Hey brother,
“Say what you mean…but don’t say it mean”
~ Tony Gaskins
I like that quote because it gets to the heart of this newsletter.
If you want to be an effective man, father and husband there are some very basic values you’ll need.
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Deciding that you’re a man who can have serious conversations without resorting to meanness is an example of a VALUE. It’s a guiding MOP (Masculine Operating Principle)
It might sound something like this..
I am a man who treats people with respect and courtesy.
You might even add “even when they don’t appear to deserve it”.
This is very clear. With that value, you’re being very deliberate about the kind of man you are and the kind of masculinity you put out into the world, no matter how the world is trying to trip you up.
Most guys who complain about lack of connection, intimacy and respect in their marriage are battling a serious condition I’ll call LOW VALUES SYNDROME.
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This simply means they don’t have a CLEAR view of who they are, what they believe and what MOP’s guide their everyday interactions.
In this video I want to tell you about the THREE crucial values I think every man needs if he wants to create more connection, intimacy and respect.
I’ll also give specific tips in this video to know when you’re straying out of your lane and how to course correct.
The 3 Crucial Masculine Values
1. I don’t argue about stupid stuff.
2. I don’t defend myself when I don’t need to.
3. I own my emotions and I’m 100% accountable for my actions.
I think these are the most common areas where most of us get stuck.
When we don’t have a CLEARLY WORDED PRINCIPLE around each of these we end up stuck in situations that suck the life out of us.
We wonder why we don’t have more connection with our woman…why she doesn’t want to be intimate…and why we feel so shitty about ourselves.
The reason?
It’s because we don’t know how to steer our own boat. We’re constantly getting blown off course and finding ourselves in arguments and situations that could have been totally avoided.
You need better radar to see that stuff coming and the only way to have that awareness is to make a stand for what you stand for!
This stuff can feel a little overwhelming. It wasn’t until I turned 50 that I even started thinking about the importance of having non-negotiable values for myself and for the life I want to lead.
It was probably the most important and most liberating thing I’ve done. And now I get to talk about this stuff on a daily basis with great men all over the world.
The only thing missing now…is you.
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What do I mean by “SERIOUS”?
- We take YOU and your struggles seriously…because we’ve been there
- We know living in a sexless marriage is serious…and so is showing your kids what a healthy affectionate relationship looks like
- A lack of intimacy of all kinds is serious now and for the long term health of your marriage
- We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
- We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
