6 Counter-Intuitive Ways Men Saved Their Marriage

Are you a man who wants to IMMEDIATLY IMPROVE his relationship? In this article I explain six counter-intuitive ways men have saved their marriage – and I see this happen over and over again.

Most men refuse to even try the advice in this article… Because it sounds… well… stupid. Even though it sounds stupid, the proof is in the pudding.

A man operating from fear will say:

“If I follow this stupid advice, I’ll be giving her exactly what she wants and THAT is to be rid of me! She will only move farther away!”

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So he keeps doing what he’s been doing with zero results.

More pursuit. More pressure.

More avoidance. More distance.

More anger. More resentment.

In a few weeks I’ll hear back from these guys asking for another call.

When I get them to breathe, slow down and listen I will then explain WHY the “stupid advice” is so important.

6 Counter-Intuitive Ways Men Have Saved Their Marriage

The process is simple

It’s based in the counter-intuitive principle of LESS is MORE.

Step 1: Ask fewer questions about your relationship and her feelings

Step 2: Make fewer attempts to make her physically connect with you

Step 3: Stop talking so much about how bad you feel and what you need

Step 4: Stop talking so much about stuff you’re reading about marriage

Step 5: Stop giving so many f*cks about what she is thinking, who she is talking to, why she’s so unhappy and what you need to do to make her like you

Step 6: Spend less time alone and wallowing in your own anxiety and urgency to fix everything now.

The reason this 6-step process has an immediate beneficial effect on your relationship is because it immediately reduces the PRESSURE.

Emotional neediness, interrogations, expectations and urgency to soothe your fears are all forms of PRESSURE.

Pressure is immediately repulsive, scary and unattractive.

Pressure is how you got to this point to start with.

A Man Who Creates The OPPOSITE Of Pressure will IMMEDIATLY IMPROVE His Relationship.

An important part of creating the opposite of pressure is spending more productive, healthy and growth oriented time with yourself.

Men who begin to take care of their own emotional and intellectual needs are immediately more attractive and trustable.

Men who take care of their own sense of confidence and well-being are immediately more emotionally safe for women.

This post was made yesterday in our secret Facebook group where men like this hang out. (this is word for word)

“Hey Brothers. Been a while since I posted and just wanted to check in. Things still going well between my wife and I. I’m totally outcome independent now and don’t feel any impatience. She senses this and is chattier than ever – laughing and sharing with me daily. Still a long, long way to go for us both, but I feel….content and in charge of my life again. Thanks to all of you and for the course – It gave me so much guidance through this uncharted territory. Feel free to reach out to me if you need anything guys.”

These kinds of posts warm my heart.

He has taken charge of himself and his responses to her.

He has taken ownership of his own patience and contentment.

And he feels confident enough to help other men who are still trying to figure out the process!

A man who takes action for himself is a man who can IMMEDIATLY IMPROVE his relationship. He realizes operating from fear creates the opposite of what he wants. Start using the 6 counter-intuitive behaviors from this article to get counter-intuitive results in your marriage!

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Steve Horsmon Certified Professional Men’s Coach
Steve Horsmon is a Certified Professional Life Coach and owner of Goodguys2Greatmen Relationship Coaching in Livermore, Colorado. He has appeared on well known coachign and psychology television, radio, youtube, and podcast channels related to maintaining healthy relationships. Steve provides intensely personal, action oriented coaching services for men through 1-on-1 coaching, private retreats and workshops designed to give men new knowledge, skills and mindset to achieve their relationship goals. He is a committed, lifelong mentor who teaches his clients to discover their masculine power, take bold action and create the life they want. He has written articles and guest blogs for numerous relationship and expert websites.

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