My Wife Says I’m Pushing Her Away

Sometimes I have to write an article title that says EXACTLY what’s going on in your house and if you’re reading this right now I know that you’ve already typed in “My wife says I’m pushing her away”…but what does that mean? How does it happen? And when all you want is your wife to move back toward you…what are the things to avoid doing that are pushing her away further…

Today I’m going to use the example of making meatloaf and tell you how it relates to your marriage.

It’s messy, bloody, greasy and gooey.

It’s done with your bare hands with a bunch of runny ingredients and then the quagmire of breadcrumbs.

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Then you shape it up just right and shove the gelatinous pink loaf into the oven.

Good thing it looks pretty good when it’s all done, otherwise, meatloaf wouldn’t have many friends.

What’s this got to do with your sex life you ask?


And I immediately call him off.

I save him from his own silly notions that showing his meatloaf to her is a good thing. It’s not.

I’m going to make you watch this video to find out exactly what I’m talking about.

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Why She Doesn’t Want to Hear About Your Meatloaf

Bottom Line: Talk is cheap.

I know, I know. When a man starts to get involved in his own personal development he gets excited. For the first time he has something really emotional to talk about!

He’s been reading books, listening to podcasts and binge watching Goodguys2Greatmen videos every time he starts to feel down.

He wants to tell his wife the following things:

“You won’t believe what I learned in this book!”

“I can’t believe what an ass I’ve been!”

“I’m so sorry I didn’t know this stuff before!”

“I think we’re going to be better now that I’m really getting my shit together!”

Last but not least, “Can’t you already SEE the great changes I’ve been making??!!”

Again, talk is cheap and she knows it. All she will ever trust is action. Consistent action. Outcome independent action.

“You simply cannot talk yourself out of a situation you behaved yourself into.” ~ Stephen Covey

So where does an excited, motivated, shot-in-the-ass kind of guy go to talk about his meatloaf?

Other men. Other men like you.

Could be your grandfather, best friend, uncle, dad or even your brother-in-law.

Point is, FIND OTHER MEN to share your thoughts, feelings and journey with. Give your wife the time and space to simply experience the results of your work. That’s what she’ll believe.

I didn’t know this until I was 50 years old. I thought I could dump my emotional baggage and excitement on anyone.

Yeah…no. It doesn’t work that way. Sure, in a very healthy, secure relationship it’s important to share and be vulnerable (to an extent).

But if you’re reading this…that ain’t you right now, is it?

Here is what I want you to consider for yourself.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on well known coachign and psychology television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels related to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides intensely personal, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor who teaches his clients to discover their masculine power, take bold action and create the life they want. He has written articles and guest blogs for numerous relationship and expert websites.

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