Hey brother,
I’ll never forget the words of a ruddy old horse trainer and the look on his client’s face when he heard them.
The client’s horse wouldn’t lope. That’s like a canter in English riding. It’s the next higher gear right after the trot.
Well, this guy’s horse would NOT lope. He tried for years to get her to lope. He would plead, kick, yell, make kissing noises and meditate on the problem.
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Then he would buy a new saddle and some fancy shin boots for the horse. Then a new bridle and bit.
Nothing. No matter what he tried the horse would NOT do what he wanted her to do.
When he approached the trainer with his history of problems, he was convinced there was no hope.
That was until the trainer asked if he could take a ride.
To the amazement of the horse owner, within 5 minutes his horse was loping happily in circles, changing directions and doing whatever the trainer asked.
When the trainer brought the horse back, her owner blurted, “Why can’t I get her to do that!?”
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The trainer said:
“Because you’re not yet the kind of rider a horse will lope for.”
Ouch. That’s not what a guy wants to hear. What the hell does that mean anyway?
In this video, I explain what the trainer told him.
The three reasons his horse wouldn’t do what he wanted:
1. He believed there was something wrong with her – and she knew it
2. He was secretly intimidated by her – and she knew it
3. He didn’t know who he was supposed to be or how he to ask for what he wanted – and she knew it
I know you see the parallel I’m making to your relationship.
If you believe deep down that your woman is messed up, broken or crazy, she will know it and will resist every request you make.
If you are secretly afraid or intimidated by her rejection or her reactions, she will know it and fight you every step of the way.
And if you are tentative or uncertain about who you want to be or how you are asking for what you want, she will also feel uncertain and skeptical about your motives.
This is simply a lack of knowledge and experience. You can become the kind of man she wants to lope for.
There’s a switch you need to flip in how you think about her and see her in a different light.
There’s another switch you need to flip that immediately increases your confidence, self-awareness and calmness.
And there’s a third switch you need to flip that give you powerful clarity about how you are being and how you are asking for the things you want.
These are the switches will be flipping for men in our community and in our coaching programs.
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