Giving Gifts When Separated From Your Wife

Should you give gifts when separated from your wife? It’s a confusing subject and one that we see men in our community struggle with regularly. So what should you do? What will create a connection and show that you care without putting pressure on her?

My 5-Step Recipe That Invites Others With Swagger and Attraction

Step 1. My personal hello: “Hey you, it’s really good to see you.”

Step 2. My personal thank you:  “I want to tell you how much I appreciate you reading yet another article from me. It means a lot to me that you’re in this group and are working so hard on yourself and your relationship. Thank you for your trust”.:

Step 3. My FREE gift for you: Birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays can be tough when your wife is checked out of the relationship.  You might feel anxious or worried about what to do, how to think or what to get your cold, distant lady. It’s a tough time for anyone…and especially if things have been “off” in your relationship for a while.

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A Free Guide To Getting (or not getting) Your Separated Wife An Anniversary Gift:

If you’re coming up on a holiday, birthday, or anniversary, I have a booklet to give you.  It will help you get CLEAR about how you want to think and what you want to do when your wife is distant over a holiday. We call it the “Confident Man’s Gift Guide During Separation” No strings whatsoever. Just click that link to get it. I hope you enjoy it.

Step 4. There’s this other thing I’m up to that I’m in love with. There’s an incredible group of smart guys who are all having some trouble in their marriage and they help each other every single day to get smarter, stronger and better. I love these men and I think you will too.

They are all taking this course we created specifically for men who feel like their marriage may be slipping away or, at least, sliding backwards.

I want to INVITE you to consider joining us in this group. I promise you won’t be sorry. I promise you will be welcomed with open arms. In fact, after typing this, I’m going back into the group Facebook page to join the guys for a few minutes of bonding.

We made a video for you below to explain WHY we love this so much and why “this shit works!”.

Here’s the video.

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How Does A Man With SWAGGER Get People To Join Him?

I’ve been modeling the process in this article.

1 . I believe in myself and I believe I have something amazing to offer so I connected with you. It started with a simple hello.

2. I’ve explained why I think my private group of men is amazing and how it makes me feel. I expressed my feeling of thankfulness.

3. I’ve given you a free gift and then offered you something with a little more “risk”. (saying “yes” to anything is a risk for people, including your wife).

4. I LOVE this private group of men (that’s important) and I’m getting involved with it no matter what you think or decide. I’m good either way. I’ve got plans.

If you want to join this amazing group of men in the best online course available AND get a LIFETIME membership into the Facebook group I trust you will.

If you’ve decided it’s not what you want or need I trust you’ll make the right call for yourself.

Step 5

This is where I get ready to hit SEND and commence to have a great day. I’m demonstrating what confidence and outcome independence looks like as I connect with you and make an invitation.

This is your recipe for your anniversary.

For your anniversary, I want you to KNOW you are okay. You are a man of tremendous value.

Your swagger comes from choosing AUTHENTIC behaviors. You’re thoughtful and like to give gifts simply because you like to give gifts. You’re a man who knows what he likes and wants. You can make an invitation to dinner, a movie, coffee, skydiving (yes, skydiving) or a quiet night on the couch. You will still do the activity even if no one joins because it’s something you love.

You can DO THIS OVER A HOLIDAY LIKE YOUR ANNIVERSARY WHEN SEPARATED AND BE TOTALLY UNATTACHED TO THE OUTCOME. You do this simply because you care and you want to connect with her.

Then you let her make HER decision and then YOU go and have an amazing day no matter what.

That, my brother, is “swagger”. It’s the best form of self-respect and self-confidence. And, yeah, it’s attractive. Knowing the right questions to ask yourself to settle your own insecurities is also attractive.  If you get your separated wife an anniversary gift, would it be authentic with the type of man you are? Download the booklet if you need more clarity. Enjoy what attractive swager and clarity feel like.

This following link has tons of info, sample videos and a thorough FAQ at the end. You will probably get something of tremendous value just reading this page: How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb

P.S. For those of you waiting for the print version of my book, “Straight Talk Tools for the Desperate Husband“, it just became available on Amazon. Click that link to get the first edition paperback version.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on well known coachign and psychology television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels related to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides intensely personal, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor who teaches his clients to discover their masculine power, take bold action and create the life they want. He has written articles and guest blogs for numerous relationship and expert websites.

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