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  • Wife Said She Doesn't Need Sex
1407, 2021

My Wife Said She Doesn’t Need Sex

By |July 14th, 2021|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Has your Wife Said She Doesn't Need Sex? You may also be hearing "you're needy", "I don't like being touched", "All you ever think about is sex" and there's a distinct lack of basic affection in your relationship.  The good news is that here's a well known reason behind this behaviour (it relates to your attachment style which I wrote about here.) Now this article is bound to tick off [...]

207, 2021

Should I Leave My Sexless Marriage?

By |July 2nd, 2021|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Are you questioning whether to leave your sexless marriage. Maybe you're wondering whether your partner has a low sex drive. Or perhaps you've heard the question, "Is sex so important to you that you would leave me and our kids?" Bill and Sarah were at it again...over the last 15 years it seemed this conversation had no end. But that didn’t stop Bill from trying. Bill: “We can’t just keep [...]

  • GG2GM Live Tribe Online Men's Group
107, 2021

FREE Live Tribe Brotherhood Group Calls

By |July 1st, 2021|Categories: Marriage, Relationships|

It's a very simple concept. Men need other men for support, guidance, encouragement and brotherly love. Period. And especially when sh*t hits the fan...say... like a global pandemic, we need each other more than ever. That's why we are continuing our free, live men's group support Zoom calls for connection, conversation, sharing and laughing. Every week, one of our coaches from all over the world will be hosting a 90-minute [...]

  • Wife Acting Like She's Not Married
2506, 2021

Is Your Wife Acting Like She’s Not Married?

By |June 25th, 2021|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Is Your Wife Acting Like She's Not Married? She's never interested in talking or spending time together and affection is non-existent or cold and functional... What are you to do when your marriage no longer feels like a marriage? This story may sound familiar. Act married? What the hell does that mean? I'll tell you. It's my article, so I get to define it. Marriage is, by my definition, a [...]

  • disconnected wife
2206, 2021

My Wife Has Disconnected From Our Marriage

By |June 22nd, 2021|Categories: Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Are you feeling like your wife has disconnected from your marriage? I speak to a lot of men who are unhappy and in pain because of the state of their intimate relationship. Men who are dealing with the pain of lack of connection and affection, lack of attraction and desire, lack of trust and respect, impending divorce or separation... I'm also very lucky to speak to a lot of men [...]

  • have more sex
2206, 2021

How to Build More Intimacy In Your Marriage

By |June 22nd, 2021|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Do you want to know how to build more intimacy in your marriage? This was the continually repeating question in my head during my 28 year marriage.. I recently read about a study on the LiveScience website titled, “Women Prize Men Who Try to Understand Their Emotions”.  My first reaction was, “Well, no kidding!”.   But as I read a little further and understood the nature of the study, one conclusion [...]

  • frustrated husband
2206, 2021

Stuck In a Sexless Marriage?

By |June 22nd, 2021|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Are you stuck in a Sexless Marriage? Are you wondering what's the point and questioning whether your only choice for passion and intimacy is to find a different woman? A while back I heard from a woman who was absolutely stunned by her husband’s “cluelessness”.  As you might guess, building sexual intimacy is extremely difficult with a “stunned woman”.  Good news!  YOU have a tremendous personal ability to prevent “Stunned [...]

  • Wife wants a divorce
1305, 2021

My Wife Wants a Divorce

By |May 13th, 2021|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

Have you just heard that your wife wants a divorce? Maybe you're unsure if that's what she wants but it's what you're afraid is true. Steve and I recently ran a free Goodguys2Greatmen Live Tribe call on the topic of being a Happily Divorced Man (you can access these recorded sessions by joining our Roundtable membership). A happily divorced man (HDM) is a concept we talk about a lot in [...]

  • Improve Your Marriage
1105, 2021

How to Improve Your Marriage

By |May 11th, 2021|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

We speak to me who want to know how to improve their marriage, but one of the most common things we hear them say when they first contact us is "My wife is unhappy but she doesn't know what she wants. What can I do?" If a woman knows what she wants then she's probably heading toward it and she'll let you know. If she doesn't know, then she's probably [...]

  • More Sex in My Marriage
1105, 2021

How to Have More Sex in My Marriage

By |May 11th, 2021|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

If there's one question that I hear from men all the time it's "how to have more sex in my marriage" and I get it, who doesn't want to know the secret to attracting her and having more fun and affection? Let me be clear. It's perfectly NORMAL to desire sex with your woman. It's perfectly HEALTHY to engage in frequent and mutually satisfying sex. And It's perfectly ACCEPTABLE make [...]

  • how to recover your failing marriage
905, 2021

How To Recover Your Failing Marriage

By |May 9th, 2021|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I know how it feels to want to recover your failing marriage, I recognise the all-encompassing anxiety and fear that knots up your stomach and affects your ability to concentrate on anything else. And I'm here to help show you the path forward for your marriage and for every other area of your life too. In times of crisis (viral and relational) we go into overdrive gathering all the information [...]

  • wife doesn't feel safe
905, 2021

My Wife Doesn’t Feel Safe With Me

By |May 9th, 2021|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

The realisation that your wife doesn't feel safe with you or that she doesn't trust you can be very confusing, especially when there's no history of abuse, violence or even much arguing in your history with her. Of course it's more complicated than it first appears. With all that is going on in the world at this moment in time, your future may be feeling the most uncertain and unsafe [...]

  • Wife is happier around other people
805, 2021

My Wife is Happy Around Everyone Else But Me

By |May 8th, 2021|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Have you ever though to yourself "My Wife is Happy Around Everyone Else But Me" - I recognise this thought too, and the feelings of confusion and frustration that came with it. I get an email like the one below about twice a week. Same story. Same question. Different guy. Hell, I was this guy years ago so I totally get it. Here we go. "Steve, I think my story [...]

  • Wife hates needy husband
305, 2021

My Wife Said She Doesn’t Have Feelings For Me Anymore

By |May 3rd, 2021|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

We talk to men every day who say "My Wife Said She Doesn't Have Feelings For Me Anymore" - it can be a bombshell to us. What does it mean? What can you do? What is going on in your relationship that causes her to say something like this? There's an ability that you have in your tool kit which you may not even be aware of and almost certainly [...]

  • wife criticising and disrespecting husband
2904, 2021

My Wife Is So Critical – What Can I Do?

By |April 29th, 2021|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I talk to men all the time who say "My wife is so critical Why? What can I do to make her relax so we can get back to having an awesome time together again..?" Have you ever heard this quote? "You Teach People How to Treat You" It's been around since the first caveman got knocked in the head with a club. He had to figure out how to [...]

  • Sexless marriage
2804, 2021

My Wife Never Initiates Sex…What Can I Do?

By |April 28th, 2021|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

"My wife never initiates sex, what do I do?" - Does this sound familiar? Have you asked yourself this question? Today's article and video come from a recent discussion with a coaching client which I know many of you will be interested in... Do women want sex as much as men do? If you're reading this article I'm presuming that this question has crossed your mind at some point (I [...]

  • Wife always criticises me
1304, 2021

My Wife Always Criticises Me

By |April 13th, 2021|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I was talking with a client the other day and he told me had never seen RAGE like he saw in his wife's face. They were having a heated discussion and he decided to just end it by calling her the "C" word. It's the one word women have told me they hate hearing more than any other name you could call them. And it's not what you might be [...]

  • Confident man, fearless man
1004, 2021

How to Become a Fearless Man

By |April 10th, 2021|Categories: Communication, Masculinity, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Are you looking for help on becoming a fearless man, or becoming a confident man, or overcoming your fears as a man in today's society and difficult relationship landscape? The message I have for you today is simple... Confidence. Pure, unedited, open-hearted, easy going and unapologetic manly confidence! It’s what separates those who “happen to the world” and those who “wonder what happened”. It’s what separates engaged, happy men who [...]

  • Wife threatened divorce
2703, 2021

My Wife Said She Feels Smothered – Why?

By |March 27th, 2021|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Has your wife said she feels smothered? Do you ever feel like you're chasing affection and she's running the other way? Do you ever feel like the BEST relationship you'll ever have is just walking on eggshells and not pissing each other off? Many smart, accomplished and otherwise confident men think their only relationship option is settling because they don't know what else to do. Or they are getting some [...]

  • Stressed out wife
903, 2021

My Wife’s Stress is Causing ME Stress

By |March 9th, 2021|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

One of the most common issues men struggle with in relationships is how we handle a woman when she's in an emotional state. I know that I failed to understand my ability to help her step out of those storms for a good 10+ years of my marriage. It's not a simple thing to do when you're in the heat of the moment - especially when you're not expecting it. [...]

  • Arguing with wife
903, 2021

I Don’t Want to Be Married Anymore

By |March 9th, 2021|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

Are you in a marriage that is unhappy, disconnected, disrespectful and totally lacking in the kind of closeness and connection that you want? Have you said to yourself, "I don't want to be married anymore." Or maybe "I'm unhappy in my shitty marriage." This is one of the most talked about issues in my Facebook communities. Men are always asking, "Why can't I let go?!" and "Why am I so [...]

  • wife doesn't want sex
2202, 2021

Is This Why Your Wife Turns You Down For Sex?

By |February 22nd, 2021|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

There's not much that stings a man quite as deeply as the rejection of our desire to connect with our intimate partners physically. It's the thing that separates this relationship from just being a platonic friendship. It's what we crave and enjoy so much. And she enjoys it too, right!! So what causes her to turn away or make up any of a hundred excuses to avoid having to connect [...]

  • Different types of turn on
1102, 2021

Different Types of Turn On and How to Help Her Access Them

By |February 11th, 2021|Categories: The Feminine Perspective|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

There are many different things that turn women on and they often don't even look remotely linked to sex or pleasure. Sometimes her turn on is predictable, other times it's totally unpredictable, but it's always there, like a treasure to be uncovered and cultivated. In this video Shana and Alexis discuss: A treasure map to a woman’s attraction -- which you seriously need because her attraction keeps moving! The kinds [...]

  • connection with women
3101, 2021

Important Ways to Create Connection With Women

By |January 31st, 2021|Categories: The Feminine Perspective|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Many times a woman feeling connected with you is what needs to happen before she can feel attracted to you or even enjoy your attention, so the feeling of being connected to you is what often enables her desire to be closer and more intimate with you. In this video Shana discusses... A woman's epiphany about what was really killing her attraction for her husband Shana's experience of shifting from [...]

  • Needy husband needy man
3001, 2021

My Wife Said “You Need To Get A Life!”

By |January 30th, 2021|Categories: Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , |

Have you ever been told to "get a life" by your wife or girlfriend? It feels both insulting and confusing. She's implying you're being a pain in her ass. She thinks you should find something better to do than what you're doing now. And you're confused because you assumed that being with her was a big part of your life. Your relationship is a priority to you. How can she [...]

  • Attractive man attractive husband
3001, 2021

How to Become a More Attractive Man

By |January 30th, 2021|Categories: Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

In today's newsletter I want to talk about the difference between what we do here at Goodguys2Greatmen and the myriad of other men's support / therapy / counselling / Guru's etc We are a community of men who give a shit about each other, who are willing to talk about ANYTHING that we're going through, who are willing to open up and be truthful about real shit that happened in [...]

  • Did i marry the wrong person?
1501, 2021

I Think I Married The Wrong Person, What Now?

By |January 15th, 2021|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

The holiday season can be brutal for everyone. I don't need to list all the irregular crap couples have to endure throughout the season. You know about the stress of the expenses, expectations, travel and unruly relatives. Many men cringe at all of the drama and don't know how to cope. It seems the safest route is to just follow orders and try to make everyone happy. But the "safest" [...]

  • Happy marriage
301, 2021

How To Create The Marriage You Really Want This Year

By |January 3rd, 2021|Categories: Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Let me give you something else that could be immensely more useful to you as you stare yet another new year in the face. Someone recently told me they seek me out for my "aged wisdom". They hoped I could give them some guidance to help them avoid some of the potholes of life in which I've already stepped. I've decided to not take the word "aged" personally and I [...]

  • Marriage Counselling isn't working
2212, 2020

Marriage Counselling Isn’t Helping Us

By |December 22nd, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Every relationship "expert" in the world thinks they have the secret sauce for making a happy, sexual relationship. I'm no expert, but I think the truth is the "recipe" is pretty complex. It's full of ingredients that need to be measured and added in the right sequence. And timing is crucial because if you do the right thing at the wrong time everything goes haywire. Then multiply this complexity by [...]

  • My Marriage Sucks
2012, 2020

The Only Two Things That Can Change A Sucky Marriage

By |December 20th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

This quotation has been following me around for years. It haunts me every now and then with its stark truth and implied personal challenge. Only two things change your life: either something new comes into your life, or something new comes out of you. ~ Brendan Burchard The part that gets me is the implied threat that if I don't figure out something new to come out me then I'll [...]

  • Masculine confidence save your marriage
1212, 2020

How Masculine Confidence Can Save Your Marriage

By |December 12th, 2020|Categories: Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Have you ever reached a point in your life where you feel like a never ending shit storm has taken control of you and your sense of peace and well-being? That was my morning yesterday. I woke up to this. I must admit something to you. I don't handle this as well as I'd like to. With all my advice about "changing your perspective" and "being an unrattled mountain lion"... [...]

  • Wife doesn't want to be intimate
612, 2020

Why Doesn’t My Wife Want To Be Intimate With Me?

By |December 6th, 2020|Categories: Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

“Say what you mean...but don't say it mean” ~ Tony Gaskins I like that quote because it gets to the heart of this article. If you want to be an effective man, father and husband there are some very basic values you'll need. Deciding that you're a man who can have serious conversations without resorting to meanness is an example of a VALUE. It's a guiding MOP (Masculine Operating Principle) [...]

  • Confident man confident husband
2011, 2020

How to Feel More Confident and Strong in Your Marriage

By |November 20th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

“The more you love yourself, the less nonsense you'll tolerate.” ~ Earnest Hemingway, possibly This quote caught my eye because it speaks to a deeper level of self-awareness I think every man needs. Do you actually LIKE yourself when nobody is watching? ***** One of the biggest reasons men THINK they are experiencing negativity, sadness or rejection is because they secretly think they need someone to LIKE them. And when [...]

  • boring marriage
1311, 2020

My Wife Said She’s Not Attracted to Me Anymore

By |November 13th, 2020|Categories: Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

This may make all the sense in the world to some of you and to others, it won't. We talk to a lot of men who have similar characteristics... They are intelligent, successful in their careers, good partners, committed parents, loving sons, brothers and friends... In every area of their lives they have respect, admiration and confidence, except at home in their most important relationship with their wife or partner. [...]

  • Happy Sexual Marriage
111, 2020

How To Create a More Sexual Marriage

By |November 1st, 2020|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

“When you get to the end zone, act like you've been there before” ~ Tom Landry, Vince Lombardi or Bear Bryant I've always loved that quote. It was in response to the emerging tradition of "End Zone Celebrations" in the U.S. National Football League in the late 1960's. The coaches disliked the childish practice and wanted the players to have a mature, professional and ABUNDANT mindset about getting into the [...]

  • struggling marriage
3010, 2020

How to Use Hope to Reconcile Your Marriage

By |October 30th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Desmond Tutu said: Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness. When I tell men to: Quit hoping for a reconciliation. Quit hoping for her to come to her senses and not divorce you. Quit hoping for her to fall back in love with you again. ...I'm not saying HOPE is a bad thing. Hope can be very useful when applied correctly. But [...]

  • wife wants to leave
1010, 2020

I’m Scared of Losing My Wife and Family

By |October 10th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

There they were. Moments from certain death. The smoke filled their lungs. The flames shot out nearly burning one of them to death. And the booming voice threatened to destroy them if they didn't follow his instructions. Then, in an instant, they knew they weren't going to die. What happened? Dorothy's dog, Toto, pulled the curtain back to reveal the TRUTH. Some little wizard bully with a microphone was culprit. [...]

  • wife doesn't love me
1010, 2020

How to Handle Your Runaway Wife

By |October 10th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I give a lot of advice that seems to make no damn sense. Guys are usually raring to do something...anything... when their wife starts acting a little squirrelly and wanting some space and independence. And when it comes to a certain question, I always get resistance until the client actually implements the advice. What's the question? How in the world can I get her back if I don't talk to [...]

  • We always argue
2109, 2020

Why Arguing About Sex Gets You Less Sex

By |September 21st, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Have you ever argued with your wife or girlfriend about sex? During my 28 years with my now ex-wife I can't count how many finely crafted arguments I initiated. Because I think I'm smart, logical and persuasive I thought arguing about sex would somehow yield a different result. I'm almost embarrassed to admit how stupid and hard-headed I was for so long. I guess some of the best lessons in [...]

  • Unhappy marriage husband wants to leave
2009, 2020

I’m Stuck In An Unhappy Marriage

By |September 20th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I know your eyes are drawn to the Emotional Umbilical Cord graphic below and you’re thinking, “WTF?” Look away…look away. I have a point to make. What’s my point? Couples spend way too much time feeding off each other’s energy. And it destroys their relationship and their own happiness. In this article I will explain why you need to cut the unhealthy emotional umbilical cord connecting you to your partner. [...]

  • Wife wants a divorce
1109, 2020

My Wife Just Said She Wants A Divorce, And Now I Can’t Think

By |September 11th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

It's counter intuitive but when your "wife just said she wants a divorce," sometimes a good laugh is the last thing on your mind, but exactly what you need! Laughing releases all kinds of feel-good endorphins which is why Tim Wade and I made sure to add lots of humor in our new How to Defuse The Divorce Bomb course. In this 8-hour, deep dive, online coaching course we go [...]

  • The sexiest a husband can be
1009, 2020

The Quickest Way To Stop Hating Your Marriage

By |September 10th, 2020|Categories: Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

"She kept saying it - this is the best day ever!" How long is it since you last heard someone say that to you?! I love that quote. It's from a client call I had last week - sounds pretty amazing huh?! His marriage wasn't in a good place. He wasn't in a good place. Everything was straining and under pressure. So he decided to do something for himself, something [...]

  • from angry to calm and confident man
1708, 2020

How To Go From Angry and Frustrated, To Calm and Confident

By |August 17th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

My dad had a hair-trigger temper. The nut doesn't fall far from the tree. I still grapple with anger sometimes triggered by the stupidest things. Bad drivers are a good example. There are millions of them! But I'm learning to pause better when one of them pisses me off. I think of a famous quote by comedian, George Carlin. Have you ever noticed that everyone who drives faster than you [...]

  • Wife wants a divorce but I don't
1708, 2020

My Wife Wants A Divorce But I Don’t – What Should I Do?

By |August 17th, 2020|Categories: Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Every single man in my community is painfully aware of what "Marital PTSD" means. It's that gutted feeling of loss, sadness and fear. And just like in war some of us recover and move on and some of us don't. What's the difference between these two guys? It's our ability to see deeper into the GIFT being offered. And it's the determination to NOT ALLOW the circumstances to own us [...]

  • Wife not interested in sex
1008, 2020

Why is My Wife Not Interested in Me Sexually?

By |August 10th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I've made my annual trek to the top of an 8 foot ladder this week to spend time with the hummingbirds of summer. I do this each year to remind myself the importance of staying OUT of the "Hummingbird Zone". What's that? It's the jittery, unpeaceful and insecure feeling that tells you, "I'm NOT okay...DO SOMETHING...ANYTHING now!" I use the hummingbird as a metaphor for that competitive, nervous, impatient energy [...]

  • How to become a better lover
108, 2020

Become a Better Lover Through Tantra with Krystal Taylor

By |August 1st, 2020|Categories: Sex Advice From Women|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Do you want to learn how to become a better lover? Even if your partner doesn't seem motivated to do the same, you can lead her into more sexual wholeness, maturity and pleasure! Tantra is a powerful and ancient practice that brings consciousness to your life as a whole as well as your sex life. Tantric teachings help you become a better person and a better lover. You can [...]

  • have more sex
3007, 2020

Have More Sex by Owning Your Sexual Needs with Alison Armstrong

By |July 30th, 2020|Categories: Sex Advice From Women|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

What women really find sexy in you that you may be holding back and how to effectively communicate your desire for sex so you get to have much more of it! In this podcast episode Alison Armstrong and Shana James discuss how to help women understand men’s Sexual Needs! Alison is the woman to call when you want to get right to the heart of [...]

  • sexually confident man
3007, 2020

Becoming a Sexually Confident Man with Karen Brody

By |July 30th, 2020|Categories: Sex Advice From Women|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

What might your sex life be like without doubt or shame affecting your performance in bed or your ability to give a woman pleasure? Can you image what your sex life would be like if you didn't feel doubt or shame about your performance in bed or your ability to give a woman pleasure?  Karen Brody and I talk today about what this could be like for you -- [...]

  • Transform sexless relationship
3007, 2020

How to Transform a Sexless Relationship with Karen Brody

By |July 30th, 2020|Categories: Sex Advice From Women|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

What makes a Sexless Relationship and how to have more of the affection, love and sex you want. An honest look into a Sexless Relationship by two women coaches (who love men and have worked with them for more than a decade) and how to have more of the affection, love and sex you want […]

  • How to Make sex more fun
3007, 2020

Simple Experiments For Better Sex with Alyssa Morin

By |July 30th, 2020|Categories: Sex Advice From Women|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Are you confused by complicated techniques and positions? Alyssa provides simple experiments for a hotter and more connected love life. Many people are overwhelmed and confused by complicated techniques and positions that are supposed to create spark and passion. This episode gives you simple experiments for a hotter and more connected love life. Listen to Episode 1: http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/betterlovelife-alyssa.mp3 Listen to Episode 2: http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/allysa-bettersex2.mp3 Show notes Have you ever wanted more [...]

3007, 2020

Why Your Wife And Marriage Is Sexless

By |July 30th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I've discovered that a LOT of us have real hard time answering a really simple question. Knowing the answer clearly and concisely can be the difference between a guy wallowing in limbo for years and a guy who quickly and consciously moves forward. I think I know why it's so hard to answer...it's because we're too busy focusing on another question instead. What's the simple question? "What do you want?" [...]

  • how to become an amazing lover
2307, 2020

How to Become An Amazing Lover

By |July 23rd, 2020|Categories: The Feminine Perspective|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Have you ever wondered how women describe their most amazing sexual experiences with men? In this video Shana and Alexis do just that... Just as we teach you that you need MEN to teach you how to be a MAN… we believe you need smart, mature, whole-hearted WOMEN to teach what it’s like to be a WOMAN. A critical part of “cracking the feminine code” is being able to [...]

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2307, 2020

Do Women Need to Feel Connected to Have Sex?

By |July 23rd, 2020|Categories: The Feminine Perspective|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Do you get confused and frustrated by all the different information out there about what you need to do to create the right environment for your partner to want sex? In this video Shana and Alexis give you the real truth... Just as we teach you that you need MEN to teach you how to be a MAN… we believe you need smart, mature, whole-hearted WOMEN to teach what it’s [...]

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2307, 2020

Does Size Matter?

By |July 23rd, 2020|Categories: The Feminine Perspective|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Do you ever find yourself feeling subconscious and wondering whether the size of your manhood makes a difference to how much she enjoys being with you sexually? In this video Alexis and Shana give you the low down... Just as we teach you that you need MEN to teach you how to be a MAN… we believe you need smart, mature, whole-hearted WOMEN to teach what it’s like to be [...]

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2307, 2020

Why do Women Lose Interest in Sex and How to Rekindle the Spark

By |July 23rd, 2020|Categories: The Feminine Perspective|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Are you struggling with the lack of sex in your marriage or relationship? Have you tried talking about it and things just seem to be getting worse...? In this video Alexis and Shana uncover the hidden reasons that things have dried up and what she really needs from you... Just as we teach you that you need MEN to teach you how to be a MAN… we believe you [...]

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2307, 2020

Men’s 4 Most Common Questions About Sex

By |July 23rd, 2020|Categories: The Feminine Perspective|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Are you frustrated and confused about what women want and need from you around sex, making them feel wanted, desired and sexy? In this video, Steve and Dan put your most common sex "yeah but..." questions to Shana and Alexis....

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107, 2020

Meet the Divine Feminine For Deeper Intimacy with Jenny Adams

By |July 1st, 2020|Categories: Sex Advice From Women|Tags: |

How to be with a woman who is bitchy and resentful in a way that makes her soften with you through the gift of your masculinity. In this incredibly rare conversation you'll hear from a woman who has expansively opened her heart and sensuality, who wants you to feel more powerful and met by women. http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/Rapture-Jenny.mp3 Show notes on the divine feminine In this conversation we covered: What divine feminine orgasm [...]

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2806, 2020

My Wife Abuses Me, What Should I Do?

By |June 28th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I may lose a few subscribers with this article...but it must be done. My hope for this message is to challenge and empower you to think differently about feeling offended, insulted, manipulated, controlled or abused. The internet abounds with countless experts trying to help people know when they are being abused and how to escape their evil perpetrators. These experts arm them with tips, tools and vocabulary to identify their [...]

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2006, 2020

Why Is My Wife No Longer Attracted To Me?

By |June 20th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I'm seeing a very clear and amusing trend in many of the men in my community. What is it? INCREASED SEX APPEAL. What's this, you ask? Let me answer that with a short story. A while back at one of my men's bi-weekly meetings in Fort Collins, a guy told us of an interaction with his girlfriend. It came time for him to leave that evening for our men's meeting [...]

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2006, 2020

Why Won’t My Wife Talk To Me Anymore?

By |June 20th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

"We were having a great time and then all of a sudden I could see her shutting down. What can I do when that happens?" We hear this question all the time from the men in our community. Sometimes it sounds like... "She spends so much time in her room not engaging with me or the kids, how can I help her to reconnect with us?" It's a common issue [...]

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2006, 2020

How Can I Be More Confident In My Marriage?

By |June 20th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

There's a very special trait many of the men in our "tribe" have in common and it drives them absolutely crazy. What is it? It's the feeling of LOST CONFIDENCE. Have you ever felt this? This is what it sounds like: "I used to be so self-assured. Back in college and when I first met my wife I felt like I had it all figured out. Nobody could knock me [...]

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3105, 2020

Wife Wants to Divorce, I Feel Like I’m Dying, Help!

By |May 31st, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Two years ago I spent an intense hour talking with a frantic guy who was facing divorce. I never heard from him again...until this week. His email was fairly short and to the point. "I talked to you probably 2 years ago. Didn't move forward with any counseling. Ended up with a divorce. In the divorce I gave her everything. Then there was a house fire where I moved and [...]

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2505, 2020

5 Steps to Reignite Your Sexless Marriage

By |May 25th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I remember the feeling of being confident in every area of my life, achieving at work, a healthy and well proportioned body, good relationships with my kids and family...and yet my confidence around my wife was at an all time low. I tried everything I could think of to show her how much I cared, how important she was to me, how attractive I found her, and she backed away [...]

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2405, 2020

How to Make the Hardest Decision of Your Life

By |May 24th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Each day I day talk to men on the hairy edge of making a decision. They may be stuck in the "Limbo Land" of a marriage that is spiraling out of control with no resolution in sight. Or they may feel trapped in a job or career that is sucking their soul out of their body on a daily basis. Or they want to speak their truth to somebody so [...]

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1705, 2020

Why Does My Wife Avoid Me?

By |May 17th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Does your wife or girlfriend sometimes act like she would rather be anywhere on this planet but with you? Does this get under your skin and make you boiling mad? Do you feel hurt, unappreciated and ignored? Let's talk about how men, women (and horses, of course) feel the PRESSURE to get away. Let's talk about how we can reduce the pressure and create an environment where softness, relaxation and [...]

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1505, 2020

How to Lead Your Marriage to More Passion and Connection

By |May 15th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Do you ever worry that you could be "let go" from your job as husband at any moment? What would you do if that happened? What would you THINK? Do you sometimes have an "employee" mindset in your relationship? This is the main source of discomfort and insecurity for way too many men. If you look at the "position" of husband from the mindset of an employee you will adopt [...]

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1505, 2020

How to Create More Fun in Your Marriage

By |May 15th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Have you ever had that "not so fresh" feeling? I'm not referring to your hygiene. I'm talking about your overall mood, energy level and attitude. I'm talking about those times when you feel almost numb or FLAT. You're neither high nor low. You're stuck between first gear and reverse. The engine is running but you're not going anywhere. And you're concerned about that. This can happen at any time - [...]

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505, 2020

She Needs Space – Don’t React Like This!

By |May 5th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

The three words that make your neck hairs stand up and your gut tighten into nauseous knots are... "I need space!" I've talked a lot in videos about this issue, like here...and here. Those videos talk about what to think about her request for space and how to know whether it's really a request for divorce. This article is about the PRESSURE she feels and the distinction between the BAD [...]

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1904, 2020

Is Trust Causing The Disconnection In Your Marriage?

By |April 19th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Have you ever heard these phrases about TRUST? "In God We Trust...all others must bring cash." "I don't trust anyone unless they EARN IT!" "I trusted you and then you broke my heart!" When it comes to relationships we must decide if trust is a starting point or an end result. Is trust something you can give even when you're not sure it's "deserved"? Brené Brown quotes Charles Feltman, author [...]

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1404, 2020

My Wife Says “You need to work on yourself”

By |April 14th, 2020|Categories: Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

From 1999 to 2005 I owned and operated a Bed & Breakfast (and Horse Hotel) in the mountains of northern Colorado. Many of my guests were from a large Buddhist retreat center about a mile down the road. These were people seriously into "personal growth work" and many were repeat guests. They learned how to meditate, how to be mindful, how to be kind to themselves, how to witness their [...]

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1404, 2020

My Wife Loves The Dog More Than Me – Why?

By |April 14th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Have you ever uttered these words under your breath? "Look at her just kissing, rubbing and loving on that dog. He's getting more of her happy, affectionate attention than I've gotten in two months. " Maybe not those exact words, but I think you know what I'm talking about. If you've ever been in that cold, dark, barren "friend zone" with your wife you know what I mean. It's that [...]

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804, 2020

My Wife Doesn’t Want To Have Sex When I Am Upset

By |April 8th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

"Every time I try to express my emotions to my wife she shuts down. And I know it'll be about 2 weeks before we'll have sex again! What the hell is up with that?!" Take a deep breath. Every time I explain how a man's vulnerability can mess up his sex life someone ends up getting pissed off. He'll say something like: "Why can't she accept me and my emotions [...]

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604, 2020

How to Stop Being Anxious About Your Marriage Problems

By |April 6th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I was running through the woods the other day on my quest to lose a few of my wintry pounds. I like variety and can't do the same thing over and over again. So I thought I'd do some trail running in the woods behind the house. Apparently, you're supposed to look where you're going. I was looking down, preoccupied with not falling when a sneaky tree branch came out [...]

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3003, 2020

A Simple Way to Build Your Confidence Today

By |March 30th, 2020|Categories: Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I'm typing this article to you at 8:00pm on a Saturday night with a runny nose and annoying cough. I could be watching reruns of American Pickers on The History Channel. That's my normal "go to" couch potato TV indulgence when I'm sick. So why am I here sending this to you? Because I TOLD somebody I would! I knew early this morning I wanted to get this newsletter and [...]

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3003, 2020

Wife Always Has an Excuse Not to Have Sex

By |March 30th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

After over 340,000 views and over 1300 comments, this video of mine has apparently confused a few men. I want to clear up a few things and answer one of the most common comments. "How am I supposed to get a woman if I don't CHASE them?!"   I'll never ask you to stop your healthy pursuit of great relationships and sex with women...I'm asking you to stop the needy [...]

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103, 2020

Should I Still Fight to Save My Marriage?

By |March 1st, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Today's article is focused on a question that we get asked all the time: We're heading toward divorce, so at this stage, do I still fight to try and save the marriage? It’s been said there are no atheists in foxholes. This implies that under extremely stressful conditions, everyone starts looking to a higher power for help or guidance. Not everyone. When my marriage was turning horribly painful and stressful, [...]

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2702, 2020

My Wife is a Feminist and Thinks Masculinity is Toxic

By |February 27th, 2020|Categories: Communication, For Women, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Toxic masculinity...toxic masculinity...toxic masculinity! Did you get that queasy knot in your stomach yet? Is the hair on the back of you neck tingling just a bit? Most good men have a physical reaction to the phrase...at least a wince of discomfort when they hear it. And then what do they do? Some of them waste another few hours of their day lurking around the internet getting themselves all spun [...]

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2702, 2020

Why Does My Wife Struggle to Give Affection?

By |February 27th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Simple analogies are sometimes the most powerful way to get a point across. Sometimes a guy will hear something for the 100th time but THIS time it's said slightly differently and suddenly he gets it. A switch is flipped that can not be un-flipped for him. He can't un-see what he now sees as pure truth. And at this moment he feels empowered to change his thinking...which changes everything he's [...]

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2602, 2020

My Wife Said I’m Not a Strong Man

By |February 26th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Don't be afraid. This is actually going to help you...a lot. Remember, I write these articles and make my videos for a slightly younger version of me. The fact that you may relate to these topics is pure coincidence. I originally wrote this article as an email and the title was "When Did YOU Hand Over the James Bond Lipstick Tube of Whoop-Ass to Your Wife?" So when I suggest [...]

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2002, 2020

My Wife Just Said She’s Not Happy in Our Marriage – Help!

By |February 20th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

The #1 affliction most men have at the very start of marriage trouble is.... Anxiety (noun: A feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome.) Does that sound about right? Almost overnight we can go from "happy go lucky" to "holy crap my life is falling apart!" And because we're "fixers", we immediately look for something to fix it. But the [...]

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1002, 2020

Why Has My Wife Stopped Wanting Sex With Me?

By |February 10th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

The topic for today's article is one of the most common questions we get asked and one of the biggest sources of frustration for men in their marriage or long term relationship. Why doesn't she initiate intimacy? Why do I have to do everything to make this a relationship rather than just a platonic friendship? How can she be happy without an intimate connection? What can I do to change [...]

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2601, 2020

My Wife Says She Wants to Leave Me, What Should I Do?

By |January 26th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

The top four questions men ask upon learning their wife wants to leave are: What did I do to deserve this? Why didn't she tell me she was unhappy? How could she think breaking up the family is a good idea? Why won't she at least give me a chance to change? My first answer is always: It's Not All About You, Brother It's perfectly normal for you to think [...]

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2601, 2020

Why is My Wife so Cold and Distant?

By |January 26th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I'll just say it and get it over with. Women can be a lot like horses. It sounds innocent enough but I've gotten a lot of crap over comparing women to animals. It's a metaphor, for Pete's sake. (actually it's a simile for you grammar freaks) A woman once told me, "You guys are like dogs. A kind word, a good meal and rub on the belly every now and [...]

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2301, 2020

How to Re-attract Your Wife (the Truth Behind the Answers You’re Looking for)

By |January 23rd, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

I won't beat around the bush. I haven't been completely honest with you. I'll get right to it. Here are some of the little white lies I've been telling you: I can tell you how to save your marriage I can teach you how to get more sex - as much as you want I can help you make your wife happy I can show you how to make your [...]

  • Wife and husband avoiding talking
1801, 2020

Is Your Marriage Stuck in Limbo Land?

By |January 18th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

We run regular live coaching sessions with guys like you to just gather the men, answer questions and give each other some brotherly support. I ask that guys send questions in advance so Dan Dore and I can have some topics ready to address. The big topic last week was about "Limbo Land". It's that time in a man's marriage where he feels shaky, nervous and totally uncertain about where [...]

  • Wife arguing with husband
1201, 2020

My Wife Said I’m Controlling, What Do I Do Now?

By |January 12th, 2020|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Sometimes we get our best ideas at the most awkward times...like on the toilet. There I was, reading an old issue of Rolling Stones magazine and an interview with the late Glenn Frey of the band The Eagles. My favorite band of all time, by the way. Anyway, I read a quote he made during an interview and it gave me a flash of insight - an idea - and [...]

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2712, 2019

How Overreacting Reduces the Affection in Your Marriage

By |December 27th, 2019|Categories: Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I say this about 20 times a week. STAY IN YOUR LANE, BROTHER! I say it to men who are stumbling into negativity, dark thoughts and unnecessary conflict. But what does it mean? It means to stop driving into the drama created by others. It means to stop believing every bad day is a sign that something is wrong. And when things are going great, don't get caught up in [...]

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1212, 2019

Being More Confident and Masculine in Your Marriage

By |December 12th, 2019|Categories: Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Some days I can feel like a big fat wuss. You? You know those days of camping out too long on the couch...putting off a list of things you want to do but just can't find the energy. Sometimes our mojo (self-worth and self-confidence) just takes a major dive and leaves us feeling weak and insignificant. Most men can remember a time in their life when they felt pretty cocksure [...]

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1012, 2019

Wife Wants a Divorce? How to Stop the Crushing Fear and Loneliness

By |December 10th, 2019|Categories: Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

This week I decided to fly right toward Hurricane Florence and you'll never guess what happened. I almost didn't leave Colorado. The forecasts were dim. Negative Nellie's told me to cancel my trip. "You might get stuck on the east coast for days!", they said. So what did I do? I drove 2 hours to Denver International Airport and jumped on a plane flying straight for Hurricane Florence. Well, actually, [...]

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1012, 2019

How To Turn Your Unhappy Marriage Into a Happy One

By |December 10th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Some guys consistently create their own pain and they don't even know it. How's that, you say? I mean they manufacture drama, conflict and tension by trying to protect their ego's need to "be right". It's that insecure, indignant part of us who needs show other people the error of their ways. I came so close to doing this yesterday I almost jumped off the emotional cliff by pummeling a [...]

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3011, 2019

This Kills Your Confidence AND Your Wife’s Attraction

By |November 30th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I talked with a guy this week and he was explaining his frustration at the ridiculousness of just one of the recent arguments he and his wife have had - this one in particular was about which door he uses to enter the house! Do you ever find yourself in the middle of a stupid argument about stupid sh*t? I used to do this all the time. Why? Apparently because [...]

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2211, 2019

My Wife Doesn’t Love Me Anymore, What Can I Do?

By |November 22nd, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Wife no longer loves me The most common questions we get asked every day often sound very similar: What can I do when my wife has told me she needs space, that she feels smothered, that she's not sure what she feels for me anymore or that she feels numb? Most of us are knocked sideways when we hear her say these words and the surprise makes us panic and [...]

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1611, 2019

Turn Your Angry Wife Into a Purring Pussycat

By |November 16th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Turn your wife into a pussycat Since I don't have kids, I don't normally give much parenting advice. Although the "man skills" I teach are totally transferable to parenting nothing beats a great true story to illustrate a point. My buddy, Jeff, told me a story today about his unruly 15-year-old who went ballistic when Jeff took his phone away. I don't just mean ballistic. I mean all out warfare. [...]

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1511, 2019

How to Be a Naturally Confident and Attractive Man

By |November 15th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

How to be a confident man in a relationship The mountain lion speaks to me because he's the perfect metaphor for cool, calm, confident masculinity. And he achieves this not by DOING anything in particular...he just IS. This is what makes him so regal - so magnetic - so attractive. It's the mystery of his fierce energy and his quiet resolve. He's focused and engaged while detached and relaxed at [...]

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1511, 2019

Tips to Initiate Sex if Your Wife Wont Show Any Affection

By |November 15th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

This article may piss off a few people...but I don't care. Tough love is hard to swallow and I've had to swallow my fair share. When is the BEST time to ask a woman for sex? Answer: When you don't NEED it. The worst time to ask for a job, a loan, a date or sex is when you desperately think you NEED it. People smell this a mile away [...]

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1511, 2019

My Wife Says She Doesn’t Love Me Anymore, What Do I Do?

By |November 15th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Death by female. For most of the men in my community, that's the one shared pain. And that's what I usually say when people ask, "What the hell is it you do again?" I tell them there comes a time in the life of many (MANY!) good men when their world comes crashing down. And I help them transform themselves and their relationships when it happens. When you consider women initiate [...]

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1511, 2019

Why Doesn’t My Wife Want Sex With Me?

By |November 15th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I want to explain something critically important to you in as few words as possible. Short, sweet and directly to the point. It's an unconscious habit that negatively influences EVERY MAN'S sexual energy, attractiveness and, therefore, the quality of his sex life. What's the trait she can smell at the molecular level every time you do it? It's the constant churning of a hidden agenda to convince, persuade, manipulate or [...]

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1311, 2019

Become More Attractive to Your Wife By Stopping This One Thing

By |November 13th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

An everyday conversation with a wishy-washy person. You: Hey man, I have 3 tickets for the playoff game this Saturday at 1pm. I want you to take the 3rd ticket and come with Bill and I. I'm driving and can pick you up at 11am. It's going to be a blast. Do you want to join us? Wishy-Washy Friend: "Umm...yeah...that sounds pretty good...I think...umm thanks...I mean...that should probably work...I guess...lemme [...]

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1311, 2019

10 Signs Your Marriage is in Big Trouble

By |November 13th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I'm usually skeptical of "lists" that promise to give you the secret to anything. They lack depth and explanation and aren't immediately useful - just "click bait" to make you open the damn article. Not so with the list in this video. In fact, there's about 50 MINUTES of clear explanation with this list. Two weeks ago I promised to share an interview with a "rock star couples coach". I'm [...]

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1311, 2019

My Wife Doesn’t Want to Spend Time With Me, What Can I Do?

By |November 13th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

There's this unbelievable vacation spot I'm in love with. It's a sprawling Spanish style home, 7500 square feet, immaculate, stunning home perched on top of a mountain overlooking a village on the Pacific coast of Mexico. It's got a gourmet kitchen that comes with a private chef and daily maid service. The food is amazing, the weather is perfect and the people are so friendly. You can walk down the [...]

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1311, 2019

My Wife Said I’m Needy, How Can I Be More Confident?

By |November 13th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

How do you know if you're being too needy? You know...smothering, joined at the hip, invasive, pestering and insecure. I remember those days well. And how do you know if you're being too independent? You know...detached, selfish, distant, inattentive, dismissive, self-absorbed and asshole-ish. I remember those days well too. The problem is that it's EASY for us to fall into either of those modes if we're not awake and aware. [...]

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1311, 2019

My Wife Just Said She Wants A Divorce, What Now?

By |November 13th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Death by Female. That's the tongue-in-cheek phrase I've adopted to describe the type of man who tends to read my newsletters. Somehow, some way, somewhere along the way you've been made aware that things aren't right. She's not happy. She's doesn't talk to you or look at you like before. Her cold, dismissive and often disrespectful attitude toward you feels like a daily dagger in the gut. The new friends, [...]

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1011, 2019

Failing Marriage? How to Create a Better Relationship

By |November 10th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I had to learn this the hard way so I want to give you a head start... I had the best of intentions with regards to my marriage but yet when issues arose I struggled to find a solution to the problems. We focus so much, as men, on the result that we want. More affection, less arguing, more connection, less distance... It's easy to find faults when a relationship [...]

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1011, 2019

The Kind Of Man Who Can Save His Marriage From Divorce

By |November 10th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I was at a men's seminar a few years ago with Alex Allman and Sean Stephenson. These are two very confident masculine men. Alex looks like a typical 6 foot, handsome, ladies man. Sean is about 3 feet tall and is confined to a wheel chair with brittle bone disease he's had since birth. There was a guy in the audience who was getting frustrated and asked the question that [...]

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1011, 2019

How To Be More Confident in a Relationship

By |November 10th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Do you want an instant boost to your mojo? I'm talking about a sudden shift in your happiness, sense of purpose and connection with others. It's an blinding flash of calmness and an instantaneous increase in your well being. I do an exercise during my retreats called The Energy Audit. It's a very simple exercise, which involves identifying all the DRAINING, negative, counter-productive B.S. in your life. It's the people, [...]

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1107, 2019

How To Know Whether to Fix Your Marriage or Leave it

By |July 11th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Over a beer the other day a frustrated man asked me, "How can anyone know if the grass is going to be any greener on the other side?!" He said, "I mean, really, I see just as many guys leaving marriages and being miserable as I see guys staying and being miserable. How do you decide?" I told him, "It depends on whether you go to the other side as [...]

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1706, 2019

How to Create an Intimate Connection with Your Wife – by Dan Dore

By |June 17th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I want to talk to you about something that's very close to my heart. It's something that has affected every area of my life in a positive way. In particular it has benefited my relationship with my wife and 3 kids enormously. It brought me back from a place of fear and insecurity and reminded me who I really was. I wanted to make this article for those of you [...]

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1106, 2019

The Counter-Intuitive Way to Become More Attractive to Your Wife

By |June 11th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

A client once told me a story about his new girlfriend that made me laugh out loud. It was a Wednesday evening around 5:30pm. She was sitting on his couch and getting hungry. She said, "What do you want to get to eat tonight?" He said, "Tonight's my men's group night. I mentioned it earlier. I'll be eating at the restaurant. I need to leave in a few minutes." "Oh", [...]

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2805, 2019

My Wife Doesn’t Respect Me, What Should I do?

By |May 28th, 2019|Categories: Marriage|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

About 3 years ago I was sitting in a private room in a brew pub with my local men's group having our regular "Men, Marriage and Sex" meeting. As the meeting started we were laughing about something stupid someone said and just then the waitress came in to take beer orders. She (jokingly?) said, "What is this? A he-man woman haters club?" We laughed and didn't even try to give [...]

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2505, 2019

How to Make Your Wife Respect You

By |May 25th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

It's midnight. It's raining. You stopped by the grocery store to get stuff you really need and you're in a hurry to get home. Just as you throw the last bag in the car you turn to look at the empty shopping cart. What do you do next? Nobody's watching. Nobody will know. You can shove it into the space next to you and take off or you can beach [...]

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1905, 2019

How We Help You to Save Your Marriage

By |May 19th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

When men first reach out for help they are almost always feeling immense fear and pain...and they want to FIX that fear and pain right now! All of the sudden your reality has changed and you don't like it. You thought that the story was going to go one way and now it has made a terrible turn. She wants space. She wants freedom. She wants to feel connection. She [...]

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1605, 2019

Unhappy Marriage, Is this Why Your Wife is Not Attracted to You?

By |May 16th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Has your woman ever complained about you being undependable or wishy-washy? Do you ever feel like you're stuck and just can't follow through on things? Do you ever feel like other men are more confident than you and get more done? I want to talk about being a WISHY-WASHY MAN. They are more common than you think. I was one - and still am sometimes. The key traits of a [...]

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805, 2019

I Hate My Wife, How do I Create a Passionate Marriage Again?

By |May 8th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Do you ever let your thoughts of your "future relationship" piss you off in the present moment? Do you ever project negative thoughts on your lady and then get grumpy and mean just thinking about negative stuff? Do you fear things not working out tomorrow so much that you've become an agitated asshole today? That's what this woman I met had decided SHE was doing. Here's the quick story. "Joanna" [...]

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3004, 2019

Unattractive Neediness – What to Do if Your Wife Calls You Needy

By |April 30th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Warning: This article might sting. I wrote it as if I was writing it to a slightly younger version of myself. This comes from my past. If you relate to what I'm about to tell you and it turns out you're a little needy, I assure you that there is a brighter future ahead. Here are some of the most aggravating things a man can hear from a woman. "You're [...]

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2104, 2019

My Wife Said She Wants Space

By |April 21st, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

The three words that make your neck hairs stand up and your gut tighten into nauseous knots are... "I need space!" I've talked a lot in videos about this issue, like here...and here. Those videos talk about what to think about her request for space and how to know whether it's really a request for divorce. This article is about the PRESSURE she feels and the distinction between the BAD [...]

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3003, 2019

How Your Silence May Be Creating Your Detached Wife

By |March 30th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

I've talked a lot lately about anger and how badly it can screw up your relationship. You know by now that a pissy, angry guy is doomed to create a pissy, angry life everywhere he goes. Women aren't attracted to him. Kids are afraid of him. And dogs don't trust him. But forget about them for a minute. Think about what pissy anger does to you. I know, it's not [...]

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2403, 2019

My Wife Never Initiates Affection

By |March 24th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

One way to get unconditional love and affection and to be given god-like status is to pay for it. There are women who make a very good living of it. They will forgive you all of your misgivings, ignore all of your bad habits and will give you everything you want without argument or hesitation. And, hey, I don't judge you if you go that route. Another way to get [...]

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1403, 2019

How Do I Save My Marriage? and Why it’s the Wrong Question to Ask

By |March 14th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

There's a "chicken and the egg" situation I want to address right here...right now. And this is crucial to HOW YOU THINK about getting what you want in life and relationships. How you think about everything is the only control you have and all you will ever need. Why? Because the moment you change the way you think about the things happening in your life...those very things will start changing [...]

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2602, 2019

The Path From Feeling Anxious and Frustrated to a Calmer, Sexier Man

By |February 26th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Here's one fact I know about a man's sex life. If he spends much time feeling anxious, agitated, irritated, overwhelmed or angry...he isn't having much sex. Why? Simple. When we're feeling those emotions we're just not very sexy men. I know what you're thinking. Sometimes sex is the BEST remedy for those ailments. I agree! But if your mood is really shitty at the moment, self remedy is probably the [...]

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2202, 2019

No Sex Marriage? Become a Husband With His Confident Swagger Back

By |February 22nd, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

My passion for helping men never gets boring. Every single guy...every single woman...and every single situation is unique. That's why "blanket advice" for any given problem is a problem. Most of the time the solution or response DEPENDS on very nuanced details. Still clients call me and email me with urgent questions for some "quick advice". Yes, there are a few tried and true tips that apply to almost all [...]

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2102, 2019

How to Handle a Disrespectful, Critical Wife

By |February 21st, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Who do you call when a woman has said or done something that totally pisses you off? You know...those times when she makes a comment or a judgment about you that feels like a knife in the gut. It's that accusation or "joking" criticism, which has a poison tip. And that poison causes your nostrils to flare with anger...ready to defend yourself or return hostile fire. What's really going on [...]

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1602, 2019

How to BE More Masculine and Create the Relationship You Want

By |February 16th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Has this kind of mind boggling conversation ever happened to you? “Hey, I’ve got a question.” “What is it?” “The other day I was driving down that road behind the lake and HUGE mountain lion ran right in front of me! He was beautiful, but scary, because he stopped on the side of the road and looked me right in the eye. Gave me chills. I read that a mountain [...]

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1202, 2019

Are You Making This Common Relationship Mistake?

By |February 12th, 2019|Categories: Divorce, Marriage, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

There's something I want to share with you in this article... I'm seeing a lot of men falling into a huge trap. This can be a trap if you're married, in an exclusive relationship...or even if you're single. Having a girlfriend can be a HEALTHY decision or it can be a messy, emotional cry for help. You can make her the delicious icing on your cake. Or you can make [...]

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102, 2019

Are You Headed for Divorce? Do You Recognize These Symptoms?

By |February 1st, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

John Gottman's research states that this relationship behavior is the #1 predictor of divorce. I’m taking his research and translating it into easy-to-understand language with easy to implement actions for you. John uses the term “The Four Horseman of the Apocalypse” which are FOUR BEHAVIORS that he says predict divorce with about 90% accuracy. So if these things show up consistently in your relationship, you can bet things won’t be [...]

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2601, 2019

How To Handle Silent Treatment in a Long Distance Relationship?

By |January 26th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Why doesn't anyone want to talk about this subtle, sneaky cause of divorce? Because they are STONEWALLING! This is the 3rd predictor of divorce and one of the hardest to fix. Why?? Because we're too busy playing games with stonewalling, sometimes referred to as "The Silent Treatment." This newsletter and video are a continuation of my 4-part series relating to marriage research by a guy named John Gottman. He bases everything [...]

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2001, 2019

Re-attracting Your Wife 101 – Stop Being so Defensive

By |January 20th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

This article is a continuation of my 4-part series based on John Gottman's research on what makes relationships last and marriages survive and thrive. I wanted to put his research into easy-to-understand language and easy to implement actions for you (and me). He named them "The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse". These are the FOUR BEHAVIORS that can predict divorce with about 90% accuracy. In other words, if these things show up [...]

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1701, 2019

How To Avoid Divorce And Save Your Marriage?

By |January 17th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

There's this guy named John Gottman who does a ton of research on marriage. He's kind of a big deal because of all the detailed analyses he's done on what makes relationships last and marriages survive...or crash and burn. In my next 4 videos, I'm putting his research into easy-to-understand language and easy to implement actions to stop the madness! He came up with the term "The Four Horseman of [...]

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1201, 2019

How To Deal With Angry Wife or Partner

By |January 12th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I used to think there was nothing scarier or more unpleasant than an angry woman. I grew up with the belief that "If Momma Ain't Happy, then Nobody Will be Happy". Later in life that turned into a belief in the "Happy Wife, Happy Life" load of B.S. I'm smarter now. The school of hard knocks was a bitch, but a necessary phase of my growth. Here's what I want [...]

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501, 2019

How to Reignite the Attraction When Your Wife Says its Gone

By |January 5th, 2019|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

The most frequent question I get from clients trying to resuscitate intimacy in their relationship is: "When is She Going to Want Sex With Me Again?!" And my answer is always the same. "I don't know...and neither does she." The next question is, "Well, I know she doesn't want sex right now, but I don't know if she even WANTS to want sex with me. How can I tell if [...]

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3012, 2018

What to Do if You Think Your Wife is Leaving You

By |December 30th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

The thoughts that go through your mind sound something like this: "This sucks. Why is this happening? Why didn't she say something? What a loser I must be! This is going to be so horrible for everyone. I hate that this is happening. This just may kill me." Here's the truth. Those are just thoughts. And...yes, thoughts can destroy you if you let them. In fact, everything you feel and [...]

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2112, 2018

Why Your Wife is Not Interested in Sex and Affection

By |December 21st, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

There's a woo-woo Buddhist rule (The Second Noble Truth as they call it) that says: All Suffering is the Result of Desire for Pleasure, Material Goods, and Immortality. What the hell does that mean? And what are you supposed to do with this information? I'll break it down for you in plain language any guy can understand. At the end of the day our suffering is all about desiring something [...]

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1412, 2018

How to Be a Confident Man When Your Marriage is Heading for Divorce

By |December 14th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Have you ever been driving along on a snow packed road in total control of your car...dashboard drumming to the radio...and all of the sudden...the car starts sliding out of control! It's the same feeling when you're leaning back in a chair in school and for a split second you feel like you're falling backwards. Your stomach gets knotted and all of your survival mechanisms kick in. Your heart rate [...]

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812, 2018

Make Your Wife Want More Sex With You With This Vulcan Mind Trick

By |December 8th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I know...outrageous article title, right? On one hand, yeah, I want to get your attention. On the other hand, this is not a load of crap. I know a secret that sabotages sex lives around the world...including yours and mine. And in this video I'm going to clearly explain what it is. Then I'm going to tell you why it happens, what you must stop doing today and start doing [...]

2911, 2018

How to BE More Confident and Attractive to Your Wife

By |November 29th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I read something really funny the other day. A man was asked, "What do you think the THREE most important aspects are in a good sex life?" His answer? The proper length/girth ratio Being able to last a minimum of 30 minutes Is there a number 3?   This is funny because it's not far from the truth in how many of us have traditionally measured sexual success and prowess. [...]

2611, 2018

Attracting Your Wife Back – How You Handle Difficult Conversations

By |November 26th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Stupid arguments will kill your mojo and your relationship - it's a fact. One thing I became good at during 28 years of marriage was arguing badly. I have a PhD in things that don't work. They say Thomas Edison once claimed, "I never had an experiment fail. I know 10,000 things that don't work!" I wish I could be so glib about all of my failed experiments when it [...]

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1511, 2018

How to Cope With Separated Wife Sending Mixed Signals

By |November 15th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I often say that one of the biggest factors leading to divorce is a man's FEAR of divorce. Why? Because when we're scared of anything we tend to screw things up. With the exception of your life saving instincts on the freeway or when threatened with physical harm, operating from fear usually has a bad outcome. When it comes to the gut wrenching, anxiety ridden fears of losing your relationship, [...]

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1111, 2018

Why Your Wife Says You’re Needy and Withholds Sex

By |November 11th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Is your wife complaining of your neediness? Has she asked for space or said she feels smothered? I talk a lot about women's intuition and their ability to FEEL the intentions of men, especially their romantic partners. In a long term relationship, this ability is even more fine-tuned. And when the relationship is starting to struggle, they can actually begin to feel male neediness in almost everything we say and [...]

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411, 2018

How Talking to Other Men Can Make You More Attractive to Your Wife (and Other Women)

By |November 4th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

I recently took a trip back east to my old stomping grounds to spend time with two very good, old friends. We stayed on my buddy's huge boat near Ocean City, MD. It was to be a "boys weekend" just to relax and chill. We spent the first night staying up drinking, playing guitar, telling stories and laughing until the sun came up (thanks 5-hour Energy). The next days were [...]

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1510, 2018

My Wife Doesn’t Trust Me – Are You Causing Her to be Distant?

By |October 15th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

"She says she doesn't trust me anymore." "She won't even talk to me about why she's so mad." "She doesn't believe I'm ever going to change." These are some of the most common things guys tell me when intimacy and sex are disappearing in their relationship. They want to know why it's happening. What is she thinking? How do I FIX this. The first part of understanding where you are [...]

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710, 2018

The Quickest Way to Being a More Confident Man

By |October 7th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

There's a bond that is like no other when two men commit to helping each other, without hiding anything, without holding anything back. When a man first contacts us he often doesn't have a certain type of man in his life... A man he can depend on A man he can trust Someone who sees his qualities AND his weaknesses Someone who isn't scared to tell him something he doesn't [...]

3009, 2018

This Habit Makes You Awkward Around Your Wife and Kills Your Sex Life

By |September 30th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

There this thing I do every now and then that sucks the wind out of my sails quicker than...(insert your own metaphor here). I have a feeling you might do this sometimes too. It's a crippling habit that fills a man with doubt, uncertainty and indecision. It creates a general mindset of inadequacy and sometimes-even ENVY. What's the habit? COMPARING YOURSELF AND YOUR SITUATION TO OTHER PEOPLE! Sometimes I compare [...]

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2309, 2018

Why Being Vulnerable with Your Wife is Sexy (and How it Can also Turn Her Off)

By |September 23rd, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

This might get a little messy. I know how it feels to be judged or criticized for how "manly" I'm being. This isn't meant to judge or criticize. It's inside information - secret insight into the world of women and how they process masculine vulnerability and sensitivity. I'm not saying this is the way it SHOULD be. But as of now - this is a reality you need to be [...]

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1209, 2018

Sexless Marriage? How to Become Attractive to Your Wife Again

By |September 12th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

I talked to a man today whose wife has been detached, disinterested, dismissive and disrespectful. She wants her space and independence and has pretty much designed a life of her own including weekends and vacations. She thinks he should find his own life too and learn to be happy. He said he wanted to stop reacting so badly and learn to respond better to this new dynamic she's created. "What's [...]

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2608, 2018

How to Get Instant Relief from Horniness

By |August 26th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

Instant relief from horniness, huh? Trust me. I'm an expert on this. And I've only recently started to figure this out late in life. It's not just relief from horniness, though. It's about relief from any type of feeling you can categorize as general disappointment. This might include anger, resentment or frustration. But let's stay with horniness for now. The worst part of feeling horny is the prospect that you're [...]

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1308, 2018

How to Respond to Your Wife’s Criticizing as a Powerful, Confident Man

By |August 13th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

I'll make this short and sweet. Stop arguing about stupid shit. Yep. That's pretty much it. I hear about stupid arguments and heavy conversations all the time. They are usually over the most ridiculous crap that somebody (you know who) has escalated into a grand jury trial. It's not your fault that she is launching the silly attack, but it is your fault that you take the bait. I know [...]

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308, 2018

The Simple Question To Get What You Want In Your Marriage

By |August 3rd, 2018|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

It takes only ONE question to get what you want. Whether it's a better job, more money, a date with a pretty woman, or more sex...there is ONE question separating you from what you want. It's the question you haven't asked yet. Yeah, that's it. You don't get 100% of the things you never ask for. Yes, HOW you ask is important. But it's not nearly as important as just [...]

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907, 2018

More Sex and Affection – How to Help Your Wife Feel Sexy Again

By |July 9th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

Have you ever tried to initiate sex and heard one of these replies? "Maybe later...we'll see." "I'm so tired." "I don't know." or, "I've got so much to do." Did you notice that none of those comments is a solid "No"? Yet, most guys I talk to take them personally and chalk them up as flat out rejection. They immediately feel resentful and defeated. And then come the sabotaging thoughts. [...]

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507, 2018

Is My Wife Having an Affair? What Should I Do Now??

By |July 5th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

Your gut tells you that something is up. You feel a constant nausea caused by the twisted, aching knot in your stomach telling you to be fearful and suspicious. You feel betrayed - at least deceived. You don't know whether to confront her with indignant anger or to curl up in a corner and slowly die. A little dramatic some might say? Not if you've been there. It's hell on [...]

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2406, 2018

My Wife Just Told Me It’s Over, What Can I Do?

By |June 24th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

One day my life changed in an instant. It was a shocking realization that everything I thought was true about my myself, my wife and my marriage was wrong. It was the paralyzing reality that I had absolutely no control in stopping the avalanche of fear, rejection and uncertainty that was about to wipe me off the face of the planet. Do you know this feeling? It sounds like: I'm [...]

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1906, 2018

Wife Said She Needs Space To Find Herself, What Should You Do?

By |June 19th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

Do you have drama in your life? Drama is the #1 killer of a man's freedom, peace and happiness. For the purpose of this letter I offer you a definition. DRAMA = Any external force of negativity, unrest, emotional projection or demands on your time or attention that you did not invite into your life. Many men feel victimized by drama. They believe they have no choice but to accept [...]

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1806, 2018

If You Knew How To Make Your Wife More Affectionate…Would You Do It?

By |June 18th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

You might not be a Spiderman fan - but it doesn't matter. When Ben Parker was talking to his nephew Peter Parker he said, "…your father lived by a philosophy, a principle, really. He believed that if you could do good things for other people, you had a moral obligation to do those things! That’s what’s at stake here. Not choice. Responsibility.” If you had a "Super Power" what would [...]

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1706, 2018

How to Create More Trust, Connection and Affection in Your Marriage

By |June 17th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

The other day I told you that I would create a video about the mistakes we make when trying to connect (or RE-connect) with a woman. This advice applies to a struggling marriage situation or a first date. These mistakes are the most common areas of improvement I address with men who are frustrated with the reactions they are getting in their marriage OR dating. In this video, I explain [...]

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706, 2018

Save My Marriage – Why Your Wife Is Pulling Away From You

By |June 7th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

I remember how alone I felt when I heard the words. "I just don't feel in love or attracted to you anymore. I'm not sure we ever had that kind of connection." It was like I was the only man in the world going through it and nobody else had ever felt this kind of pain and confusion. Nobody could possibly understand the level of desperation and anguish that comes [...]

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206, 2018

The Conversation You’re Avoiding That Can Help Save Your Marriage

By |June 2nd, 2018|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

In a recent email I mentioned having witnessed 90 year old men in nursing homes sitting in wheelchairs and pissing their pants. With a sour scowl on their face they watch the old ladies congregate, connect and laugh with each. They're angry, disconnected and isolated. I also know a lot of men in their 30's, 40's, 50's and 60's doing the same thing. I was afraid it might happen to [...]

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1305, 2018

How to Tell if Your Wife Wants Space or a Divorce

By |May 13th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Divorce, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

How do you tell the difference between a normal request to get some downtime alone and something more serious? How can you know if she is just tired or if she's quietly putting her ducks in a row and plotting her departure from the relationship? I address those questions in the video below, so you're going to have to watch my ugly mug for the answers. You need to respond [...]

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605, 2018

The Uncomfortable Truth to Getting What You Really Want in Your Marriage

By |May 6th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

One of my favorite fiction books is The Art of Racing in the Rain, by Garth Stein. I lost count of how many times this book made my eyeballs swell up...pushing back tears. It's about car racing, risk, love, cancer, death, dogs...life. Here's one of many classic quotes from the book. "There is no dishonor in losing the race. There is only dishonor in not racing because you are afraid [...]

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505, 2018

The Secret to Building a Marriage With More Intimacy and Affection

By |May 5th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

There's a common mistake many of the men we coach make without even realizing it. I speak from experience - I used to make this mistake with my wife for many years. This article and video explains what that mistake is and how to stop doing it. What is the Big Mistake Men Make? Questions. Constant questions. These aren't normal questions like, "How was your day?" or "How is your [...]

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2804, 2018

How to BE a Confident, Powerful Man in Your Marriage

By |April 28th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

I want to share some quotes I heard from men this week: "It all became clear for me today, like a switch just flipped. It's unbelievable. I realize what I need to do now." "I finally see the futility in trying to control how she responds to me. My power is in how I respond to her and everything else." That's beautiful! So far this week I've had two more [...]

  • The importance of sensuous touch in a committed long term relationship
2004, 2018

Why Your Wife Won’t Touch You The Way You Want To Be Touched

By |April 20th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

There's something a woman can do with her finger that can send a man right to heaven. It may not be what you're thinking right now. It's better. You know it and I know it. And women will think I'm a liar. You know that feeling when a woman spontaneously strokes the back of your neck? Then she slowly carves out a pattern on the back of your head...gently scratching [...]

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1204, 2018

The Kind Of Confidence That Your Wife Is Attracted To

By |April 12th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

Every other week I get together with a bunch of amazing guys in Fort Collins, CO. It's our "Men, Marriage and Sex" Meetup group. Recently we were talking about the difference between healthy self-confidence, arrogance and plain old assholism. (It's like a disease) I threw out the notion that healthy confidence in a man is where he consciously cares about what others think, feel, fear and dream...but he doesn't give [...]

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504, 2018

How to Create More Affection, More Touch and More Sex in Your Marriage

By |April 5th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

I believe how well we push our sexual edge is a direct reflection of how well we are living our life. What's a sexual edge? It's that part of our sensual and sexual nature where we feel the most alive, driven and creative. We know we're on the edge when we feel inspired - not anxious. We're pulsing with intense desire and ambition. We feel focused and directed with no [...]

  • Why your wife won't give you sex
3103, 2018

Why Chasing Sex ALWAYS Gets Less Sex

By |March 31st, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

Why a woman cannot respect a man who proves that he cannot respect himself. Here's a story that might be a little uncomfortable to read. It's about a guy I met 4 years ago who was banging his head against the wall in his marriage. His wife had totally pulled away from him and his sex life was non-existent. More and more frequently she was being dismissive and disrespectful toward [...]

2503, 2018

Why Your Wife Won’t Do What You Want Her To

By |March 25th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

I'll never forget the words of a ruddy old horse trainer and the look on his client's face when he heard them. The client's horse wouldn't lope. That's like a canter in English riding. It's the next higher gear right after the trot. Well, this guy's horse would NOT lope. He tried for years to get her to lope. He would plead, kick, yell, make kissing noises and meditate on [...]

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1903, 2018

Why Caring Less Attracts Your Wife Toward You

By |March 19th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

In any committed relationship, a person might hear the request to "Step Up" from their partner. The request normally comes from someone who has become frustrated and has some unmet expectations of you. I think it is much healthier to decide exactly what YOUR expectations of you are before chasing someone else's. This is what I call "Stepping Up" on YOUR terms. My work with married men reveals a lot [...]

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1503, 2018

The Key to Being the Husband Your Wife Wants in Her Bed

By |March 15th, 2018|Categories: Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

While we can't always be fairy tale heroes from a Disney movie - expecting the best from ourselves WILL lead to more fulfilling marriages. The Good Men Project ran an article called 5 Ways Disney Films Are Bad For Men. I admire all of Aaron Anderson's work, but found myself saying, "yes, but…" while I read it. Based on my experience as a relationship coach for men, this is what [...]

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1003, 2018

Do You Think You Married The Wrong Person?

By |March 10th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

If you've clicked because of the title, that might mean the thought has crossed your mind at least once during your relationship. Don't worry - you're not alone. This "dirty little secret" isn't really that big of a secret. Our minds can go there easily - especially if there has been a frequent pattern of bad feelings, disrespect, disconnection, resentment, and waning intimacy. I suggest taking a big, deep breath. [...]

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303, 2018

How to Build Trust and Affection in Your Marriage

By |March 3rd, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

I want to give you one golden piece of advice today. It's a top secret tip to make your week go much better. How do I know this? Because my clients tell me over and over how EASY it is to totally change the dynamic in their relationship with their wife or girlfriend when they follow my advice. Just ONE simple shift. Something any man can do but most never [...]

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203, 2018

The Ultimate Power Tool To Fix Your Marriage

By |March 2nd, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

If you have been in a relationship that started going sour, you may have blamed the lack of loving feelings or you may have blamed the lack of good sex. Some people think the loving words and behavior die first, then following close behind is the sex. Other people think the sex dried up; therefore, the loving feelings did too. The truth? Neither the lack of love nor the lack [...]

  • A calm man is a sexy man
2402, 2018

Kick-Start The Passion in Your Sexless Marriage

By |February 24th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

When conflict and sexual frustration have developed in a relationship, there has been a long history of unhappy feelings and bad behaviour from both people. Your partner knows all about the negative energy you have both created. While she is feeling unhappy and emotionally exhausted, she also knows how she has come-up short in how she has been treating you too. When a woman feels like this, it's impossible for [...]

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2302, 2018

Using the Pain of a Possible Divorce to Save Your Life

By |February 23rd, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

As I tell clients who are struggling near the end of a relationship, I don't save your relationship - I help save you so you can either save it yourself or happily move on. The pain of the emerging end of your relationship feels like a twisted knot in your stomach. It's a dull ache that makes you lose interest in eating, drinking, or smiling. The taut, throbbing, swollen feeling [...]

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1802, 2018

How Can A Broken Marriage Be Repaired?

By |February 18th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

It's been said there are no atheists in foxholes. This implies that under extremely stressful conditions, everyone starts looking to a higher power for help or guidance. Not everyone. When my marriage was turning horribly painful and stressful, I sure wasn't looking toward religion or any type of spiritual connection for help. I was too busy trying to fix things. I didn't need any stinkin' "spiritual help". I was using [...]

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1002, 2018

Living the Life and Relationship You Really Want

By |February 10th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

I want to talk with you about living in the kind of life and relationship you really, really want. I didn't say "getting" the life you want or "having" the life you want. What if you just DECIDED to start living the life you want right this moment? What kind of man would you have to BE in order to make that choice? We seek permission - acceptance - reciprocation [...]

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902, 2018

Trying to Make Your Wife Happy Won’t Get You What You Want

By |February 9th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

If you're focusing on her, you're looking in the wrong direction. I get to collect a lot of data from frustrated married men. These are the guys who "never communicate their thoughts and feelings". Actually, they do. The floodgates open when they are in a place of safety and trust. Unfortunately, their marriage is missing both. They share their deepest secrets with me and I've memorized their painful comments. Have [...]

  • How to save your marriage
402, 2018

How to BE the Happy, Confident Man She Fell In Love With

By |February 4th, 2018|Categories: Marriage|

My passion for helping men never gets boring. Every single guy...every single woman...and every single situation is unique. That's why "blanket advice" for any given problem is a problem. Most of the time the solution or response DEPENDS on very nuanced details. Still clients call me and email me with urgent questions for some "quick advice". Yes, there are a few tried and true tips that apply to almost all [...]

  • Emotional husband and wife
202, 2018

The Unconventional Way to Heal Your Marriage

By |February 2nd, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

Saving a marriage often requires you kill it first. It's like a doctor having to re-break a leg bone that tried to heal itself despite being infected and badly out of alignment. The only option is to break it again and allow it to heal from a healthier starting point. John and Jane decided their marriage would never heal as it was. They had waited too long. A festering infection [...]

  • How your wife knows what you think about her
102, 2018

The Secret to Showing Her it’s Safe to Come Back to Your Marriage

By |February 1st, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

What does your wife know that YOU know? Find out how this powerful concept builds trust and safety for her. The crowd laughed nervously as they watched a demonstration that would likely end in death. One of the world's most revered and accomplished horse communicators (aka Horse Whisperer), Marty Marten, was showing them how to get a young, frightened, aggressive mare into a trailer. It was a narrow, two-horse, straight [...]

  • Happy husband and happy wife
2701, 2018

How To Save Your Relationship And Become The Man You Want To Be

By |January 27th, 2018|Categories: Marriage|

The critical difference between reacting to your environment and shaping it - picking the wrong one almost never has a happy ending. This is not a scientific discussion so don't expect a lot of mumbo-jumbo about Darwin and "survival of the fittest" stuff. I have only one point to make and it's a warning about your future. Yes, I can predict it with stunning accuracy. How? I've got good data. [...]

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2001, 2018

How To Make Your Sexless Marriage Fun And Flirty Again

By |January 20th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

I need to make this quick – for personal reasons. You see, I’ve had my face in this computer for days now. I’ve been on the phone, I’ve been traveling, I’ve been making videos...and I’m working on a new group coaching program to help you with your confidence in your reltionships (find out more about that here) And I’ve become one boring ass guy in the process. I’m feeling a [...]

  • Preparing for a divorce can make you attractive again
1301, 2018

My Wife Doesn’t Love Me – How Can I Fix This?

By |January 13th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

Tim asked Jess for the fourth time in the last four days. "What's the matter?" "Why won't you talk to me about it?" "Why are you being so mean?" "Why aren't you attracted to me?" "You just don't love me anymore, do you?" All she could say was, "Yes, I love you, Tim... I just don't feel 'in love' with you anymore." Tim was stunned and speechless. That's when I [...]

  • Wife ignoring desperate husband
501, 2018

Stop Her Criticising You And Lead Her To The Relationship YOU Want

By |January 5th, 2018|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

Tim's wife was on a rampage the whole weekend. Nothing pleased her and there was nothing he could do right in her eyes. She criticized everything he said and insulted his intelligence and his manhood multiple times. When he finally told her to knock it off or prepare to spend the weekend alone, she said, "Look, if you can't take me at my worst you don't deserve me at my [...]

  • My wife no longer wants to have sex or be intimate with me
3112, 2017

Wife Doesn’t Feel Sexy Or Want Affection Anymore

By |December 31st, 2017|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

The Conversation I Have 100 Times a Year Steve: So what's been going on? Client: It's more like what's NOT going on. She says she not feeling sexy anymore and doesn't really need affection, romance or sex. It kind of turns her off. She's happy - thrilled even - relating with the kids, friends, the dog and her yoga…just not me. She says this is normal for people our age. [...]

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2912, 2017

Fed-Up Being an Unhappy Husband?

By |December 29th, 2017|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

The common hidden agenda afflicting many good guys who wind up as unhappy husbands. Every chronically unhappy husband I work with is battling a very common affliction. It's his mindset. The way he thinks about his role and his life as a married man is in need of what I call a "mojo makeover". And until he decides to buckle down and focus on changing his self-sabotaging thoughts he will [...]

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2212, 2017

How You Create Your Emotionally Distant Wife

By |December 22nd, 2017|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

Have you ever heard yourself saying things like: "Why can't she just see how irrational she is being?" "Why won't she just tell me exactly what she wants?" "She has no clue how hurtful she is being - how could she do that to me?" "Why can't she love me the way I think she should love me!" These statements are pretty good indicators that you're making a common mistake [...]

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2112, 2017

Trapped In a Sexless Marriage, What Can You Do?

By |December 21st, 2017|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

Why freedom isn't something you have to ask for. Married men often complain to me about feeling chained up and stuck in a cell closely guarded by their wife. She is the gatekeeper of peace, harmony, happiness, kindness, affection and sex. They have bought into the myth: "If momma ain't happy then nobody's happy!" This is a mindset that creates despair and paralysis. It leads to chronic unhappiness and resentment. [...]

  • Married couple arguing
1612, 2017

What to Do When Your Wife is Always Angry With You

By |December 16th, 2017|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

I want to talk about psychology at a very basic level. Just getting a clear picture of WHY we do the silly, stupid things we do when we're afraid should be enough to help you make a shift as soon as today. Have you ever tried to hit a golf ball toward the green with a 10 acre pond immediately to your right? Yeah. It makes you nervous. It makes [...]

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1412, 2017

How to Attract Your Unhappy Wife Back Into Love With You

By |December 14th, 2017|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

"Her wedding ring stares at me each morning from its new place on the bathroom counter. She's a ghost of her former self and glides through the house still taking care of business Sometimes I hear her laugh on the phone talking to someone about something. She has developed interests in anything that isn't me. Romance and sex are long gone and she claims she has lost all interest in [...]

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812, 2017

Marriage Counseling – How to Make It Work for You

By |December 8th, 2017|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships|

There's a common pitfall many men plunge into when they go to marriage counseling. I see many of my clients making this mistake without even knowing it. And when counseling seems to fail them, they blame the counselor or their wife. My counselor friends tell me there's not much they can do to help. There's an underlying problem that keeps many men confused and frustrated. It's a mindset problem - [...]

  • Lying back to back facing away from each other
112, 2017

Is Your Wife Withholding Sex From You?

By |December 1st, 2017|Categories: Communication, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sex|

What options do you have in the prison of a sexless marriage? Have you ever felt like your sex life has been stolen? Do you believe that women are the gate keepers of your sexuality? Are you concerned that your masculine sensuality will never be honestly expressed until you get the permission and approval from your partner? Many men answer "yes" to those questions. I used to believe the answers [...]