How To Recover Your Failing Marriage

I know how it feels to want to recover your failing marriage, I recognise the all-encompassing anxiety and fear that knots up your stomach and affects your ability to concentrate on anything else.

And I’m here to help show you the path forward for your marriage and for every other area of your life too.

In times of crisis (viral and relational) we go into overdrive gathering all the information we can get our hands on, looking for the final clue that will help us know the right thing to do.

Knowledge is power.

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Articles, videos, podcasts, books, ebooks, email newsletters, you name it, we seek it out and consume it.

But we’re often still unsure what to DO with all this new found knowledge.

We get the concepts but we lack the real life experience to be able to use this information as a tool to change our lives and relationships.

You can never get enough of what you don’t really need.

What you need is not more knowledge. Yes knowledge is useful but it’s pretty ineffective in changing your life and relationship unless you use it with another tool…

The tool of action

Without action all that knowledge sits in your system and causes more frustration and more questions. More focus on what you’re unhappy with which creates even more pressure and tension on you.

And all that pressure and tension makes you a jittery, reactive ball of anxiety.

So then the people you care about most, see and feel that tension oozing out of you and they can’t help but react to it – because it makes them feel tense too!

I talk about this more in the video below.

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“Knowledge is NOT power! Knowledge is the POTENTIAL of power. True power – power to change your life, your circumstances, your marriage, and your reality – comes through action. It’s that simple.” ~ Nate Bagley

Whether we’re talking about your work colleagues, your friends or your wife, we ALWAYS have an agenda, something that we WANT. Most of the time we’re not aware of what we want, although it often sounds like “I want to be happy” or “I want to be loved” or “I want to know how she feels.”

If there’s one thing “I want” you to get from this article and video, it’s that you can use your want to CHASE love and connection or you can use it to CREATE and GIVE love, connection, happiness, joy, affection…anything you want to experience.

You get to decide how you proceed. You get to choose the actions you take.

One thing I guarantee is that the feeling of connection and love you want (and the settling and calming affect it has on your body) is more consistently available to you when you choose to create it in your life instead of chasing it or expecting others to want to give it to you (most people are waiting and wanting someone to provide it to them).

“The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.” – Mark Manson.

What does that mean in relation to taking action in your life and relationship?

When you place your ability to feel good about yourself or your relationship on an outcome that someone else is in control of, you paralyse your ability to create good feelings in yourself (and in others).

So when we’re talking about action versus knowledge, the ability you have to change your life is ONLY through the action you take.

What stops us from taking action?


Plain and simple.

We’re incredibly good at analyzing situations to come up with 100 reasons why we shouldn’t do something and ultimately what we’re trying to do is avoid any pain and suffering.

But what if, other than physically being attacked, the only way you can feel pain and suffering is by creating it yourself?

Your ability to feel better is so much simpler than you THINK it is.

The pain and suffering you feel is created by the interpretation you give to your situation.​​​​​​​ And I’m not talking about the interpretation of what other people are doing or not doing.

It’s the way you choose to interpret what your situation MEANS ABOUT YOU, about how you see yourself and your ability to change your circumstances.

You ALWAYS have a choice.

A choice to stop trying to control things outside your control.

A choice to face fear and be more deliberate in creating what you want.

A choice to let go of the need for someone else to make the first move.

A choice to make time to do something that relaxes and fulfils you.

A choice to approach your situation with positive regard and positive intent (one of the most powerful choices you can make).

​​​​​​​A choice to make a decision, no matter how small, that moves you out from the paralysed state of over stimulated knowledge gatherer and into a future where you are actively involved in creating what you want instead of passively hoping to find the “perfect answer” to your problems.

The best place for you to learn how to take action even in the face of difficult, scary circumstances is with a group of men who’ve been exactly where you are and taken this path before you.

Steve and I invite you to join our community and experience what it’s like when other initiated men support you through some of the most important decisions of your life.

Do you take up the challenge to stop gathering knowledge and start taking action, to finally start making the changes that you want happen in your life and marriage happen?

In our coaching we take men through an intense program to build your decision making confidence to the point where you don’t back away from taking action.

The Men’s Live Coaching Roundtable is a powerful collection of men from around the world working together to transform themselves and their relationships. Dan Dore and I lead this community with 5 other professional coaches. We have live coaching video calls twice per month. The camaraderie in this group is something missing from the lives of too many men in the world.

Our Mastering Connection With Women course starts again in May lead by Dan and Alexis – Receive live feedback on your energy and confidence. Find out what you need to do to own your sexuality and masculinity. Navigate tests and create more connection and intimacy with ease. Find out more and signup here.

Our online course How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb is a deep and intense dive into handling yourself when you hear, “I love you but I’m not in love with you anymore.” Tim Wade and Steve host monthly live Q&A calls with all the students in this course which includes many other bonuses as well. Find out more here.

We love teaching men these tools – how to be better, how to know who you are, what you stand for, what you want and how to CREATE it in your life through our Masculine Confidence coaching programs.

What if this next year everything changed for you?

That’s what we want for you brother.

My new book Straight Talk Tools for the Desperate Husband will help you to lead yourself and your relationship back to good health. Understand why your partner acts the way she does toward you and learn how to lead your life in the direction you want it to go. You CAN have the relationship you want, fulfilling all your desires while maintaining love and respect.

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Dan Dore Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Dan Dore is a certified professional Men’s Coach specialising in helping men who are struggling and feeling unhappy and unfulfilled i their life and relationships. With over 20,000 hours experience coaching men to completely resolve their self-esteem and confidence issues and improve their ability to create emotional connection, build trust, earn respect, and lead the sexual intimacy and affection in their relationship whenever they want. No more fearing rejection or other people’s opinion of you - I want to help you finally be happy in yourself and trust your ability to create anything you want in your future.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is our coaching right for you?

Our coaching process was created for men who want to feel happier and more fulfilled in their life and relationships. We teach you how to have more confidence and clarity about what you want in your life and create an action plan to start making it happen.

Do you only work with men in marriage?

While our coaching teaches you how to create a more connected, more fun and passionate marriage, we also work with you to have more clarity, enthusiasm and fulfillment in all areas of your life. We help you understand what you really want your future to look like and we also teach you how to be in control of your emotions so that you can be confident and assertive no matter how difficult your circumstances are right now .

What happens in the free 90-minute coaching call?

In our free initial coaching calls, we listen a lot, we ask you questions to understand what life is really like for you at the moment, we help you identify what you want to be different and what's holding you back from creating those changes now. Then we help you create a practical plan of action to start moving forward straight away.

What will I learn in your coaching programs?

We take you through a process to:

  • Stop being tentative and become more focused and directed.
  • Develop control over your thoughts and emotions like never before.
  • Become a master of the masculine and feminine dance required for a more passionate connection in your romantic relationships.
  • Build and sustain your personal masculine confidence so that you don't get "triggered" or feel disrespected and can respond with strength and confidence to any situation.
  • Become more connected, aware and present with everyone (this is a critical step in your ability to build attraction and desire as well as have people trust you and respect you more).
  • Stop the destructive emotions of anger and resentment which keep you going around in frustrating cycles and start from moving forward with purpose.
  • Stop being anxious, needy and overly reliant upon other people's opinions and approval of you and start feeling more peace, happiness and a deep sense of being a man who is confident in himself again.
  • You will become a confident man who knows his values, what he wants and where he’s going in his life.
  • You will learn how to think, speak and act according to your values without worrying about reactions from others.
  • You become clear and confident in your ability to create intimacy whenever you want.
  • Your confidence will be something that you start to rely on and trust in every part of your life.

How does the Men's Roundtable work?

Our Men's Roundtable membership gives you access to 3 live group coaching calls per month hosted by Steve and Dan as well as access to over 5 years of previously recorded group coaching calls, an invitation to our private facebook group, and ongoing assignments and resources to help you grow and develop as a confident masculine man. It's like having a personal coach in your pocket, ready to help whenever you need it.

What's the difference between the 1-to-1 coaching and group coaching?

Firstly, anyone who is in our 1-to-1 coaching program automatically receives access to the Men's Roundtable membership and group coaching for free for life. The difference between 1-to-1 and group coaching is down to the speed of change that you want to happen. With more personal time and attention from your coach, the 1-to-1 program is adapted to your specific circumstances and will provide the practical advice you need to know what to think, say and do to create what you want your future to be.

What kind of man is right for your coaching?

We work with men who are willing to take the lead in creating the changes they want in their life and relationships. We only work with men who want to understand their fears, insecurities and shame triggers. We teach you practical ways to deal with the mental and emotional challenges life throws at you and help you reach an unshakeable confidence in yourself (often for the first time in your life).

  • You won’t find negative, hateful language.
  • You won’t find a gender war – we don’t bash women.
  • You won’t find bitching, whining, complaining, and blaming.
  • You won’t find a group of men acting like victims.
  • You won’t find judgment or criticism from others.

We don't waste our time with all those things because we want to take the most efficient and effective path to creating the future you want. So we focus only on the things that are within your control: your thoughts, your words and your actions.

How do I know if I need coaching?

If you are feeling unhappy a lot of the time, if you're lonely, drained, lost, stuck or trapped, then our coaching will help. If you're not sure where your life is headed, if you're not confident in yourself, if you're not sure what you really want in life anymore...our coaching will help.

Whether it’s your job, your intimate relationship, or just wanting to feel more happy and with more purpose, then our coaching will help.

If you are tired of settling for a mediocre life or relationship, tolerating criticism and a lack of fun and intimacy and you're done with placating and playing it safe, then our coaching will help.

We will help you have clarity about what you're REALLY passionate about. We'll get you clear about where you want to be in six months and in six years. We help you figure out what you really want to create vs what other people think you should do.

We help you take action, get unstuck, start moving forward. We help you find what matters instead of just "being busy" in the daily grind. We help you figure out how you're going to get from where you are now to where you want to be.

For many of the guys we work with, they find a peace and a sense of emotional freedom that has them shaking their heads and smiling at how they used to approach life. They feel passionate about life again. They build stronger relationships with the people that matter most to them. They feel satisfied and fulfilled that they have finally found the “right path” forward and life starts to feel fun and inspiring again.

So now you've read that...what do you think? Would YOU like to try some of our coaching for free?

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