How To Have Connected, Playful Relationships

I want to talk with you about living in the kind of life and relationship you really, really want.

That last sentence has a key word in it.

It’s the word “living”.

Note, I didn’t say “getting” the life you want or “having” the life you want.

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Those two words imply there is somewhere you must GO to achieve the life you want.

But, what if living that life is a place you come FROM, not a place to get TO?

What if you just DECIDED to start living the life you want right this moment?

What kind of man would you have to BE in order to make that choice?

I know…those last 3 questions are complex and may feel unclear to you.

I’ve had trouble being challenged with the same questions.

It’s because I’ve always thought that a passionate, fun, connected, meaningful, engaged, affectionate and sexual life was something that would happen to me.

It was something outside of me where I would have to go “find” it or it would eventually appear for me.

I’m finding out that is total horse crap. And I know horse crap when I see it.

I’ve learned that we’ve been slowly conditioned to be AFRAID OF BEING passionate, fun, connected, meaningful, engaged, affectionate and sexual men!

But that’s the only power we’ve ever had. We were BORN with those things!

Nobody has ever taken them away from us. But we have given away the power to own who we are. We are now gripped with fear to BE who we are and live how we want to live.

We seek permission – acceptance – reciprocation – validation. We wait for others to give us what we want instead of just LIVING HOW WE WANT.

I have a simple example that I use to remind myself of how fun life is, all the time.

A Golden Retriever!

These dogs don’t give a shit. They laugh, love, lick and play any damn time they want to – and they NEVER apologize for being a Golden Retriever.

A Golden Retriever does not wait for permission to live an engaged, playful, affectionate life.

He doesn’t hope for happy and fulfilling relationships – he wakes up every day expecting he will have them. He DEMANDS it!

And he is irresistible.

There’s a lesson there for you and I. It hit me today while I was walking outside. It’s the perfect analogy to explain what’s possible for you. So I made this video just for you to explain it further.

I have a 7-Day Challenge for you too at the end – if you choose to accept the mission!
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If you’ve watched the video, you’ll see why it applies directly to the topic of living the life you want.

I’d love you to contact me and tell me how it feels to grab life by the balls – like a Golden Retriever – making no apologies.

See? You really do have the ability to change your own circumstances anytime you want!

I wrote a free e-book to help men learn how to lose their fear and be more bold in their marriage to create the love and connection they want. Get The Hard to Swallow Truth About Saving Your Marriage.

If you want to learn more about how to take a bigger step toward being a clear-headed, confident man of action, then find out more here. I would be thrilled to help you get there – our first discovery call is always free and always gives you a BIG boost of confidence.

You WILL become a clearer, stronger, more confident man only through other men. Your woman cannot take you there – and she doesn’t WANT to…trust me on that.

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on many television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels discussing the coaching and psychology factors relating to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides personal, practical, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats, group coaching and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and the right mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor for men who teaches his clients how to discover their masculine strength so they can confidently take the actions required to create the life and relationships that they really want. With over 10 years experience he has created thousands of videos and articles for well known relationship websites such as The Good Men Project, Medium and the Gottman Institute.
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