Do you struggle with not getting triggered in your marriage or romantic relationship? Most men do at some point in their lives. Being triggered feels crappy and things very rarely work out well from that point onwards…so what can you do to avoid it?
So there I was today…at the top of a mountain trying to square up the foundation poles for a He Shed/She Shed.
I’m becoming one of those “old guys” now who patiently and painstakingly measures twice and cuts once.
I’ve become absolutely laser focused on getting the important things right because I know that without a square floor this shed will fight me every step of the way.
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I’ll make mistakes – no doubt about that. But it won’t be because I started out with a freaking trapezoid for a floor!
I still take short cuts that result in me smashing my finger between an actual rock and a hard place. A little blood helps make the project memorable.
So allow me to get to my point and, yes, I do have one.
First watch this video where I explain the concept of “measuring your manhood”.
How to Measure Your Manhood
“Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one.” ~ Marcus Aurelius
I want to give you one new way to think about measuring your manhood.
This one unit of measure is something every great man must pay attention to on a daily basis.
It’s a reliable way to know if you’re being the “good man” Marcus Aurelius is talking about in the above quote.
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It’s a measurement of the amount of time it takes for to return to your inner mountain lion after a major triggering event.
Every single one of us has a temper tantrum throwing, over-reacting, competitive, argumentative, insecure and immature little fu*&er living inside of us.
The extent to which we are aware of him and able to father him is the extent to which we will feel like a little boy or a good man.
Think about all the things that can trigger the little guy in your relationship.
- Being criticized
- Being yelled atGetting rebuffed for affection or sex
- Getting the silent treatment
- Being threatened with divorce!
- Your favorite here.
Your homework for this week is to REDUCE THE TIME IT TAKES TO RE-CENTER YOURSELF after any trigger. Lower your heart-rate. Slow your breathing. Take a deep breath and smile and the little shit who was trying to get you to over-react.
The more we stew in anger, resentment, bitterness and fear the more ugly, scary and undependable we are.
The longer we allow OUTSIDE CIRCUMSTANCES to rattle us off our strong, squared foundation the more pathetic and ashamed we feel inside.
Good news. You have everything you need to do this. You don’t need anyone else to stop triggering you. You need to learn how to manage your own triggers! And when a man learns how to do that, he can more calmly and EFFECTIVELY deal with the triggering behaviors and the people behind them.
In our community we talk about this stuff every single hour of every single day. I’m talking about all the dirty personal details and embarrassing moments a guy could possibly share. It’s incredible to watch men like you transform from angry, confused and afraid to happy, crystal clear and confident in a matter of weeks.
I get to watch this happen on our live group calls, in our secret Facebook groups and at our retreats. And I want more of it.
That means I want you to be a part of the incredibleness. These are the ways you can join the fun and start getting more of want you want from yourself and from your life – sooner than later.
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