I Want My Wife To Give Me More Sex

After living through this myself and then coaching thousands of men through this exact situation, I have a well-defined answer to the statement “I want my wife to give me more sex”.

Has your sex life been on the decline making you feel anxious, frustrated and questioning whether it’s all worth it?

I like to get real about what really goes on with us guys when it comes to managing our sex drive and our relationships.

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Guess what the #1 answer is to the question: “What do you most want in the next 6 months?”

It usually sounds a bit like this.

“I want to reconnect with my wife and feel more trust, respect and affection. I want her to look at me like she used to. Aaaaand I really want a lot more sex with her.”

I said exactly the same thing when I was in those shoes. Who doesn’t want more of everything?

Our pulsing libido’s misguided answer to a failing relationship is “give me MORE sex”

We make a big mistake when we listen to our libido’s advice. In this video, I go into more depth about sexual energy and how happy, healthy and sexually satisfied men THINK about it.

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The Big Mistake Most Of Us Make With Our Throbbing Libido

Don’t get me wrong here.

I am not telling you that you must subjugate your sexual desire.

And I’m not telling you that you need to somehow get used to less sex or even a “sexless marriage”.

The #1 cause of most married guys’ waning sex life is their incessant, unregulated and immature response to their biological urge to have sex.

It’s simple.

The more desperate and needy we become around our sexual desire the more we sabotage the process of creating a real, healthy sexual connection.

Sure, there are many other factors that can come into play.

Health issues, pain, menopause, emotional blocks and psychological trauma are a few.

But with most otherwise healthy couples, the health of the sexual relationship is greatly affected by the man‘s healthy relationship with his sexuality.

Want it. But don’t need it.

Pursue sexual connection. Don’t coerce or manipulate it.

Enjoy feeling turned on without always making it lead to intercourse.

Blue balls (epididymal hypertension) are a thing, but it’s related to extended periods of arousal and most common in adolescent men. Mature men who complain of the pain of blue balls have a thinking problem, not a biological problem.

Converting “Give Me More Sex” Into Attraction

You could Google “Sexual Transmutation” and choke yourself on the volume of information available.

Let me make it clear, simple and actionable to save you some time.

Your nuclear reactor of sexual energy is a limitless source of productive, inventive and creative power.

So, use it accordingly.

Use it consciously to pursue a new job, to learn a new skill, to write that book you’re thinking about.

Use your sexual energy to propel you into a passion you’ve always wanted to pursue.

Use it to keep in shape. Use it to plan amazing play days with your kids.

Use your drive to overcome your fear of taking risks – and go f*ck those risks!

As soon as you start knowing the things you didn’t know before, you will begin to be more conscious in USING THAT KNOWLEDGE to change your life.

Within just a few weeks, this new knowledge starts lowering your blood pressure. You sleep better. You get your appetite back. You stop getting triggered and over-reacting to everything…especially the triggers of sexual frustration and sexual rejection.

Bottom Line: When you intentionally channel your sexual energy in mindful and mature ways you will begin to live the kind of life that will make you INFINITELY MORE ATTRACTIVE. It’s always THAT guy who has a better sex life, not the guy who insists “she needs to give me more sex”.

Every hour of every single day there are men in my community working on this stuff and more.

The road trip from “good guy” to “great man” is a well-traveled path and there is SO MUCH you need to know.

Let me make something else super clear.

I want you to experience the power of this Goodguys2Greatmen community. It will change your life forever.

If anything in this article (or any of these over 400 articles) resonates with you…you’re in the right place.

You’re smart, strong, caring, sensitive and successful. But guys like you seldom seek the friendship and wisdom of other men. (I know from personal experience)

Too risky? Too weird? Too embarrassed to admit you want help?

That describes all of us, brother. Time to take a risk

Use the power of your morning libido to do something new.

Ask for a long, powerful consultation with an incredible GG2GM coach. Submit our Contact Form.

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Frequently Asked Questions


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Our coaching process was created for men who want to feel happier and more fulfilled in their life and relationships. We teach you how to have more confidence and clarity about what you want in your life and create an action plan to start making it happen.

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While our coaching teaches you how to create a more connected, more fun and passionate marriage, we also work with you to have more clarity, enthusiasm and fulfillment in all areas of your life. We help you understand what you really want your future to look like and we also teach you how to be in control of your emotions so that you can be confident and assertive no matter how difficult your circumstances are right now .

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In our free initial coaching calls, we listen a lot, we ask you questions to understand what life is really like for you at the moment, we help you identify what you want to be different and what's holding you back from creating those changes now. Then we help you create a practical plan of action to start moving forward straight away.

What will I learn in your coaching programs?

We take you through a process to:

  • Stop being tentative and become more focused and directed.
  • Develop control over your thoughts and emotions like never before.
  • Become a master of the masculine and feminine dance required for a more passionate connection in your romantic relationships.
  • Build and sustain your personal masculine confidence so that you don't get "triggered" or feel disrespected and can respond with strength and confidence to any situation.
  • Become more connected, aware and present with everyone (this is a critical step in your ability to build attraction and desire as well as have people trust you and respect you more).
  • Stop the destructive emotions of anger and resentment which keep you going around in frustrating cycles and start from moving forward with purpose.
  • Stop being anxious, needy and overly reliant upon other people's opinions and approval of you and start feeling more peace, happiness and a deep sense of being a man who is confident in himself again.
  • You will become a confident man who knows his values, what he wants and where he’s going in his life.
  • You will learn how to think, speak and act according to your values without worrying about reactions from others.
  • You become clear and confident in your ability to create intimacy whenever you want.
  • Your confidence will be something that you start to rely on and trust in every part of your life.

How does the Men's Roundtable work?

Our Men's Roundtable membership gives you access to 3 live group coaching calls per month hosted by Steve and Dan as well as access to over 5 years of previously recorded group coaching calls, an invitation to our private facebook group, and ongoing assignments and resources to help you grow and develop as a confident masculine man. It's like having a personal coach in your pocket, ready to help whenever you need it.

What's the difference between the 1-to-1 coaching and group coaching?

Firstly, anyone who is in our 1-to-1 coaching program automatically receives access to the Men's Roundtable membership and group coaching for free for life. The difference between 1-to-1 and group coaching is down to the speed of change that you want to happen. With more personal time and attention from your coach, the 1-to-1 program is adapted to your specific circumstances and will provide the practical advice you need to know what to think, say and do to create what you want your future to be.

What kind of man is right for your coaching?

We work with men who are willing to take the lead in creating the changes they want in their life and relationships. We only work with men who want to understand their fears, insecurities and shame triggers. We teach you practical ways to deal with the mental and emotional challenges life throws at you and help you reach an unshakeable confidence in yourself (often for the first time in your life).

  • You won’t find negative, hateful language.
  • You won’t find a gender war – we don’t bash women.
  • You won’t find bitching, whining, complaining, and blaming.
  • You won’t find a group of men acting like victims.
  • You won’t find judgment or criticism from others.

We don't waste our time with all those things because we want to take the most efficient and effective path to creating the future you want. So we focus only on the things that are within your control: your thoughts, your words and your actions.

How do I know if I need coaching?

If you are feeling unhappy a lot of the time, if you're lonely, drained, lost, stuck or trapped, then our coaching will help. If you're not sure where your life is headed, if you're not confident in yourself, if you're not sure what you really want in life anymore...our coaching will help.

Whether it’s your job, your intimate relationship, or just wanting to feel more happy and with more purpose, then our coaching will help.

If you are tired of settling for a mediocre life or relationship, tolerating criticism and a lack of fun and intimacy and you're done with placating and playing it safe, then our coaching will help.

We will help you have clarity about what you're REALLY passionate about. We'll get you clear about where you want to be in six months and in six years. We help you figure out what you really want to create vs what other people think you should do.

We help you take action, get unstuck, start moving forward. We help you find what matters instead of just "being busy" in the daily grind. We help you figure out how you're going to get from where you are now to where you want to be.

For many of the guys we work with, they find a peace and a sense of emotional freedom that has them shaking their heads and smiling at how they used to approach life. They feel passionate about life again. They build stronger relationships with the people that matter most to them. They feel satisfied and fulfilled that they have finally found the “right path” forward and life starts to feel fun and inspiring again.

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