Have you ever uttered these words under your breath?
“Look at her just kissing, rubbing and loving on that dog. He’s getting more of her happy, affectionate attention than I’ve gotten in two months. “
Maybe not those exact words, but I think you know what I’m talking about.
If you’ve ever been in that cold, dark, barren “friend zone” with your wife, you know what I mean.
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It’s that constant feeling of rejection and emptiness…just hoping for one little show of attention or affection. And when you see her happily give it to anyone or anything but you the downward spiral of anger and resentment starts.
Damn dog. What’s he have that you don’t have?
Brace yourself. This hurt me too when I realized it.
That damn dog had more of a life than I did.
Does your dog have a more interesting and satisfying life than you?
If so, that’s why it’s so easy for her to give him all the affection she wants.
He’s already good.
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He loves the attention, but it’s not the only thing on his mind for the day.
There’s zero risk that he’s going to demand more from her.
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“You’ll never be more approachable and attractive as when you appear to others as loving your own life.”
~ Me
This is true at work. It’s true when making friends. It’s true when building a business.
And it’s true in your committed relationship.
However, many of us begin to use our committed relationship and partner as our safe house for whining, complaining and begging for attention. It’s a place where we play smaller and it begins to be the only “life” we can imagine.
No wonder so many of us men become unhappy, clingy, needy shells of the man we used to be. And no wonder we can end up resenting the damn dog for having more game than we do!
What’s the answer to getting a life BIGGER than your dog?
Make a decision to take care of yourself.
Most men don’t even know what that means. They don’t prioritize their health, their desires, their passions or their dreams.
Most men are too busy operating to someone else’s agenda for what it means to be a “good guy” and are getting exhausted trying to please everyone but themselves.
What would you do with your life if you knew you couldn’t fail?
What interest and passion have you put on the back burner?
What new skill or adventure have you talked yourself out of every year for the last ten years?
I’ve got two suggestions to get you off dead center today. One is super easy and the other is a little riskier!
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