How to Rebuild Attraction With Your Wife

Providing support to men who want to rebuild attraction with their wife. Advice to help you be confident in yourself & create the relationship you really want.

A common question of the lonely husbands is “How can I rekindle her desire for me?” Spoiler alert: There’s a different question you should be asking first.

Knowing The Right Question

There’s a “chicken and the egg” situation I want to address right here…right now.

And this is crucial to HOW YOU THINK about getting what you want in life and relationships.

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How you think about everything is the only control you have and all you will ever need.


Because the moment you change the way you think about the things happening in your life…those very things will start changing in front of your eyes.

I’m in the business of helping men CHANGE THEIR PERSPECTIVE about what it means to be a man. I teach them HOW TO THINK differently.

What causes us to become needy, dependent and afraid in relationships?

What is the true source of confidence, clarity and well-being if it’s not in the warm, accepting arms of a woman?

I ask men to tell me what they MOST WANT in the next 6 months. What’s the most important question they need answered?

The #1 Most Popular Question I Get From Men.

“How can I get my wife/girlfriend to like me/love me/pay attention to me/give me affection/desire me/touch me/have sex with me again?”

And then I ask them what they see as their biggest barrier to getting what they want.

The 2nd Most Popular Question I Get From Men.

“How can I find the confidence/strength/self-esteem/courage to be the man I know I can be?”

You see the problem already, don’t you? (my readers are incredibly smart, intuitive people…I know this)

Those two questions need to be flip-flopped.

There is no mystery about which comes first – confidence or attractiveness.

We must FOCUS on the real problem and make it our top priority.

Your sense of confidence/strength/self-esteem/courage precedes every positive thing you want to create.

And, obviously, if you have the OPPOSITE of those things…you will create nothing you want.

I talk about this more in this video.

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Rebuild Attraction With Confidence

Self-help is a popular route to gaining confidence. Sometimes it’s quite effective.

However, you can overdose on self-help when it becomes a search for INFORMATION…TIPS…HACKS…OR TRICKS.

There is NO QUICK FIX to learning true confidence. It takes conscious action and application to real-world situations.

Consistency is key to learning a new habit and creating new patterns in your behavior.

When I wrote my book, Straight Talk Tools for the Desperate Husband, I purposely put in all kinds of examples of situations, dialog, conversations and case studies to help you TAKE ACTION.

I know it’s ACTION that will cause the shift you need in your thinking and your confidence. And when this happens, I get an email like this:

“I know this sounds maybe funny to some, but it is just so damn easy living with this sense of calm, knowing that it is just a movie, an exciting, thrilling virtual reality. If you want passion, it’s yours, if you want love, right there it is, if you want adventure, bang …you can have it. What is also really exciting is the realization that if you want pain, hate, guilt, sadness, loneliness, those too are simply choices that you can make to acquire those things.” (Matt – 2/2018)

Self-help CAN BE quite effective when you know how to turn the information into action.

Get the book by going HERE. The Kindle version is only $7.99. (available now in paperback too)

Another Way To Learn Confidence Quickly

Gaining confidence is MUCH easier with other high-quality men in your life who believe in you perhaps more than you believe in yourself at the moment.

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When you become a member of this Roundtable, you will get:

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on many television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels discussing the coaching and psychology factors relating to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides personal, practical, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats, group coaching and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and the right mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor for men who teaches his clients how to discover their masculine strength so they can confidently take the actions required to create the life and relationships that they really want. With over 10 years experience he has created thousands of videos and articles for well known relationship websites such as The Good Men Project, Medium and the Gottman Institute.
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