How To Still Be Confident When Your Wife Is Closed Off

Every single man in my community is painfully aware of what “Marital PTSD” means.

It’s that gutted feeling of loss, sadness and fear.

And just like in war some of us recover and move on and some of us don’t.

What’s the difference between these two guys?

It’s our ability to see deeper into the GIFT being offered. 

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And it’s the determination to NOT ALLOW the circumstances to own us while we rise from the ashes like the Phoenix.

Every single man we work with eventually reaches a vantage point and perspective where he sees everything differently.

And it’s with these new “glasses” that he can finally see the gift, the growth and the POSSIBILITIES of how he will move forward.

Watch this video first for a little more detail.

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Allow me to say this as plainly as possible.  No more lofty quotes.

After the shell shock of hearing “I want space.” or “I’m not in love with you.” or “I think we need to divorce.” is over, you have only ONE effective choice to make.

That choice is to learn something and grow from it.

I know your first instinct is to scream, argue, analyze, investigate and FIX things so you can get back to your regularly scheduled program.

Here’s a message from the Emergency Broadcast System:

The next questions are always WHAT should I do?  And HOW can I see this in any other way than total devastation??

You could write a book to answer those questions.  Actually I did.

Let me give you the CliffNotes version

You should step back and stop what you’re doing right now.  Just stop.

Release all pressure including angry outbursts, accusations, arguing and those long, deep, heavy conversations.

Find at least ONE initiated man who has already been in this war and emerged victoriously and talk with him regularly.

Take a deeeep breath and begin a spiritual journey of knowing ALL good things in your life will come from leaning into discomfort and looking for the gift and opportunity.

Decide you WILL learn from this and figure out how to change yourself in the face of unchangeable circumstances.

That last one is especially important and especially difficult for many men.

They have no basis for this belief and, therefore, no ability to even imagine being “okay” in any other scenario than the one they were expecting.

In coaching we are able to DIVE MUCH DEEPER into those expectations and those insecure feelings of abandonment, rejection and emotional evisceration.  As I mention in the video, a man can reach a vantage point in this process that LIBERATES him from those feelings.

Sadness?  Yes.  Guilt?  Yep.  Regret?  Almost certainly.

And therein lies the big secret.

Dan Dore and I would love you to join us at that vantage point.  The view here is awesome.

Free: If you’re serious about building your masculine mojo then apply for a coaching call with us we will help you identify what to focus on and what to avoid to get you feeling confident again. 

What do I mean by “SERIOUS”?

  • We take YOU and your struggles seriously…because we’ve been there
  • We know living in a sexless marriage is serious…and so is showing your kids what a healthy affectionate relationship looks like
  • A lack of intimacy of all kinds is serious now and for the long term health of your marriage
  • We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
  • We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life

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As Teddy Roosevelt said: 

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” 

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Dan Dore Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Dan Dore has been a professional Men’s Coach specialising in helping men who are lacking confidence, unhappy and unfulfilled in their life and relationships. Dan has 10 years experience coaching men to improve their self-confidence issues and improve their ability to create more emotional connection, more trust, more respect, and to learn how to lead the sexual intimacy and affection in their relationship whenever they want. If you're tired of dealing with rejection and criticism, Dan will help you challenge the current status, stand up for what you want to change and finally be happy in yourself and your ability to create the kind of connection and passionate life that you really want.
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