Hey brother,
One of the most popular complaints I hear from husbands in struggling marriages is this:
I just wish my wife would like me for who I am and stop criticizing me and trying to change me.
Can you relate?
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- Do you sometimes feel like you’re jumping through hoops trying to “make her happy” with you?
- Do you feel like a chameleon who is always changing his colors to adapt to the people (and pressure!) around you?
- And do you feel worn out and pissed off that it seems you’re never good enough for her?
Good. This email is just for you. (and is a reminder for myself)
The solution to the problem isn’t what you might think.
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
~ Oscar Wilde
Before you roll your eyes at this age-old advice, let me tell you why most men have no clue how to “be themselves”.
Most of us have been raised and socialized to adhere to a long list of “what NOT to do”.
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Don’t pick at that, don’t talk like that, don’t dress like that, don’t look at me like that, don’t get too full of yourself and definitely DON’T BE A JERK.
We’ve been taught to focus only on what we “shouldn’t do” and were never taught how to simply “be ourselves”.
And when a man doesn’t clearly know who he is, what he wants, and what he VALUES…he will always feel inadequate in the eyes of others. ~ Me
I know about this first hand.
The “good guy” in me tried to be someone who ANYONE would like and I would jump through hoops to be helpful, cooperative and likeable. It was a full time job and I felt successful.
But my hidden secret was that I expected those closest to me to see how great I was and to love me for the way I was with other people.
And when I didn’t feel the level of love, respect and adoration I felt I deserved I turned into another version of myself.
And as much as I didn’t want to be a “jerk”, that’s when I was the biggest “jerk”. A “jerk” to the people who actually mattered most to me.
I want to help you avoid this phase altogether by helping you get crystal f*cking clear about who you REALLY are, what you REALLY want, and what you REALLY value.
Once you do this, there’s a version of yourself that will finally emerge. And he will effortlessly be HIMSELF…and your wife will say, “Who are you and what did you do with my husband?!”.
Here are some easy options for you to join us and community of like minded men who already like you for who you are.
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What do I mean by “SERIOUS”?
- We take YOU and your struggles seriously…because we’ve been there
- We know living in a sexless marriage is serious…and so is showing your kids what a healthy affectionate relationship looks like
- A lack of intimacy of all kinds is serious now and for the long term health of your marriage
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
