Hey brother,
Everyone is saying it these days.
Vulnerability is a strength…not a weakness!
This is definitely confusing to married men who have been expressing their feelings and emotional discomfort in their marriage only to be clobbered over the head with their vulnerability.
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It’s a paradox.
Vulnerability can be both a strength AND a weakness.
Vulnerability is strength when we express ourselves from an emotionally secure place. Vulnerability can be powerful and liberating when we share our feelings and fears without apology, without defense, without shame…and without a hidden agenda to get something.
We can feel a surge of self-respect and inner peace when we finally speak our unapologetic truth without fear.
I believe vulnerability is one of the most important traits of a courageous, whole-hearted man. It’s our ticket to a truly authentic presence.
So when is vulnerability a “weakness”?
I explain this in the short video below.
“Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage.” ~ Brene Brown
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While vulnerability requires great courage, I often caution men about the “misuse” of their emotional expressions.
How can we “misuse” vulnerability?
In the context of a struggling marriage or emotional conflict, we can pressure, coerce or manipulate others with our pain.
We may justify our constant sharing of feelings and demand for attention as simple “communication”.
How could she not want to “communicate”?
This is where our coaching gets very direct.
Sharing your unbridled emotions, fears and feelings with your wife is typically ineffective and unwanted.
It can cause more distance, discord and disrespect.
This is why we emphasize the need to be vulnerable with someone who can handle it.
And that someone is another man who totally gets you.
Most men tell me they have few men in their life they can trust.
I think this is the biggest reason I created the Goodguys2Greatmen community. There is no other place I know of with so many strong, wise, compassionate and helpful men.
If you’re a man who is ready to get vulnerable with men you can trust, here are some great options for you.
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What do I mean by “SERIOUS”?
- We take YOU and your struggles seriously…because we’ve been there
- We know living in a sexless marriage is serious…and so is showing your kids what a healthy affectionate relationship looks like
- A lack of intimacy of all kinds is serious now and for the long term health of your marriage
- We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
- We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
