I know how it feels to want to recover your failing marriage, I recognise the all-encompassing anxiety and fear that knots up your stomach and affects your ability to concentrate on anything else.
And I’m here to help show you the path forward for your marriage and for every other area of your life too.
In times of crisis (viral and relational) we go into overdrive gathering all the information we can get our hands on, looking for the final clue that will help us know the right thing to do.
Knowledge is power.
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Articles, videos, podcasts, books, ebooks, email newsletters, you name it, we seek it out and consume it.
But we’re often still unsure what to DO with all this new found knowledge.
We get the concepts but we lack the real life experience to be able to use this information as a tool to change our lives and relationships.
You can never get enough of what you don’t really need.
What you need is not more knowledge. Yes knowledge is useful but it’s pretty ineffective in changing your life and relationship unless you use it with another tool…
The tool of action
Without action all that knowledge sits in your system and causes more frustration and more questions. More focus on what you’re unhappy with which creates even more pressure and tension on you.
And all that pressure and tension makes you a jittery, reactive ball of anxiety.
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So then the people you care about most, see and feel that tension oozing out of you and they can’t help but react to it – because it makes them feel tense too!
I talk about this more in the video below.
“Knowledge is NOT power! Knowledge is the POTENTIAL of power. True power – power to change your life, your circumstances, your marriage, and your reality – comes through action. It’s that simple.” ~ Nate Bagley
Whether we’re talking about your work colleagues, your friends or your wife, we ALWAYS have an agenda, something that we WANT. Most of the time we’re not aware of what we want, although it often sounds like “I want to be happy” or “I want to be loved” or “I want to know how she feels.”
If there’s one thing “I want” you to get from this article and video, it’s that you can use your want to CHASE love and connection or you can use it to CREATE and GIVE love, connection, happiness, joy, affection…anything you want to experience.
You get to decide how you proceed. You get to choose the actions you take.
One thing I guarantee is that the feeling of connection and love you want (and the settling and calming affect it has on your body) is more consistently available to you when you choose to create it in your life instead of chasing it or expecting others to want to give it to you (most people are waiting and wanting someone to provide it to them).
“The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.” – Mark Manson.
What does that mean in relation to taking action in your life and relationship?
When you place your ability to feel good about yourself or your relationship on an outcome that someone else is in control of, you paralyse your ability to create good feelings in yourself (and in others).
So when we’re talking about action versus knowledge, the ability you have to change your life is ONLY through the action you take.
What stops us from taking action?
Fear.
Plain and simple.
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We’re incredibly good at analyzing situations to come up with 100 reasons why we shouldn’t do something and ultimately what we’re trying to do is avoid any pain and suffering.
But what if, other than physically being attacked, the only way you can feel pain and suffering is by creating it yourself?
Your ability to feel better is so much simpler than you THINK it is.
The pain and suffering you feel is created by the interpretation you give to your situation. And I’m not talking about the interpretation of what other people are doing or not doing.
It’s the way you choose to interpret what your situation MEANS ABOUT YOU, about how you see yourself and your ability to change your circumstances.
You ALWAYS have a choice.
A choice to stop trying to control things outside your control.
A choice to face fear and be more deliberate in creating what you want.
A choice to let go of the need for someone else to make the first move.
A choice to make time to do something that relaxes and fulfils you.
A choice to approach your situation with positive regard and positive intent (one of the most powerful choices you can make).
A choice to make a decision, no matter how small, that moves you out from the paralysed state of over stimulated knowledge gatherer and into a future where you are actively involved in creating what you want instead of passively hoping to find the “perfect answer” to your problems.
The best place for you to learn how to take action even in the face of difficult, scary circumstances is with a group of men who’ve been exactly where you are and taken this path before you.
Steve and I invite you to join our community and experience what it’s like when other initiated men support you through some of the most important decisions of your life.
Do you take up the challenge to stop gathering knowledge and start taking action, to finally start making the changes that you want happen in your life and marriage happen?
In our coaching we take men through an intense program to build your decision making confidence to the point where you don’t back away from taking action.
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That’s what we want for you brother.
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