at this instant…you simply decided, “Hey, I’m going to live a happy, connected, joyful, meaningful and loving life…surrounded by friends and family who love being with me.”

Yes, you must be outcome independent and detached from the result.

Yes, you must let go of you need to control and your need to know everything.

Yes, I know that sounds impossible to you right now.  But I promise you this.

It’s the quickest way to regain your self-respect and a modicum of mojo.

You’ll start sleeping better and laughing more.  You’ll connect better with your kids and your friends and family.  You’ll be more effective at work.

Your wife may or may not notice. And who cares.  That’s not the point. (she’ll notice, though)

But now you’re being the man YOU want to be and the one she just might be willing to talk to again.

Suddenly the “cold hard truth” doesn’t seem so bad, does it?

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  • We take YOU and your struggles seriously…because we’ve been there
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  • A lack of intimacy of all kinds is serious now and for the long term health of your marriage
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  • We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life

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As Teddy Roosevelt said: 

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” 

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on many television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels discussing the coaching and psychology factors relating to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides personal, practical, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats, group coaching and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and the right mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor for men who teaches his clients how to discover their masculine strength so they can confidently take the actions required to create the life and relationships that they really want. With over 10 years experience he has created thousands of videos and articles for well known relationship websites such as The Good Men Project, Medium and the Gottman Institute.
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