How To Have A Life That Inspires And Motivates You

An everyday conversation with a wishy-washy person.

You: Hey man, I have 3 tickets for the playoff game this Saturday at 1pm.  I want you to take the 3rd ticket and come with Bill and I. I’m driving and can pick you up at 11am.  It’s going to be a blast. Do you want to join us?

Wishy-Washy Friend: “Umm…yeah…that sounds pretty good…I think…umm thanks…I mean…that should probably work…I guess…lemme see…umm…yeah.”

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What’s my point here?

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Don’t be that guy.  Nobody likes that guy.  Nobody.

I’m not talking about being uncertain when someone asks, Do you know the surface temperature of the sun?

If you don’t know something then saying NO is the perfect answer.

This article about the uncertain, indecisive, tentative, noncommittal, action averse energy of a wishy-washy man.

Two reasons.

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1.  It is holding you back.  Being wishy-washy has a poisonous effect on your mind and your sense of personal power.  It’s based in fear and insecurity which will ruin you life and your relationships.  It’s a voluntary choice to become a 2nd Class citizen in your own life.  And that will cause you to constantly feel like you’re on your heels without a compass, walking on eggshells and moving in slow motion.  And that’s bad for you.

2.  It negatively affects all of your relationships.  All of them.  Others will feel they can’t count on you.  They will feel like they are left hanging.  They will get frustrated with always taking the lead and watching you back away from commitment.  They will question what value you bring into their lives.  And as if we need more motivation, wishy-washiness is one of the biggest sexual turn-offs in the world.  So…there’s that.

~ Craig Groeschel

I have no idea who Craig Groeschel is.  I just like the quote.

There are dozens of books, courses, coaches and teachers out there saying the same crap.

I want to say it differently for you in this email.  I want you to hear it in a way that might actually cause a shift in your THINKING and, therefore, how you FEEL about being wishy-washy.  Only then will you actually DO something different…maybe as early as this weekend.

And when you do…it will feel amazing.

First, watch this video where I get more specific. 

But before I go…these are the thoughts in my head as I type this:

I’m a little nervous.  Will I say what I want?  Will it make any sense?  Will you think I’m an idiot just like all the others who say this crap?

I need to muster my own commitment right now instead of just phoning in this newsletter and giving you a link to someone’s article who is smarter than I am.

In other words, I have to make a commitment right now and follow through.  I’m a “hell yes” to do this for you and for me.  Here I go.  (Sigh)

Well, I’m back from the video shoot and I think I said what I wanted to say.

Stay out of the HELL MAYBE zone.  Nothing good happens there.  Become more aware of your energy and your thoughts when making a decision or considering a question.  Find that part of you that has a clear, non-negotiable opinion or desire.  Follow your gut and go for it!

You must also identify your Hell NO’s more quickly.  It takes courage to look someone in the eye and say, No, thank you.  I spent a large part of my life saying, Umm…you know, I’m not sure I (blah, blah) only to find myself getting talked into things I DIDN’T WANT TO DO!

My challenge to you this week is COACH YOURSELF every time you’re faced with a decision.  

Are you going to be a “Hell YES” and go all in?

Or are you going to declare yourself a “Hell NO”.

I’ve found that the very FASTEST way to change the way you’re thinking and finding your HELL YES’s and HELL NO’s in life is to join other men doing the same thing.  I could have never made the changes I’ve made starting at age 50 without the incredible love and support of other men. 

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As Teddy Roosevelt said: 

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” 

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Dan Dore Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Dan Dore has been a professional Men’s Coach specialising in helping men who are lacking confidence, unhappy and unfulfilled in their life and relationships. Dan has 10 years experience coaching men to improve their self-confidence issues and improve their ability to create more emotional connection, more trust, more respect, and to learn how to lead the sexual intimacy and affection in their relationship whenever they want. If you're tired of dealing with rejection and criticism, Dan will help you challenge the current status, stand up for what you want to change and finally be happy in yourself and your ability to create the kind of connection and passionate life that you really want.
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