How to Rebuild Trust In Your Marriage

If you want to rebuild trust in your marriage, it starts with a cold, hard look at your own behavior. Women feel unsafe around a man with no consistent opinion, they hate us being wishy-washy and indecisive.

5 Traits Of A Wishy-Washy Man

Has your woman ever complained about you being undependable or wishy-washy?

Do you ever feel like you’re stuck and just can’t follow through on things?

Do you ever feel like other men are more confident than you and get more done?

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I want to talk about being a WISHY-WASHY MAN.

They are more common than you think. I was one – and still am sometimes.

The key traits of a wishy-washy man are:

  1. He is slow to answer questions and says “I don’t know” a LOT
  2. He feels sluggish in his mind and body and regrets not following through on things he wants
  3. He finds himself DEFENDING himself when pressured by others
  4. He doesn’t really have a f&*$ing opinion about anything
  5. He stews quietly in anger about his circumstances – mostly mad at himself

Any of those sound familiar?

A wishy-washy man is uninspiring to himself.

He has a lot of negative self-talk and beats himself up a lot.

He isn’t happy because he can HEAR HIMSELF speak and he doesn’t like what he hears.

Often, he knows his wife wants more from him. More leadership, more decisiveness and more confidence.

And it pisses him off that he just can’t seem to follow through.

In this video I give you more insight and offer you the first steps you can take to fix this.

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How to Stop Being Wishy Washy and Get What You Want

Stop Being Wishy-Washy By Owning Your Thoughts

This is a little “tough love” brother.

I can’t tell you how grateful I am to have men in my life who will challenge my excuses, my justifications and my fears.

They will call me on my bullshit when they see that my thinking is screwed up. And they do it with love and with my best interest in mind.

That’s why I’m bringing it up for you. Maybe you don’t have anyone to challenge you to step up and out of your sluggishness.

Sometimes just having a mirror held up to your face makes a man flip and switch and start making changes immediately.

It’s absolutely amazing how fast a man can turnaround his sense of confidence, clarity, focus and happiness when he decides he is going to OWN his thoughts and his actions.

One of the biggest challenges for the wives and girlfriends of my clients is believing how fast a mental shift is made in their man.

They want to believe it, but they don’t trust it. (as in, why couldn’t you do this years ago?!)

But, it is real. And it’s permanent.

It’s an immediate switch from wishy-washy to confident, clear and accountable. It’s almost too good to be true.

Stop Being Wishy-Washy To Create Safety

How would you like to hear your wife or girlfriend say, “I don’t know what’s gotten into you…but I like it!”?

Seriously. This is what happens when a man stops being wishy-washy and does his work.

If you’re ready to do some work, move quickly and accelerate your growth so fast it will make your head spin, then you’re ready for a deep dive coaching discovery call.

This is NOT a 15-minute teaser session. It’s a full blown deep dive coaching session to help you reach your first Ah-Ha! of many to come.

We want to know about your past. We want you to describe the future you want. And we want to help you see how your thoughts, words and actions are holding you back right now.

We will ask you about where you’ve been, where you want to go and what’s happening now in your life and relationship.

You can’t have that conversation in 15 minutes.

Are you ready for that?

Then fill out this application for your call.

Answer the unusually personal questions. Just filling this form out is an exercise that will make you feel better.

Then you’ll be matched up with me, Dan Dore or one of our certified GG2GM coaches around the world.

The life and relationships you want can’t happen until you stop being wishy-washy. Start making up your mind and notice how good it feels to bring leadership, decisiveness and safety to your relationship.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on well known coachign and psychology television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels related to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides intensely personal, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor who teaches his clients to discover their masculine power, take bold action and create the life they want. He has written articles and guest blogs for numerous relationship and expert websites.

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While our coaching teaches you how to create a more connected, more fun and passionate marriage, we also work with you to have more clarity, enthusiasm and fulfillment in all areas of your life. We help you understand what you really want your future to look like and we also teach you how to be in control of your emotions so that you can be confident and assertive no matter how difficult your circumstances are right now .

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In our free initial coaching calls, we listen a lot, we ask you questions to understand what life is really like for you at the moment, we help you identify what you want to be different and what's holding you back from creating those changes now. Then we help you create a practical plan of action to start moving forward straight away.

What will I learn in your coaching programs?

We take you through a process to:

  • Stop being tentative and become more focused and directed.
  • Develop control over your thoughts and emotions like never before.
  • Become a master of the masculine and feminine dance required for a more passionate connection in your romantic relationships.
  • Build and sustain your personal masculine confidence so that you don't get "triggered" or feel disrespected and can respond with strength and confidence to any situation.
  • Become more connected, aware and present with everyone (this is a critical step in your ability to build attraction and desire as well as have people trust you and respect you more).
  • Stop the destructive emotions of anger and resentment which keep you going around in frustrating cycles and start from moving forward with purpose.
  • Stop being anxious, needy and overly reliant upon other people's opinions and approval of you and start feeling more peace, happiness and a deep sense of being a man who is confident in himself again.
  • You will become a confident man who knows his values, what he wants and where he’s going in his life.
  • You will learn how to think, speak and act according to your values without worrying about reactions from others.
  • You become clear and confident in your ability to create intimacy whenever you want.
  • Your confidence will be something that you start to rely on and trust in every part of your life.

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Our Men's Roundtable membership gives you access to 3 live group coaching calls per month hosted by Steve and Dan as well as access to over 5 years of previously recorded group coaching calls, an invitation to our private facebook group, and ongoing assignments and resources to help you grow and develop as a confident masculine man. It's like having a personal coach in your pocket, ready to help whenever you need it.

What's the difference between the 1-to-1 coaching and group coaching?

Firstly, anyone who is in our 1-to-1 coaching program automatically receives access to the Men's Roundtable membership and group coaching for free for life. The difference between 1-to-1 and group coaching is down to the speed of change that you want to happen. With more personal time and attention from your coach, the 1-to-1 program is adapted to your specific circumstances and will provide the practical advice you need to know what to think, say and do to create what you want your future to be.

What kind of man is right for your coaching?

We work with men who are willing to take the lead in creating the changes they want in their life and relationships. We only work with men who want to understand their fears, insecurities and shame triggers. We teach you practical ways to deal with the mental and emotional challenges life throws at you and help you reach an unshakeable confidence in yourself (often for the first time in your life).

  • You won’t find negative, hateful language.
  • You won’t find a gender war – we don’t bash women.
  • You won’t find bitching, whining, complaining, and blaming.
  • You won’t find a group of men acting like victims.
  • You won’t find judgment or criticism from others.

We don't waste our time with all those things because we want to take the most efficient and effective path to creating the future you want. So we focus only on the things that are within your control: your thoughts, your words and your actions.

How do I know if I need coaching?

If you are feeling unhappy a lot of the time, if you're lonely, drained, lost, stuck or trapped, then our coaching will help. If you're not sure where your life is headed, if you're not confident in yourself, if you're not sure what you really want in life anymore...our coaching will help.

Whether it’s your job, your intimate relationship, or just wanting to feel more happy and with more purpose, then our coaching will help.

If you are tired of settling for a mediocre life or relationship, tolerating criticism and a lack of fun and intimacy and you're done with placating and playing it safe, then our coaching will help.

We will help you have clarity about what you're REALLY passionate about. We'll get you clear about where you want to be in six months and in six years. We help you figure out what you really want to create vs what other people think you should do.

We help you take action, get unstuck, start moving forward. We help you find what matters instead of just "being busy" in the daily grind. We help you figure out how you're going to get from where you are now to where you want to be.

For many of the guys we work with, they find a peace and a sense of emotional freedom that has them shaking their heads and smiling at how they used to approach life. They feel passionate about life again. They build stronger relationships with the people that matter most to them. They feel satisfied and fulfilled that they have finally found the “right path” forward and life starts to feel fun and inspiring again.

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