Want To Be More Confident In Your Relationship?

I read something really funny the other day.

A man was asked, “What do you think the THREE most important aspects are in a good sex life?”

His answer?

1. The proper length/girth ratio
2. Being able to last a minimum of 30 minutes
3. Is there a number 3?

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This is funny because it’s not far from the truth in how many of us have traditionally measured sexual success and prowess.

But in my humble opinion, it’s the wrong measure.

We do this a lot.

Like when it comes to measuring your MOJO.

MOJO is an incredible cocktail of groundedness, mental clarity, emotional strength, calmness, confidence, self-respect and peace of mind.

And how have most of us traditionally measured MOJO?

With a “Femometer”.

This is a highly unpredictable gauge of feminine approval, respect, validation, trust and desire.

When you look at the “Femometer” for a measure of your MOJO you’ll notice the needle bounces around like a polygraph test.

And along with that needle, so goes your feeling of MOJO. It’s all over the place.

Don’t do that. Do this instead.

Create your own MOJOMETER. (noun: mo – JOM ‘ – eter)

I explain more in this video.

YouTube video

The MOJOMETER is a highly accurate gauge calibrated by top members of the state and federal Departments of Weights and Measures, to be dead-on balls accurate. (My Cousin Vinny reference for my brother)


Do you see something they all have in common?

Yes, you have absolute and total control over these variables.

And the most important one of those four is MINDSET.

What thoughts are you choosing to think? Who do you hang around to strengthen your mind? What books are you reading? What’s the miserable story in your head that’s creating the knot in your stomach?

This is the primary work I do with men in coaching, men’s retreats and the upcoming online course.

We work on the fearful, angry, destructive thoughts that make men nuts. We look at the mythical stories we tell ourselves about what happiness, certainty and security really is.

We debunk the notion that our MOJO is measured by what people think of us or how our women are treating us.

We support each other in building a brand new perspective and a new thought process about self-respect, personal value and long-term happiness.

It’s your MINDSET that has the largest impact on your MOJOMETER.

Stay tuned for the release of the How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb online course. The pilot is underway now. Click the link to go to the course page and find the button to put yourself on the VIP notification list.

My new book Straight Talk Tools for the Desperate Husband will help you to lead yourself and your relationship back to good health. Understand why your partner acts the way she does toward you and learn how to lead your life in the direction you want it to go. You CAN have the relationship you want, fulfilling all your desires while maintaining love and respect.

I wrote a free e-book to help men learn how to lose their fear and be more bold in their marriage to create the love and connection they want. Get The Hard to Swallow Truth About Saving Your Marriage.

If you want to learn more about how to take a bigger step toward being a clear-headed, confident man of action, then find out more here. I would be thrilled to help you get there – our first discovery call is always free and always gives you a BIG boost of confidence.

You WILL become a clearer, stronger, more confident man only through other men. Your woman cannot take you there – and she doesn’t WANT to…trust me on that.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on many television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels discussing the coaching and psychology factors relating to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides personal, practical, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats, group coaching and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and the right mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor for men who teaches his clients how to discover their masculine strength so they can confidently take the actions required to create the life and relationships that they really want. With over 10 years experience he has created thousands of videos and articles for well known relationship websites such as The Good Men Project, Medium and the Gottman Institute.
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