I was running through the woods the other day on my quest to lose a few of my summer pounds.
I like variety and can’t do the same thing over and over again. So I thought I’d do some trail running in the woods behind the house.
Apparently, you’re supposed to look where you’re going.
I was looking down, preoccupied with not twisting an ankle on the pine cones and rocks. That’s when the sneaky tree branch came out of nowhere and whacked me in the head.
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I was only looking at my next step – with no idea where I was headed or what to expect.
It’s a great metaphor and reminder if you’re ever feeling out of control. If you’re feeling stuck in limbo or off balance in your work or relationship it may be because you’ve been looking down.
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If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll spend a lot of your time feeling lost.
When we’re moving through life with our head down worrying about the next thing to go wrong all we see are things about to go wrong.
Then we react to those things only to find another thing waiting after that. We’re on our heels and off balance.
In other words, the world is “happening to us” at every moment. We feel like a victim of circumstance.
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But, what if you could look up long enough to make a plan of your own?
What if you “happened to the world” instead?
What if you realized you were actually the creator of your circumstances instead of a victim of them?
The only way I know to help a man who is feeling out of control, stuck in limbo or off balance is to help him to look farther down the road and make a plan of his own.
And when he does this, the immediate barrage of B.S. in his life becomes less important. He responds to the current distractions more effectively and with less drama.
He can do this because he has a stronger focus on what he is CREATING for himself than what is happening around him.
In the context of a frustrating job or struggling relationship this means you must have a CRYSTAL CLEAR PICTURE of how you plan to change your situation.
You must have an inspiring vision of what you want and what you’re going to create – no matter what!
The most common word I hear men use to describe this mindset is “liberating”. They feel free from the drama of the immediate circumstances because they see how they are free to focus on something brand new of their own making.
What would this mean for you?
What tree branches are smacking you in the head these days because you’re not looking farther ahead?
If you were CRYSTAL CLEAR about what you wanted to create, what would be your next move?
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