Hey brother,
I want to talk with you about your mindset.
It’s everything. And without the proper mindset, well, we’re pretty much screwed in every facet of life.
The wrong mindset can rob you of the future you secretly want. It holds your future hostage until you pay the ransom. It’s a steep price. You must make a decision and a choice to change it – no matter what.
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Your mindset can be the negative, self-limiting, self-destructive kind that will make you miserable forever.
Or it can be the positive, self-validating, self-confident kind that will permanently liberate you from depending on others for your happiness.
A huge portion of the male population these days is stuck in the mud of a negative mindset.
They might be frustrated and angry at circumstances they don’t think they can change. Or maybe they blame others in their life for making them feel hopeless or uninspired.
They might believe that only the “lucky” guys are born with confidence, attractiveness and feelings of pride and personal value.
Or they might believe that women “have all the power” when it comes to feeling like a strong man and having the passionate life they crave.
Today I want to give you a very clear reminder that those thoughts are a load of crap.
Absolute myths. But they are what keeps many of us from making the choice to believe and behave differently.
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And it’s those thoughts that make us feel like victims who have no control over the outcome of our life and relationships. We might be waiting for work, women or the world to deal us a new hand so we can start a new game.
This is what I know.
This is the only game there is.
We don’t get a new hand to play with.
We have to change the way we SEE the cards we’ve been dealt and realize that it’s only our responses and our decisions that will change how the game goes.
I spent 50 years staring at the cards wondering when I might get some new ones. I thought if I just stayed steady, “nice” and compliant that good things would happen.
I was wrong. It was that mindset that kept me dissatisfied in many jobs. It was that mindset that kept me painfully oblivious to the signs of a woman checking out of a relationship.
Good things cannot come to us until we decide to stop the bad things holding us back.
What are those things for you?
Who are the people in your life who suck life and inspiration out of you?
What places do you go that keep your mindset in a persistent state of negativity?
What things do you buy or bring into your life which have no contribution to your growth or feelings of personal ambition?
And what habits have you adopted that quietly erode your sense of personal power and productivity?
For a lot of men, those questions are too hard to answer. It’s easier to ignore them and turn the TV back on.
But not for you. You’re here because you want to push yourself.
The first step in changing your mindset is to change those things which sap you of personal initiative and ambition. Only then can you create the time and emotional capacity to starting pursuing those things that inspire you to change your mindset and live a more powerful life.
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
