Sex And Marriage

sex advice for men

Now that I have your attention, let’s talk for a minute about sex.

The simple fact is that nearly every sex survey done with men about sex reveals that they wish they had MORE SEX, MORE OFTEN, with MORE VARIETY.  Well no sh*t.  Brilliant.

This fact is why you will find or be bombarded by every self-help “sex guru” in the world with ways to meet women, ways to get sex from women, ways to make them orgasm all night long, ways to last all night long, and ways to get them to do “stuff”.  You may have already spent way too much time looking at porn (yes, I know) and reading the all the latest tips.

The truth is, if that’s all you really want from life and all you expect for yourself, those tips will probably work!  There are tons of Good Guys out there who are floundering in the sea of “Give me more sex and I’ll be happy”.  They spend their lives thinking and worrying about sex as the primary measure of their manhood and of their own happiness.  Their trail ride is an extremely difficult and unsatisfying one.

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The Great Men I know have learned to look at those guys with a shaking head and an extended hand.  With a brotherly compassion and love they want to pull them “from the water”.  They know what they are missing and it isn’t just sex.  Most of those guys don’t accept help.  It appears YOU are different.

One of the reasons Good Guys wind up on this page is because they are realizing something.  As biologically and emotionally IMPORTANT as sex is to them (to ALL of us), they also know it’s not all they want from life.  They want to stop using sex as the only “barometer” of health for their relationship and indicator of their true happiness.  They are realizing that sex in itself has never replaced their desire for a REAL connection.  A connection which also fills their desire for respect, trust, appreciation, and support.  And most importantly, they are beginning to realize it is those same desires they have neglected to satisfy in their woman.  They thought the “committed relationship” would simply result in long-term sex.   But they now realize that the “commitment” they owe their relationship runs much, much deeper.  They want to be the kind of man who lives his life committed to that understanding.

Great Men have learned the CRITICAL difference between WANTING sex and NEEDING sex.  They are unapologetically sexual men who have learned that there is an *inverse relationship* between his  “sex appeal” (aka. attractiveness) and his “sex drive” (aka. horniness).  A high quality man who has grown enough to not NEED sex ends up receiving as much quality sex as he wants.   He is permanetly disinterested in “obligation sex”.   He has committed to creating the environment for his woman which allows her to feel emotionally safe, to trust, to open her mind, heart, and body to him.  It is THIS mutually respectful, unconditionally loving and passionate relationship that the Great Man has wanted all along.

At one point in his life he thought all that mattered was creating opportunities for sex.  YOU will learn that sex is a natural by-product of creating the right environment.  That’s what Great Men do.  They can’t help it.  It’s just who they are.  It’s who YOU will be.

I have watched this happen to EVERY MAN who has committed himself to learning and seeing the truth about himself and his masculinity.  It is the MOST REWARDING form of personal development a man can undertake.  What started as a quest for more and better SEX turned out to be more SELF-ESTEEM, more SELF-RESPECT, stronger EMOTIONAL CONNECTIONS, and THEN an incredible improvement in his SEX LIFE! 

Call or email me today to begin your NO RISK conversation about how this will soon be YOUR STORY to share with other men!

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on well known coachign and psychology television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels related to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides intensely personal, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor who teaches his clients to discover their masculine power, take bold action and create the life they want. He has written articles and guest blogs for numerous relationship and expert websites.

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