How to Handle a Disrespectful, Critical Wife

Who do you call when a woman has said or done something that totally pisses you off?

You know…those times when she makes a comment or a judgment about you that feels like a knife in the gut.

It’s that accusation or “joking” criticism, which has a poison tip.

And that poison causes your nostrils to flare with anger…ready to defend yourself or return hostile fire.

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What’s really going on here?

You don’t feel like you’re good enough.

And that’s just about the shittiest feeling any human can have.

When we feel inadequate, unworthy, unvalued or unappreciated it can trigger our boyhood insecurities so quickly we REACT like a “bouncing betty” land mine.

Once the explosion goes off…you’re done. There’s no recovery.

But, what if you had a way to avoid that reaction?

What if you delayed the explosion and took a deep breath to reset yourself?

What if you reset your THOUGHTS and immediately felt more confidence instead of defensiveness?

What if you had the perfect response to the criticism that would have otherwise destroyed you?

In this video, I coach my associate, Dan Dore, through a real-life situation he had recently with his wife.

As you saw in the video, we had a great conversation about the trigger he felt being exposed as a “bad husband and handyman”. Worse yet, it was in front of friends…one of whom happens to be a fantastic handyman.

This coaching conversation wasn’t faked. This is a real and serious issue Dan’s been working on for a while.

And for this one sensitive issue, he’s got new tools and a new way to think about what’s happening.

He’s ALSO decided to own how he wants to respond to the home improvement issues on HIS terms – not hers.

It’s amazing what happens when a man decides to take a deep breath, chuckle at himself and then own his response.

No more reacting. No more shame. No more land mines.

No matter what’s causing you distress in your life right now, the support of OTHER MEN is a wealth of strength and support that you need.

You need at least one man who has your back. A friend you can call on when you need him most. Someone who believes in you more than you’re believing in yourself right now.

But I know from working with hundreds of guys this isn’t always the case.

You may have been busy working your ass off. Paying the bills. Chasing the kids and trying to keep your marriage together.

In the process of just “doing life” men have a habit of neglecting their friendships and isolating themselves from other men.

Does any of this sound familiar?

Don’t worry if you don’t have access to these male mentors in your life, we’ve created a “virtually in-person” men’s group you can attend from wherever you are.

This is exactly what we do in our coaching.

Dan and I are leading the Men’s Live Coaching Roundtable

It’s a chance for you to invest in yourself, make a huge transformation in your mojo, drastically increase your confidence and attractiveness AND make some amazing new friends.

If you’re unsure, here are some questions that may help:

Do you struggle dealing with rejection from your wife or romantic partner?

Does it feel like she’s constantly criticizing and complaining about everything you do?

Would you like to be able to handle these situations in a calm, confident way that builds her attraction to you?

Do you wish you felt stronger in your relationships and more confident in yourself?

Do you want to speak more honestly without fear of what other people think of you?

Do you want to stop apologizing for being a passionate man who wants connection, affection and appreciation?

Do you want to have vision of your future so powerful it gives you goose bumps every day?

Times a wasting, so don’t procrastinate. (I know how that goes).

We love to help men understand when they’ve been searching for clarity in the wrong places. And when a man gets clear, it affects everything he’s dealing with, love and attention from his kids, affection from his wife, respect in his work.

We would love to help transform you into a calm, confident badass in the areas of your life where you’re not leading right now.

90 days is all it takes with our intense 1-on-1 coaching program, either with my colleague Dan Dore or me.

Or come and try our coaching yourself through our Men’s Live Coaching Roundtable. Find out more about our Roundtable group coaching sessions here. There’s an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self-realization.

What if this next year everything changed for you?

That’s what I want for you brother,

We love teaching men these tools – how to be better, how to know who you are, what you stand for, what you want and how to CREATE it in your life through our Masculine Confidence coaching programs.

Dan and I are here to guide you on this mission.

If you want to become a man who knows and trusts himself to create the life and love he wants, apply for a free consultation call with me or Dan. I guarantee you’ll feel a whole lot better by the end of our talk.

Our online course How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb is a deep and intense dive into handling yourself when you hear, “I love you but I’m not in love with you anymore.” Tim Wade and I host monthly live Q&A calls with all the students in this course which includes many other bonuses as well. Find out more here.

My new book Straight Talk Tools for the Desperate Husband will help you to lead yourself and your relationship back to good health. Understand why your partner acts the way she does toward you and learn how to lead your life in the direction you want it to go. You CAN have the relationship you want, fulfilling all your desires while maintaining love and respect.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach

Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on many television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels discussing the coaching and psychology factors relating to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides personal, practical, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats, group coaching and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and the right mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor for men who teaches his clients how to discover their masculine strength so they can confidently take the actions required to create the life and relationships that they really want. With over 10 years experience he has created thousands of videos and articles for well known relationship websites such as The Good Men Project, Medium and the Gottman Institute.

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